What's holding me back from ending it with him?
Well I've been "dating" this guy for about 4 months (and by "dating", I mean the words "boyfriend", "girlfriend", or "relationship" haven't been used). For the first month, he was incredibly romantic and affectionate, even in front of his friends. The next 3 weeks, he was overseas. While there, he told me things like he missed me & couldn't wait to see me. However, his first week back he felt very distant from me, but then the next week he was quite affectionate. Lately the distance and affection have been almost alternating, and it confuses me a lot. Even though we have been spending a lot of time together, most of it is with other friends, very little of it is alone. I love us spending time with our friends, but ya know, I would like some alone time. Lately I've been feeling like there's been very little progression for what there should be in 4 months (haven't even been physically intimate). We're still pretty casual, but I want something more. He is also straightening out a few things in his life (needing a job, trying to move out of his parents' place... don't judge) I've been in bad relationships (and I learned he has too), so part of me is just afraid of getting hurt again, so a part of me is assuming that he may just be over it. Part of me feels like I should end it, maybe out of fear of getting hurt, maybe because I don't wanna constantly wonder what's up with us. Another reason may be because I think he needs to figure stuff out. However... however... I somehow can't bring myself to do it. I've ended it with guys before, and all though it can be hard, I'll just do it. I just can't bring myself to do it, and I think I don't want to. I'm wondering if its fear, or that I see that its not fully over (as I don't have that gut feeling you usually get when you know something's over). I also can't bring myself to ask him if he wants to take it to the next level. Now THAT I don't know why. Any ideas as to why I can't bring myself to neither ask him if he wants to take it to the next level, nor just walk away?
My husband sais I am holding him back.?
You already know what you need to do. He's dead weight. My boyfriend hasn't worked in a long time, I'm pregnant with our first and I simply told him to step up or get out. He didn't believe me but he understands now. I'm withholding all "lovin" in carnal sense until he gets a job. I have also told him to start helping around the house since he doesn't have a job. Your man is holding you back and he's trying to take the focus off that by placing blame on you. He will continue to do so as long as you let him, for years even. Trust me, I'm right there with you at the moment and I just decided I deserved better. My man starts a job in the next day or two and he tells me every day where he has looked, who called and what he is doing to make things better. He's not the type to do this either-AT ALL. But one can be a doormat for so long before enough is enough. You'll be so glad you kicked in the but to get moving or get out. I promise. Life is too short to raise a grown man.
Holding child back in Kindergarten...PARENTS ONLY PLEASE?
to be a good role model you need to practise what you preach to your child. Ephesians 6 v 4 says fathers do not be irrating your children but to bring them up with the disipline and mental regulation of Jehovah. Jesus was a fine role model, and he was perfect, we can try to copy his way of doing things but we are imperfect. Jehovah is a loving a Just God he wants us to love him and respect him, we need to earn respect from our children by being a good example. It sounds as if things were a bit distaughted in your family, But you didnt say whether your parents are still Jehovahs witnesses or wethe you have a relationship with them now. There sounds more to your story then you have said, but i know you cant write your whole life in a few sentences. If people did live by bible standards there wouldnt be the problems today, but as we are imperfect with selfish tendancies we sometimes dont think before we act, Parents do make mistakes, and no as a Jehovahs Witness you wouldnt tell your child off for spilling something that is an accident. I hope that you have found happiness in your life now, and can let it rest if not maybe you could go to a councillor and talk out your problems so you can let go of the hurt you seem to be going through I hope this helps you and have a good day!
Have you asked him? If not, why not? Are you a bit afraid of what he’ll say? If you have asked him, what does he say? His response, even though you may not like it, will tell you more than an infinite number of Quorans on an infinite number of devices. And now for the harsh truth—if he can't give you an answer that truly satisfies you, he's not your boyfriend. He’s just a guy you want to be with a whole lot more than he wants to be with you who sort of tolerates you. You both deserve better.
Should I move on or should I forgive my sister?
Good for your husband first off, I think its great that he is mature enough to only think of you in this. Next I think you are right about your sister being a little jealous. But she is your sister even with her faults and at least you are able to recognize why she does some of the things she does. I would let my family know that you will do your best to work through this and make sure that they know that you dont want them to feel like YOU are making them choose, if your sister wants to make them feel like that who cares. Then I would ask your sister if you two can talk just the two of you whenever its convienient for you both. And I would tell her that you love her and miss her and how she really hurt your feelings by breaking your trust and excluding your husband who you also love. Tell her you want all the people you love to be in your life so you are letting the past go. I dont know if she is mad at you or not so just put the ball in her court. Now even with all that I would not really trust heruntil you feel like you can. You are going to have to be the bigger person and remember that this involves her kids and other family members also. You both should want to have a good relationship for both your kids. It sounds like she is always going to need you more than you need her so just be patient and keep trying to understand where she is coming from with any future problems even though she wont be able to do the same usually. And yes what she did was very very wrong. Sorry this was almost as long as your question!
I am homesick and would love to move back?
Hello there, I moved to the States from Europe for my husband who is American. For me it was never a permanent situation I always said I wanna see how I like it which now sounds pretty naive. When I decided to move here I just followed my heart and didn't think too much :-) It's been almost 4 years and I am still homesick. I just came back from home visiting my family and friends and I just became godmother of my sister's newborn which made it even harder to leave. I am always depressed when I come back to the US since I miss everybody so much. When I am away from my husband I miss him so much as well of course. Yesterday he told me that he has no intention moving to Europe maybe in a few years but he can't promise me anything. We were also talking about having kids which he said he doesn't when he is ready to have kids and I said I would love to raise our kids in Europe. You see it is a big dilemma with us. He really loves the west coast and I would be ready for a compromise and moving to the east cost (where he is from) if we can't move to Europe. He doesn't wanna compromise anything. Does anybody has a solution for us? I was thinking about spending 3 months here and one month there and so on which is probably not the best idea either because I hate to be apart from him. I do freelance work so I could work pretty much anywhere. I just think life is too short living somewhere where you are not fully happy but it is also too short to be with everybody you love but your husband. Do you have any good suggestions and please don't tell me to get a divorce since it is not an option since I truly love him. Thank you for reading this.
Honestly, the best thing you can do is help her love learning. Everything else will follow.
Parents are not objective by definition, so your disclaimer in the details makes you appear as a non-parent.The benefits of this practice (called red shirting in US) has been touted by many, and there are books written on this subject.The point about a parent keeping the child back a year (otherwise the child would make a cut off and be admitted with the previous year's class) is a personal choice.My birthday is at the end of November - clearly I am outside that cut-off point for September school year start - but my mother went out of her way to make sure that I go to the first grade earlier.Why? That's beyond me - perhaps there was some competition with a neighbor's kid that I was not aware of, perhaps personal pride, perhaps it was me who appeared mature enough to cope with kids who are a whole year older than I were - she decided that and she made it happen.With my own child, I lucked out in terms of red shirting - my child is a winter baby: the naturally oldest one in the class, with more life experience so to speak compared to the other kids, and is someone kids look up to.I know one parent who had held her child back a year - by placing the girl into a private daycare center - and she states that it was exactly what the child needed to develop more of those social/emotional skills.Each child is different, you know.If you're looking for hard empirical evidence of benefits of being the oldest one in the class, then it's well-documented and proven - not sure why opinions of parents are even being asked for:Pros and Cons of Academic Redshirting: Should You Hold Your Child Out a Year?Should Children Be Held Back for Kindergarten?Can Your Kid Hack It in Kindergarten, or Should You Redshirt Him?
I felt someone was holding me down and I couldnt move or wake up?
In my dream I had the sensation that someone got in my bed from behind me and I couldnt see who it was and all of a sudden I felt that I was being held down and I couldnt move or talk all i could do was make a small small noise with my throat. It felt so real that I tried not to go back to sleep but my eye lids were soo heavy, and I was scared to go back to sleep, very scared.
PLEASE HELP did i screw up as a parent? about holding my son back a grade?
I used to teach 1st grade. The truth is that at this age, you could work with your son 12 hours a day and there are some concepts he may just not be ready to handle. That is a developmental thing. Either he is ready to handle the material or not. School is really hard these days for little kids, especially boys. We expect a lot out of 1st graders, way more than some of them are ready to handle. At this point, I would be very tempted to ask to have him put back in kindergarten. You are a very smart momma: if he goes through the year so far behind, he is going to get more & more frustrated. Then, when/if he gets held back, he is going to already be hating school and retention may not help at that point. At this age, you want your son to be happy & excited to go to school. Even though it means taking a step back, he will be in a place where he can reinforce his basic learning and have success. He **MUST** be able to have success at this age or he is going to hate learning. If the teacher is already telling you he is obviously and significantly behind the other kids, then it's time to take a step back. It's too bad his Kindergarten teacher didn't recognize that to save you this heartache now. If you can get him placed back, I would remind him of all the wonderful things about kindergarten: center time, more playtime, etc and tell him that his teacher is going to make sure he will grow his brain big & strong so he can be a really good first grader next year. The teachers should be able to help with the transition. Please know that you are an awesome mom for listening and being willing to adjust for your child. When I taught I had some parents who were so totally clueless that they wouldn't listen to any recommendations I had for them. This is not your fault, you are not an educational expert - the K teacher screwed up! Good luck. I'm so sorry that your son is struggling already in school. I hope that you & the school can figure out something to keep your son happy & successful. Please know that as the parent, you have a lot of power at the school. Don't let them push you around, you know your son best and you have to be his advocate.