My husband makes plans and invites people over without even telling me.?
He has done this since we moved in together when we had been dating a couple years. We have talked about it and I feel like I've tried every angle to get him to understand why it isn't okay. I don't mind him making plans that don't involve me, or inviting people over, I would just like a little notice before the knock on the door! He says he doesn't tell me because he assumes I won't want to go out with him, or I won't want to have people over. I am so tired of it. For example, tonight I was anticipating us doing something together. We were putting away laundry, and then the next thing I know there's a knock on the door and his friend is here to go to the bar with him. As he was walking out he asked if I wanted to join them. I was in sweats and my hair was a mess, so I told him to go have fun. I don't know what to do anymore. I welcome any input.
My husband invited people over my house without even asking!?
I'm not a wife yet but I was under the impression that part of the marital duties meant that the words "I", "Me" and "My" were gone. It isn't "MY" house, it's "OUR" house. If you're really upset over him inviting people over, just tell him politely that next time you want it to be a discussion. But with the way you posted this, I have a feeling that no matter what he would have done he would have been wrong. If I were him, I would have done the same.
When you invite someone out for dinner, are you obligated to pay for them?
A few years ago, a friend turned 40, and her husband invited a group of us to celebrate with dinner at an expensive restaurant. The invitation was clear that the host (my friend’s husband) would pay for wine and light hors d’oeuvres before dinner and birthday cake after dinner, but the cost of dinner itself was each guest’s responsibility. I’d never gotten an invitation like this before, and I thought it was pretty shabby. The options were: 1) go out to a restaurant I’d never choose and spend money I can’t afford in order to celebrate with my friends or 2) stay at home and miss the celebration.I went to the party. Fortunately for our bank account, my husband had to work that night and wasn’t able to go with me. Just the cost of my meal alone, plus tip, was over $70. That was with appetizers and dessert already paid for by the host. If my husband had come along, we would have paid $140 for 2 plates of pasta, in order to help our friend celebrate.I still think it’s a pretty shabby dinner invitation.
Let’s say that you are invited to be guest at a friend’s home, is it considered rude to accidentally show up ten minutes late?
Hi Marc, Thank you for the A2A,I grew up in a culture that it was consider rude to be on time for such events. So for me I would have to say no. It is expected and you are being a good guest if you showed up 15 to 30 minutes late.I realized that is not the case in all cultures. Take my husband’s family for example. They will show up either on time or anywhere to an hour earlier. I consider that so rude and inconsiderate. I had to get properly dress but couldn’t because I had to instead entertain them and they expected to be waited on the minute they walked in the door. I had to be with them all the time.It took time to break my husband of that “rule”. We grew up in San Antonio, his father was an abrupt and sometimes bigoted man, he would chide us about being on “Mexican Time” a lot. I think that was partly due to his wife. In the end with children, my husband realized that it was extremely hard to be on time and rushing to please his parents was just not worth the aggravation. The drive was to another town. So you can imagineEither way if you were to show up to my home late, I wouldn’t mind. You are my guest and I would be happy to see you at anytime just not on time.
What's the proper etiquette for attending a dinner party at someone's home as a vegetarian or vegan?
I'm a college student and have been volunteering and interning at the hospitals on our campus this past school year. One of the physicians I respect the most and have worked the most closely with invited me to a formal dinner party she and her husband are hosting at their home. I'm a vegetarian, though I primarily follow a vegan diet and typically eschew eating foods containing dairy and eggs. The only other formal dinner parties I've attended thus far have been hosted by my parents, godparents, or other adults who know me well, so I've never needed to make them aware of my diet. I'm unsure of the protocol I should follow in this circumstance. I certainly do not expect them to create a special menu just to cater to me, and I'd be happy to eat beforehand so I'm not ravenous at their party. I don't want to appear disinterested or rude by not eating what they serve, though. I am planning to just let her know that I'm a vegetarian and ask her not go out of her way to accommodate me. She could simply serve me more of the side dishes instead of an entree containing meat or fish. I'm also unsure if I should reveal that I'm underage since I'm certain they'll be serving cocktails and wine. I've actually been drinking wine with dinner since my mid-teens at home, but some people are more sensitive about serving minors. Most assume I'm older than I am, and I don't think anyone would question me about my age, but I don't want to compromise their values or put them in an awkward position if they do find out I'm not 21 yet. I think I'm the only one who isn't a professional that they've invited, so I'd be the only minor, and therefore they'd have to make more adjustments just for me. I'd also be embarrassed to tell them (I prefer being perceived as older), but I don't want to be dishonest, either. When you are invited to someone's home for a formal dinner party, do you inform your hosts in advance that you're a vegan or a vegetarian? Do you expect them to cater to your diet even if you're the only vegan or vegetarian attending the dinner? Bonus Questions ~ What's your favorite vegetarian / vegan quick meal? : )
Husband travels to be with his family for holidays (without me)?
My husbands family has nothing to do with us. They flat out hate me and their other daughter-in law. They have nothing to do with their oolder son either or their grandchild. There is a youngest son who they talk to and adore. (he is a drunk while the other sons are hard-working ppl) My husbands older brother has no contact with us either. I have sent them cards and gifts but they didnt even up show to our wedding and dont acknowledge the cards or gifts. My family is the total opposite. Well, I have not even seen his parents in 3 years but they have said that I am not allowed in their home. My husband is planning on traveling several hours this year to see them on Thanksgiving and over Christmas. This leaves me being alone for the holidays as I am not allowed in their home and would not want to be there anyways. They only take advantage of him when they see him. My questions are... Is it right for my husband to leave to see his family if it leaves me alone on a holiday? If you were him..what would you do?
What are good gifts for a foreign visitor to bring when they're invited to someone's home in Qatar for the first time?
In my experience, it is exceedingly rare for foreigners to be invited into Qataris' homes--indeed, even other Qataris are not invited, unless they are (quite close) relations. If you've been invited by a Qatari man, it's most likely that you have been invited to a majlis where you will sit with other men and only men. You should expect to stay for a couple of hours, to drink tea and coffee and possibly a meal but most certainly some food. If it's a formal affair, it's possible that you might need to sit cross legged on the floor. They will almost certainly make allowances for cutlery and chairs though, for the people who don't know how to eat rice with their hands; you should try it though, it's a lot of fun, and people are relaxed if you mess things up. On your first couple of visits to a majlis, you ought to think of bringing some kind of sweets perhaps. It's a good idea to notify your host and also about the number of people who are likely to be there so you can plan. An evening in a majliss can be a lot of fun, and it's probably a lot less formal than you'd expect; maybe the one thing which is formal is the seating arrangement. Pay attention to that. Women visitors get the chance to see the inside of a home more frequently, and shouldn't make the mistake of assuming instantly that they can invite their husband along with them. In fact, it's not really common at all for Qataris to entertain as couples or families. It's possible that your family/you and your spouse will be invited together, but this is not very common. Even if it happens, it's possible that you will not always sit together. If a woman is invited to the home, most normal housewarming gifts seem to work: like flowers or something similar (maybe chocolates?). There is bound to be somebody else on Quora who can answer that better than I can though ... Having said all of that, there is a small (and growing?) subset of Qataris in the jet set who entertain in their homes and where the rules above are not so much of a big deal. You will probably have a way of knowing before being invited formally which arrangement it will be: do you bring your spouse/family, do you shake hands with the opposite sex, etc.
Can cops enter a home with no search warrant, permission or probable cause??
My husband was arrested on 7-24-08 on a body attachment warrant. When I answered the door to see who was knocking the cop just walked in my mother's house with out her being home, search warrant, probable cause, permission to come into the house or a physical warrant. We asked to see the warrant that gave him the right to just step into the house and he said that he did not have it. I am 4 months pregnant and in the process of the cop stepping into the house he pushed me into a chest that my mother has in the front room. I ended up in the ER over it. When my parents got home they both asked the cop to get out of the house and the cop threatened my mother. Told her that if he had to leave the house she was getting arrested as well. My husband is being held with a bond of $$3,500.00 10% DOSE NOT apply. What can be done or am I stuck with cops who think they own my mother and father's house? And just for people to know my husband was not hiding behine me.
How to deal After someone rejects your facebook friend request?
You deal with it by ignoring it. Declining friend requests is pretty common and does not indicate that the person who declined your request doesn't like you. Some people intentionally limit their friend lists to a very small circle of only thier closest friends and family. Not everyone likes having 200+ friends and everyone they're ever known on their list. And as you said yourself, the person is a friend of your husband. You did not say that the person was your friend. That's one step removed in the ranks of friendship circles and can be a big deal. You may be friendly to each other and good aquantances or even loosely friends yourself, but you are not a part of his closest inner circle and you should not resent him for denying the request. People are different about what they feel comfortable sharing on their facebook pages as well as who they feel comfortable seeing those pages. If he didn't approve your request, it doesn't mean he dislikes you, it just means he either 1) has things on his page he doesn't want you to see, 2) doesn't want to get "spam"-like updates from "friends" that he isn't very close to, 3) wants to keep his friends list shorter and more intimate, 4) he denied the request by accident or 5) never saw the request in the first place and it expired or something like that. In the end, his reasons don't matter anyway. Accept the denial with grace. Don't assume anything negative about it. Don't mention it at dinner. Just move on.