I get angry too easily?
On tuesday i woke up really angry so i punched my bed over...and over...and over i would have punched the wall but my parents would have heard the bang so i didnt now my finger hurts and is taped to the other finger. And today i got really angry and i almost cried with anger (if that makes sense, please say if it does) cos this guy is pissing me off and a guy called Ryan Quinn died on friday and people in my school knew him and were crying cos we had an assembly for him and some guy goes "haha Ryan is dead" and even tho i dont know him I got really angry. I punched my pillow (to be more sensible) this morning cos i got pissed off and i feel that every good thing in my life gets ruined so i take a fit and simple things makes me want to take a fit!!! I feel angry now writing this cos im remembering it!! and because i feel as if everything goes wrong, i cried of sadness when i come home from school and i am suicadle and my friend really worried about me when i was home alone on fri in case i did something, sometimes i wish i did when i got the chance but my mum keeps going on about how she doesnt want to bury any children (cos we were talking about Ryan) so i would feel bad I am too scared to go to counselling as i would feel as if I am betraying my parents cos i wont be telling them and i am NOT telling my parents so DONT YOU DARE suggest it. As far as they know i whacked my hand off my bed even though teachers know i punched the bed! so how do i control my anger so i wont go off on one and hurt everyone around me dont suggest counting!
When you get mad and angry at others, are you really only hurting yourself?
Yes and no.Yes, you are hurting only yourself.And no, your hurting yourself isn’t devoid of hurting others especially those who in their limited means care for you. And thus, you push them away, even when they want to pull you towards them for comfort. Because, just like happiness compounds when shared, so does sadness and disappointment. Constantly, getting mad and angry at others tends towards sad, gloom, disappointment.It’s better to stay insulated, rather than compound on the hurt.So, when you are hurting it does feel lonely. It doesn’t mean, that others are not being hurt. It also does not mean, that it should auto-magically lessen your hurt or theirs. But, wise folks use this as a medicine to heal one-self and again within their means, others. This is common-sensical and worldly wisdom, so lacking in current times of pseudo-social interactions. But, this is besides the point.So, yes, when you hurt, you only do hurt, irrespective of others who hurt as well.Anything else is just juvenile bullshit.
Do People say hurtful things out of anger is it because that’s how they really feel?
When you stub your toe on your nightstand, do you feel pain? Don’t you get really pissed and angry as well, and want to yell and hit the friggin’ nightstand so it feels a bit of your pain as well, no matter how stupid or irrational that act is?Well, I know I do!It’s not different when people say hurtful things out of anger. It’s not that they really mean it — it’s that they felt threatened and lashed out. It’s a very common animal behavior — the fight or flight response.Often we say those bad things because yes, we do think about them. But the thing is, humans change their minds all the time. Feelings, emotions, concepts — they all change according to your moods and your environment. And we often do know what to say to push someone’s button — things like “I hate you” and “I don’t want to see you ever again”. We know it hurts.We say it not because we really hate them (sometimes we do, but perhaps just at that given moment) but mostly because we know they will be just as hurt as we are feeling at that given moment.If you love those that said bad things to you, then you should let it go. Forgive them. I know it’s not easy — I hold grudges very well, thank you very much — but it’s best for you if you don’t take things personally.And if you don’t love them… just shrug it off. People can hurt us, but we can move on. Just like when a pigeon shits all over your head — it’s pointless to yell and get angry at the pigeon! Just go home, take a shower and clean yourself up. The pigeon won’t know and you will be better for it.Think of people that hurt you like those friggin’ pigeons — they shat at your head, but it’s up to you to remain angry or to just clean yourself up.
Why do people say mean and hurtful things and turn them into jokes? Then get mad when you say it wasn't funny and it hurts your feelings.
There might be 2 reasons why they turn insults into a joke.1) They didn’t mean to intentionally hurt you and then turn it into a joke just to brush it off as a minor thing and move forward.2) or they meant to hurt you and then try to say it as a joke so that if you take offence they will just be able to play the card that you are over sensative & they can say they weren’t mean, they just made a joke.In the case that you tell them that hurt them they get angry that might be because they did mean it intentionally and now you “caught them out” so they turn to aggression to make you feel bad.Basically this person tries to play the victim and let you feel guilty for their actions. They manipulate you to feel bad and try to justify their actions.
A person who rarely gets angry is that normal?
I have been around my best friend for years and she rarely yells or gets angry. She seems all to calm. She thinks before she speaks instead of yelling or saying things to hurt people. Exact opposite of me. I go off on folks in a second if they do me wrong. However she told me once that she picks her fights and that sometimes folks aren't worth it. And when she does fight she does it logically and calmly instead of yelling she calmly states her point. I think its a little weird what do you think?
I got a C+ in math and my parents get very angry with that. A C to them is like an F.?
Just tell them that is the most difficult class for most of the people anywhere ( and that´s a fact ), that you made a huge effort and that class is not by memorizing or thinking is just if you have the ability or not, if you don´t have it and if they still don´t understand you and they want to punish you, say that you are sorry, that you want a math professor and that you will make know a bigger effort Good Luck !
Which feeling you find hard to overcome, sadness, anger, jealousy, loneliness, being hurt or boredom?
Every feeling is hard to overcome, all it depends upon is the situation which led us these feelings….When sadness becomes a place of residence it's become hard to surviveIt's takes time to overcome our anger , because when we are exhausted by the whole world , we often feel lost…Jealousy, i feel like you cannot control jealousy, in terms of love , like when you love someone but he or she doesn't pay any attention to you while does to some other person…. Not in the terms that I'm like this , I'm ugly but she's beautiful this is not jealousy this is under estimating yourselfLoneliness can be overcome if you are lonely physically , by doing something which keeps you busy, whereas if you are loneliness emotionally and mentally thrn it becomes quite difficult to overcome that…Being hurt .. i feel like you can't stop anyone from hurting you, but you can make yourself in that way that it doesn't matter to you anymore, you have to make your will power and heart strong in order to overcome that hurt….Boredom can be overcomed by doing things like dancing, playing, chatting etc. Or by doing something which makes you happy and gives you peace…Hope you like this…wish you good luck…
I want revenge on people who hurt me in the past. When I see them happy it makes me sad and annoyed. Will taking revenge make me feel better?
“Killed my Personality”, “Murdered my Joy of Life..”I have been where you are, no I am where you are. Currently in my social life it's shit. I'm trying my best but ultimately the people trying to hurt me are starting to get into my head. I'm not happy anymore, my old personality is gone and I don't look forward to anything. My weekends I just sit and I don't want to leave my house because I have lost my will to try. I understand your pain. I wanted to hurt them too. You know, get revenge and all. In the end I am only hurting myself because I am just forcing myself back into those horrible moments where they bullied me and im not letting myself move on. You need to move on. Ignore they exist all together, try your best at getting a will to live again. That's what I'm trying to do..It's difficult. I'm not even there yet myself but we can try together? Those horrible people who hurt you and hurt me. They are unhappy in their personal life, they take out their pain on somebody else in hopes of taking our joy and filling themselves with it. It doesn't work, of course. But like an addict they try again and again, they keep hurting because it just might heal their pain. We have to forgive these people, they are broken. Find a place in your heart to forgive what they did, what they are doing and look after yourself. Look after your health, wellbeing and happiness. Once you love yourself again, you will grow to ignore them, and to not be hurt by their attempts anymore. Be happy, I wish you luckLove yourself first, then forgive
What should I do about my life?
If your parents agree to it I think your best option is to move in with your grandparents. The reason you are feeling the way you are is because you are crying out for love. I am sorry that your Mom smokes dope and your father is an alcoholic, but you need guidance at your age and your grandparents can offer that. Good luck and believe in yourself.