Does your happiness depend on others?
Not necessarily my bf makes me really happy and I like working and im saving so i can get a car first and then im gonna start saving to go to school. So apart of what makes me happy is my future. I'm happy when i go to church and i get to worship but that's a given and that calms me down and helps me to not feel overwhelmed. But yeah those are the things that make me happy and excited.
Should our happiness depend on the behavior of others?
Happiness is both an inner aspect, and how others affect, and reflect, happiness back to you.No person is completely invulnerable to the opinions and acts of others. A good perspective would then be, to surround yourself with those that naturally increase your happiness by their way of being, and detach as much as possible from those that diminish it.This is therefore something you can manage, albeit indirectly.
My happiness always depends on others' happiness. How can I get rid of this?
First of all your dependency on others feeling is a result of your own nature. The root problem of you is that you let your feeling depend on others , and they might be your loved ones also. But, when we look closely it makes you weaker from inside because as the emotions of people change they affect you as well and sometimes there action may hurt you as well. If you are expecting a super formula then there is no such thing here. In life things like these can be only learnt by practicing . It's easy for some people and for some it's not . But, by trying you can somehow do that. Here are some of the things might help you to do so .Firstly try to reduce being in contact with person. This might look easy but , its gonno take time and it will not happen in a moment , and sometimes it might take more than you expect and intially you might not ever see any changes happening . But, keep trying . Try to avoid there messeges and phones start keeping your priorities ahead , keep yourself busy or try watching somekind of sitcom that you like it will really help you pass your time. I am not saying to completly avoid that person but, there should be a limit that you should decide till which you are comfortable with .When you really start seeing some difference. Take up a big goal in your life , which you might be working or if you don't have any then search for one , try to achieve that work for that , do whatever to keep yourself motivated for that goal .This will bring a slow transition in your life about thinking about others life to your own life . Because your life is yours .For the future, try not to get attached to people in a way that you leave yourself . Try not to change yourself for others. Try to be good to everybody but, not at a cost of leaving your identity. Be a good person that you are but, don't just keep on trying to prove it .
Why does our happiness depend on others?
As we know that this is because we are social animalOur evey action would be interlinked with some other's actionAccording to the Newton's 3rd law “ For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” We tend to make this in our universeWe are meant to be like this, you may think that I go job and I earn money and I spend money to buy happiness like(buying clothes, giving delicious taste to your taste buds, experiencing new environment ) but everything you do makes happy for someone who is in other side example - the man who stitches your clothes you would be spreading some percent of happinessBy knowingly or unknowingly we do make some people happyIn this world we can't do everything purely for ourselvesgiving makes us happy, we can't give anything (effort, time, priority) if we're dependent on something . so don't dependent on anything even if you think that's happiness(dependency is not happiness) think another time about this then you'll get what I'm sayingHappiness is nothing but a state of mind one must spread that feeling around us bcoz what goes around which eventually comes aroundThere'll be some reason at that situation if we are then this would help us to overcome that at that time we won't be left abandonedEven if we not expecting someone to make us happy we would be happy
Why my all happiness depends on her?
You stated “all” happiness..Because you desire the attention that she gives you. (good.bad. or ugly)Regardless of the attention. If you do not receive the affirmations that you think you desire from her then you are unhappy. You have become emotionally attached to her. More than likely because she has manipulated your emotions to make you feel this way. It's more common than we would like to admit in everyday relationships. It is truly sad that we truly feel sad.pain.fear BECAUSE of someone else's emotional attachment. Everyone’s definition of happiness is different. But I do know that..Happiness starts with oneself and so don’t change yourself for fear of others’ unhappiness.Your happiness will come when you start valuing yourself the way you deserve.
Does our happiness depend on the sadness of others?
Only if these "others" are your loved ones or your children because those are the outcomes and situations which you have a chance to solve or improve; otherwise - how can you change the world? With that logic, you should always be sad because there is sorrow and death and illness and wars happening on our planet all the time. So, do you want to be sad? You have plenty of things to choose from to be sad about.Do you want to be happy? You have plenty of things to choose from to be happy about. It all comes down to whether you can affect some outcome or you need to learn to live with it. You have an error in your statement - "one is rich only if compared to somebody else who's poorer".Your self-perception does not depend on your country's minimum wages or the standard of living - it depends on what you choose to think of yourself.If you value yourself as a person based on what you have, then once you lose it - let's say in a freak accident when all your possessions end up in a fire - then did that fire erase you as a person? Well, if you were in that fire, then yes; otherwise, you are not your possessions.The terms of "median" (income) or "average" (bank account balance) - are values which have no correlation to one's inner world.So, if you for a moment do not compare yourself to anyone else - just imagine that everyone else is gone and you are the only person on the planet - do you think of yourself as a person of means and value or not?(And a person who believes that they have value and means does not go out seeking someone less fortunate only to look down and gleam with joy).
Does my happiness only depend on me?
Happiness and peace both belongs to you. It comes from inside. But, we often blame the outside things for our unhappiness. We cannot control other to protect us from unhappiness or sadness. But, we can take those disappointing things as a part of life when we see those with our positive outlook. When we learn to find positevity in every situation, we can manage our inner happiness.There was a very famous dialogue in the Bollywood film, “3 idiots”- “All is well". These are the ultimate words of positevity.You don't need to go anyone or anywhere to find happiness. You just need to keep that by doing the things you love or following your passion. It makes you happy from inside and this happiness will help you to accept every situation of unhappiness with your positive attitude.
Does happiness depend on others, or does it totally depend on us?
No, It doesn't .Look around yourself , Point the objects where you are seeing them now think it again The Light is falling on the object, reflecting going through your lenses and inverted image is formed in your retina .Now tell where are you seeing the object ? Within yourself , Where do you hear things ? Within yourself , Where have you seen the whole world ? Within yourself , Where have you felt the most pain ? Within yourself .Have you ever felt anything outside of yourself ?Everything that ever happened with you , light and darkness happen within you, Pain and pleasure happen within you . Have you experienced anything outside of yourself ?No !What I want to say is what happens within you, Who should determine how it should happen ?Definitely you should determine what should happen to you !The events around you may not be determined by you but how your experience of life is on this planet is 100% determined by you , If you take charge of this but if you leave it loose thinking anyone else will determine it , No they won't !
Is it good or bad to rely on others for happiness?
Extremely bad. I speak as someone who has been the dependent and the one being dependent upon. Humans are flawed and will always fail you at some point in time, so its never a good idea to put your FULL faith in them. I don't mean that in a cynical, misanthropic way. I mean that the people you rely on to keep you happy will not always be there for you. They cannot. Sometimes people will be busy, people die, people move away, people lose touch, people change habits, people grow out of each other. Its foolish to rely on others for happiness, and when you do, you put a huge strain on them too. People always say, "it's so flattering when [insert loved one's name] says that he/she would die without me. It tells me they really love me", but I can guarantee those people have never really been in that position before. Imagine you need to break up with someone and they threaten to commit suicide if you do because you are their only source of happiness; do you know the terrible pressure that will put on you? Humans are social creatures, so you cannot live in solitude. You cannot gain happiness solely from yourself. Its impossible. You're going to get happiness from those around you and htose you love; you'd be ill if you didn't. However, you should be able to be self-sufficient and independent at all times in terms of happiness. That means that if every last person you loved was to turn their back on you, you would not immediately falter and want to die. You can survive long enough to bring more loved ones into your life. Thankfully, that rarely happens and you'll never need to be completely without people you love...but basically I'm trying to say that if one friend cannot talk to you or if one boyfriend breaks up with you, your world should not come crumbling down.