Not invited to a brother's wedding...gift?
Not invited to our brother's wedding...gift? By brother-in-law just got engaged to a sweet girl he has been dating for a long time. She has come to all of the family events over the past years and I thought that she gotten close with the family and specifically with myself (we have exchanged b-day gifts since they started dating, had girls nights, etc...). However they just announced that they will not be inviting any siblings to their wedding (only parents, grandparents, and aunts & uncles). The groom comes from a very close family of 7 children and the bride has 4 siblings. Many of the brothers and sisters are offended that they now feel like the couple is giving the impression that they aren't important enough to come to a wedding when they worked so hard to help her feel comfortable in the family. I am trying not to feel offended and unwanted, but that announcement came out of left field and just carries tones of "we don't need your support at our wedding." If they don't need our support at the wedding and reception, do we really need to take a big chunk of my pay check to give them a gift of support for their union, or does a card and smile work (my husband is in Grad School, and his tuition is $10K more than my yearly salary, so we are tight squeezed just to pay bills)? Please don't judge the emotions, just the situation!
Should I go to my ex’s wedding? She invited me.
Yes! You should definitely go. If she wants to prove that you mean nothing to her and hence she invited you then go there, have loads of fun and make her realise she means nothing to you!Also there is nothing to do with sentiments now because she does not feel so. She does not value you so much so you too don't. Go see her getting married, make her feel guilty, get the ultimate closure and come back home!One day you will get married and that day invite her. Make her talk to your fiancee and praise her so much that she realises that love with her was nothingMake her realise your true value
We have been invited to a 50th wedding anniversary/renewal of vows celebration dinner. The invitation specifically says not to bring any gifts. Should we show up empty-handed, bring just a card, or give a gift anyway?
I’m in my 60’s and have tried to tell family I don’t want Christmas gifts etc. (I do enter a little caveat to that—all gift cards for Grandma are welcome—-)I am just retired and maybe want to move some day so as with many people in our age group —”blast” were trying to get rid of things…..I love you for your thoughts but darn I really don’t want or need any brick a brack or nicka nac—-I’m getting rid of those—and the food you bring —well it might not agree with me or my diet may not allow—I don’t drink any more —-cheese is off these days too. The older we get the more weird our bodies become—I can no longer eat frozen pizza because I can’t tolerate frozen cheeses—I mean my body can’t.. What I’m saying there are all kinds of reasons and really good ones people don’t want gifts…If you know their favorite eating place maybe you could get away with it (gift card)…I think we’ve gotten so darn used to buying buying buying for everything that we feel uncomfortable coming empty handed—-Hey I’d love a beautiful letter telling me and my beloved what I mean to you —and I’m serious—out of all the crap others might bring (and it will look like that to a 50 year married couple trying to get rid of stuff)your card with the beautiful sentiment will be something I’d consider a keepsake….After my youngest son was born in 1971 I couldn’t go out and buy him a ann. card so I made a home made one with ribbons and lace and clothe and buttons and glue and sewing and the inside was a letter from me—He was working at the time during the day and going to school at night—I had a lot to be grateful for when he died—I found that card saved in the side of his drawer with other treasures—-don’t go out and buy something they don’t need unless it’s the gift card for a romantic dinner for two at some place special where they like to eat—maybe even where they met..
My bf invited me to a wedding... he says we should give $150 for the gift, since he usually gives $100 when he
I don't get his "fuzzy logic" - you go as a "couple" and he invited you as his "date" for a couple that he knows - how are you responsible for the gift in any way? That's weird! The gift is plenty fine at $100 - tell him you'll bring a nice card for it to go into and that YOU have to spend at least 50 bucks getting yourself all dolled up for the weddings with hair, nails and outfits. (are you sure you want to date him - sounds cheap!)
If you are not invited to a wedding, what is the protocol on giving a gift?
Well, if you weren’t invited to the wedding, then you aren’t under any obligation to give them a gift.I would be asking why she didn’t invite you when you were apparently involved in her life. It seems to me it would have been possible for you to be invited. I think that’s the bigger question: what is wrong with the relationship between the two of you?But as to your question, you don’t have to give them a gift. If you choose to, though, you can mail it with a note wishing them the best if you don’t want to really discuss it with her.
Do you give a gift for a last-minute verbal wedding invitation?
I sing in my church choir, and at last week's rehearsal our organist/choirmaster told us "Mel" was getting married on Saturday, and all choir members were invited. I attended the wedding, along with several others (it was not a big wedding). Do I need to send a gift? What about making a donation to the church's music fund in honor of the "Mel" and "Gina?" If it makes any difference, this is the second marriage for both "Mel" and "Gina."
What do you do when the wedding invitation says "No gifts" and when you reach there, you see every one came with a gift except you?
A-ha; this has to be a trick question.Nobody takes a gift to a wedding; they either deliver them to the couple’s home, or (more usually) have them delivered by UPS.Showing up with a gift is boorish, and is never done by cultured people.(In the possible case that anyone is reading this and can’t understand why taking gifts to a wedding is vulgar, the goal is to (1) prevent embarrassment; (2) to keep the wedding venue from looking like a kid’s birthday party; (3), to keep focus on the wedding and reception, instead of the gifts (see “embarrassment”, above); and, finally (4) to prevent the new couple from having to stop in the middle of their happy “escape” from the reception to cart all the presents out to somebody’s car and schlep them home.)P.S. If an invitation says “No gifts”, you will know two things already: first, that they probably really don’t want anyone to send them gifts. Secondly, that they haven’t read Miss Manners, who says that you never put such a thing on a wedding invitation. See Miss Manners for details.
Is it rude not to respond to a wedding invitation?
I'm assuming you are waiting for invitations to come in, so that's how I wrote this. If you are wondering if YOU would be rude not to respond, the answer is "Yes."Well, it's not exactly rude, but it's part of the planning process.Some people don't respond because they aren't sure if they'll make it, and others assume you are expecting them, so there's no reason to send in the card.Unfortunately, most families use those cards to quickly add up how many meals to plan (and then add 10% for some who didn't answer, just in case they show up).On more than one occasion, I haven't been able to commit until relatively close to the date of the wedding, and I'll e-mail my answer to them, but it's certainly not the best way to handle things.If your invitation has an RSVP date, wait about a week until after that date, and start calling people who haven't responded. I hated to do it, and if possible, let someone else do it, as long as they take accurate notes. I don't think this has to be done by either the (soon-to-be) bride or groom, but it should be explained with an apology, that you are trying to get an accurate count for the meal.There may be people who are planning to attend the ceremony, but not the reception, in which case, you'd get a zero on the RSVP, but you might see them at the actual ceremony. If it's only a few (or one in particular), there's nothing wrong with adding them at the last minute (they'd be covered in the 10% overage).This doesn't sound confusing in my head, I hope it's easy enough to understand.