Is Allah Fair in this world to everyone?
* Not being rude but just curious Why is it that Allah works this way ? People who make dua day and night for something they want they dont get it at all - On the other hand people who don't make dua at all they get what othher people pray day and night for... * Does Allah even care about our duas if he does why doesnt he give us - he gives to others who don't even ask him or make dua... The people who make dua feel jealous and envious of others because they are getting what they want > In the end it's unfair for those who make dua yet get nothing......
Why does everyone here in the Philippines wants to be fair?
So when I was young, I was praised and a lot of people told me I was cute and pretty because I still have a fair skin back then. But now, people are always asking me these questions, "Bakit ka na umitim? Ang puti mo dati aa.", "Bakit mas maputi yung mga kapatid mo kesa sayo?". Im so pissed off. Im already tan because I like to swim and be exposed into the sun, and the exposed areas became tan but the area covered by clothes are still fair. I do like my tan complexion though. And people think you're pretty if you have fair skin, but if you have a tan complexion people think you're not pretty.
My friend always starts drama?
whenever i hang out with my other friend, she gets jealous. she starts drama with me, i said i was at someones house she said who, i wouldnt tell her because i wasnt allowed to. she asked my other friend if were hanging, which she ALWAYS asks, and then she said no, and so did i. then shes all it wouldnt be fair if you did hang out with her and not me, blah blah htis that. my friend got fed up with her drama too. shes always so negative, and she lectures me about everything. then one day shes all do you trust her more or do you trust me? i trust you more blah blah, she always wants to be number one, shes not my only friend i have other friends to make time with. im not friends with her, some advice? her we always get into fights, she talks alot of crap about everyone, and whenever i talk to her its always about drama. help. then my other friend told her to go to hell, then she told me and shes lik ethats kinda mean how she told me, and i kept saying ok, and she expecting me to talk crap.
If life is unfair for everyone, doesn't that make it fair?
I have lived a horrible life, ranging from physical and mental torture from my Christian dad to an accident deforming my fool to later losing my foot. I have been used and abused by my last three partners. I live on very little money struggling to get enough to push away my misery for another week. Yet there are people who would look at my life and call it a great life. After all I have a games console and a mobile phone even though getting them took personal sacrifice like not buying any new clothes (except boxer shorts) since around 1995. I have a broken sofa and a broken washing machine and cannot do anything about it but there are people who would not even know about sofas or washing machines. There are people living in the most luxurious lives possible, who have never had to struggle for anything ever. Life is not fair but its not equally not fair, for that to be the case everyone would have to suffer some real difficulties and even then it wouldn't be equal.Life is unfair but is equally unfair is a not true statement, in fact is impossible to be true. If every person was treated equally unfair then how could you call it unfair equality is the fairest possible system.
Do you believe that life is fair? Can you prove how is it fair or how is it not?
Let me present some points in regard to this question:Bill Gates says he reads a book every week. Obviously, anybody that rich does not have to worry about everyday problems. Moreover, money can buy everything-even time. So, Bill Gates reading a book every week is not a big issue. We are common people- we don’t have that much of free time in our hands. Yes, we are definitly more busy than that 9-year old boy who wakes up early in the morning, helps his mother in household chores, then helps his father in the fields, and rushes for his evening job. His eyes are drooping when he returns home, but still he picks up a book to read.While watching a You tube make-up tutorial, where several MAC products are used by the make-up artists, we girls close the video and sign, “ Yeah…as if I could afford all those products :/ These rich people- they can buy whatever they want.” And at that very moment, your maid’s daughter, after applying a local brand nailpaint shows it to you with such a gleeful laughter on her face!“My my….ouch ouch, it is that time of the month again…This excrutiating pain-I wish I could die….Why does it always happen with me?….I wish I were a boy. I don’t want to go to work in such a condition… Let me call in sick.” And there, the female labourer too in her periods, but she looks at her boy who will not get food if she does not go to work. May be, their bodies are made of steel or may be they have consumed a magic potion which exempts them from menstruation.You are more than full- you stomach might burst if you have that last slice of pizza. So, you are about to throw it in the trash can. But just then, your maid comes running to you and tells you to stop. She asks you to give it to her so that she can pack it for her son.A home maker belonging to a middle class family fights with her husband because he did not present her the diamond jewelry set, which she had begged him to give on their anniversary. Another woman, same age as that of her- having no other option, as she could not get a loan, enters the world of prostitution because she wants her son to complete his education.Life is not fair. Everyone has a struggle- that is what life is made up of. Face the problems with a smile on your face. The life about which you are complaining might be the dream life for someone else. Stop complaining, be contended with what you have. Live a blissful life.
My boyfriend wants me to become fair. What should I do? (read question detail)
Firstly, I understand that it is not easy to throw a five year relationship. But the problem is "Please somehow become fair because otherwise my family will be humiliated in the society and they won't allow me to marry you". Now, I just hope that you know that you cannot become fair. You will always have a complexion that you are born with, unless you take some medical procedure if it exists. Fairness creams etc do not work. I just hope when he says that "you should try and become fair" he knows what he is saying. I think he is trying to break up with you, and he is giving silly reasons for that. People with common sense know that you cannot change the colour of your skin. If you still think you want to live with this person, all your life, it is your decision. Now coming to the main part where you say, "How should I make him understand?" Do you think if he had brains and common sense he would have spoken this to you? This is not a situation where he is not aware that he is hurting you. He is hurting you. And he knows that. And that is the reason I say again, that he is trying to get rid of you. Hope this helps and you move on.
Why is fair skin in general considered to be superior than dark? Do black people also desire to look fairer?
I am not asking this question in any racist manner. All I am talking about is skin colour. Why is fair skin considered superior in so many cultures. For instance, I am an Indian and I have brown skin. It goes fairer in winters and darker in summers, but altogether its brown if compared to the whites. Now, in India, at least, fair-skinned people always have an upper-hand over the dark skinned. They generally belong to the "upper-class" and many even have the audacity to "flaunt" that they are European descendants. Anyway, some people here say that the reason of this mentality is because the British ruled over India for over 200 years and they looked down upon the general Indian masses. Thus Indians suffer from this inbred inferiority complex and they always wish to look fairer. Is the scenario same in every society? Does everybody (apart from the white, since they like to get themselves tanned) want to get their skin lightened? And, like brown skinned people, do black people also desire to look fairer?
Is it really fair to stop someone from trying to commit suicide?
I'm not talking about people who were bullied so bad that they felt taking their own life would be the only answer. thats bad . things should have been taken care of before they got to that point and i find that really sad . what i'm talking about is if someone is like not fit to live in this world , like if they were born in the wrong age and time and even with help wont make the way they are. or people who get ill and know they are going to deal with some severe struggles if they continue living with sickness. or people who struggle with a depression so deep and miserable its hard to breath, or live, or function . depression so bad it physically pains you , where you're seriously in pain . depression so bad you lose other emotions , and reality and slip in to a dark hole of misery and and constant painful suffering thats indescribable. how is it fair to tell them to keep on living ? what if you're just prolonging their suffering giving them false hope? tell them to get help . the ill person gets help that stops the illness for awhile then it hits back full force a few months later. was it fair to tell them to keep living? or the person dealing with constant depression. you tell him to go get help and he dies but all they do is give him medication that if he stops taking will make him drop lower than ever . did telling him to go get help make things better? so is is fair to to prolong the torture of a suffering person?