Sick and about to get kicked out of school HELP!!!!?
If you are a student enrolled in the school, your age (18) is not relevant to this question. They will not "kick you out" because you are 18. They may suspend you because you have missed too many days of school to effectively complete the course(s) of study. There are guidelines for the maximum number of days missed and suspension. There is only so much leeway the school will allow. After that, you may need to complete your high school education at a continuation school. This is an issue in which your parents must become involved. Rather than getting mad at you if you are legitimately ill, your mother or father needs to contact the appropriate person in the high school office, explain the situation and ask for guidance. This needs to be a parent talking to a school official, not you talking to a school official. The school district has procedures in place for students in your predicament. The school may be able to provide you with home study work, a tutor or tutors, or you may need to withdraw, depending on the seriousness of your illness. The extent of your illness and treatment will be determined by a medical doctor. If you don't complete the courses, you will not be able to graduate with your friends at the end of the term. Pressure the doctors for a diagnosis and treatment regime so you can get back into school. When you return, go for it. You will be doing extra work every night and on weekends for the next few months. It may take until the winter holidays to catch up if you have missed as much as you have implied, but graduating with your friends will be worth it. (Ask the doctors to check you for parasites of every kind. Simple tests, simple medication but often overlooked.) Good luck.
I feel undervalued and overlooked?
I have just three/four major friends, and I only feel like one of them actually cares about me. One of them almost never texts back or has any motivation to hang out during summer or over the weekends, so I barely talk to him anymore as a result. The other comes to me for help whenever she needs it and I always help her and give the best advice, but when I ask her for advice she says things like "I don't know" and she doesn't really pay much attention to me in person either. I really only talk to one of my friends now because I have a good amount of classes with him and he doesn't seem bothered by my presence. But I'm sick of being ignored and overlooked. I can't make any friends because everyone's in groups and if one person thinks badly of me everyone does because that's how weak their minds are. There's a lot of people who I thought I was on good terms with who blocked me on Twitter and Instagram and ignore me in person. Even though I'm pretty intelligent I'm always the last choice for group projects and I end up with the people who don't even want me half the time. There is no one to make friends with because nobody has any interest in having me as a friend I guess. I'm always the one to text first and a lot of times I never get any response. And yes, I am socially anxious, but shunning nonconfident people won't make them feel any better about themselves. I'm rarely invited to anything and when I am nobody seems to want to talk to me, leaving me standing with no friends.
Why do girls overlook me?
I continuously get myself into situations where I feel certain that a girl is interested in me. And in every one of these situations the girl either has some type of "excuse" (an excuse meaning she just got out of a relationship or she just isn't looking for a relationship but i am so unsure of myself that i cannot tell if she is lying or not) as to why she doesn't want a relationship, or claims that it is too soon to know what she wants from me. And if I choose to take things slow and be friends first I am often then stuck in "the friend zone." I seriously just don't know what I am supposed to do. Am I seriously doing something so wrong? I feel as though I should be a catch. I at least don't think I could be considered ugly, I have an athletic build, and I study at a decently prestigious institution (college). I am just sick of being used and abandoned, and I am not sure how to approach relationships at this point. Also, and I know this may sound weird, but is it possible that I am being used for sex? I feel weird being a guy asking this question, but it often happens that a girl hooks up with me and acts as though she is into me, but leaves me soon after. If anyone could give me some type of advice it would be greatly appreciated. And I also apologize if this blurb flows rather poorly but I am just running circles in my head.
How do you cope with being overlooked at work, even though you are highly qualified?
I also have many questions and have been in a similar situation. Here are some things to think carefully about and perhaps change or act on:How is your relationship with your boss’s boss compared to your team members’ relationship with your boss’s boss?How have your employee reviews been? During your reviews, besides having been told how you have been doing, have you stated clearly your intention to get promoted? During your employee review, did you identify, together with your boss, clear-cut deliverables which, if met, would necessarily result in a promotion and salary increase? During the subsequent review, you need to then pull out that list and follow-up with the demand. Had you identified projects which you could take a leadership role in?Have you availed yourself of opportunities to present or demonstrate your projects to ‘eyes’ outside of your department or immediate team?It is possible that, because of the closeness in age between you and your boss, that he/she might be reticent in promoting you, as doing so would make you more of a threat to his/her role. So, you need to address this by any/all of:Having a frank discussion about itSetting clear-cut promotion criteria and a time frameIdentifying your specific skill and experience which you uniquely haveGetting seen by people other than your bossFinding projects which cross into other departments; mingling with those in other departmentsParticipating in outside-of-work activities which put you in informal contact with people outside of your immediate work team; then branching out with them while at workGetting known by people in your boss’s role from outside companiesYou may need to come up with a strategy for better positioning yourself, and, it may have little to do with your actual technical skill and more to do with how you create values in other areas.I just read a brilliant reply to a similar question. See here:My boss prefers my colleague over me even though I am a better performer than him. What could be the reason?… and more answers by Etika Katabi
I'm sick of being underestimated?
So I have to work in a project at uni with another class mate. She is more outspoken than me and I'm more timid. The tutors don't look me in the eye when they speak, they look my partner in the eye when the tutor speaks to us. I feel left out most of the time. I do ask questions when the tutor speaks to us. Now the tutor asks me to do things, making it seem as if I don't do anything in the group. Once when I went out to the washroom and was coming back, I heard my partner speaking to the tutor saying my name and when I came back they stopped talking. I get blamed for everything and not my partner. Once my partner cried after getting "constructive critisicm" from the tutor. And after that when ever the tutor gives any form of feedback, the tutor directly says my name and what I did wrong but for my partner, the tutor says it indirectly. I feel like I'm so under estimated when I'm giving it all I've got and not being appreciated for what I do. Any advice would help. Thanks
Why am I always being overlooked, forgotten or ignored by guys?
I don't know if you act uncomfortable or distant when you are around others.You probably have characteristics that will appear to some guys. Most girls didn't appeal to me but a few seemed really special when I was young and single.Pursue your own interests with enthusiasm and you will eventually find you attract your kind of guy.Your situation will change when you are associating with people more like you. Be the best “you” for yourself and see what happens.
SICK AND TIRED OF BEING AWKWARD!?
ffs i get so angry with myself and beat myself up all the time about being socially awkward. Im 17 and ive only kissed a girl once im very self conscience and im always stressing about my looks, height and other personal image things. I try my best not to be awkward at school but i just cant seem to help it. 1) Im fairly short for my age (usually the shortest in my group) (im 5ft6) This makes me feel "small" and "insignificant" usually leading to me being quiet or not saying much how can i over come this? 2) Half the time i talk to people they say "what" or "huh"? I SRSLY DONT KNOW WHY I DONT HAVE A VOICE! I literally scream in my head when someone asks me "what did you say"? I know the answer is "speak louder" but it just seems so forced and weird when i try, i wish i could just be myself and everyone could listen when i speak. The worst is on the bus or train i just cant seem to be heard over the noises of other people and engine yet when my friend talks i can hear him perfectly, why is this?? 3) I am terrible at telling stories - every time i speak about myself or something happened people seem to 'tune out" or lose interest 4) I try my best to be 'apart' in group conversations by laughing and smiling at jokes and when people try and be funny but thats all i do i just have no confidence to speak up and add to the convo 5) everyime i have to talk to someone i pretty much have to tap them on the arm or something to get their attention so they can listen 6) How do people know what to say ? I know this sounds silly, but my friend who is very confident/sociable always seems to know the right words to say to keep a convo interesting/funny/flowing . How do people do this??????? thats pretty much all my problems. I seriously hate my life at the moment im sick of being socially retarted. please help me, the only times i cant talk well is when im drunk :(
What should I do to flatten my excess flab? I am so tired of how I look. I am 17 with small breasts and a huge spoon figure body.
I’m not going to give you advice about diet and exercise etc. I’m going to tell you something very important. Never say anything about yourself that you wouldn’t say to another person. I can guarantee that you would never say “I bet you’re tired of how you look with that huge spoon figure body”, would you? So don’t say it to yourself. You’re not fat, lazy, stupid, useless, hopeless, ugly, or a greedy pig. Be happy you have a healthy body with functioning limbs. Do it!