My friend is threatening to tell my biggest secret ever! help!?
Okay, this might be reverse psychology. You could say,something like, "I Don't care... go ahead. I just made it up in the first place anyway to see if I Could trust you. And obviously it worked b/c it taught me that I CAN'T trust you. so go ahead, its all a big lie anyway." It won't matter that this is a lie, you are lying to save yourself b/c you aren't doing anythign bad. Try not to talk to her at all after that happens. The more nonchalant you act like and hte moreyou act like uyou dont care, the more likely and quicker ppl are going to drop it. Trust me, when I broke up w/ my bf everyone wanted to know but hten I was like, "Oh don't woryr about it. it's fine. we just werent' working out." And pretty soon ppl just forgot b/c they knew I wasn't getting worked up over it so they knew it wasn't going to be anything exciitng to talk about or anything....I'm sorry your ex-friend is like this. NEVER go back to her no matter what, even if her bf dumps her and shes like 'no i need you! i madea mistake!" DO NOT. The same thingw ill just happen all over again with another guy...& guys come and go alot to yahh forget her forever! and next time, don't rly tell anyone your biggest secrets fi you are that afraid someone else will find out. a lot of ppl have trouble keeping their mouths shut . plus, does the other person RLY have to know??? It's just something personal-It's yhour own choice. It's not wrong to keep a secret that is so personal. Good luck.
I yelled at this girl; And she likes me even more? She agreed to a date also. Is she desperate?
You demonstrated what most men don't understand, and why being a "nice guy" constantly with women doesn't work when picking up women. You used a "neg". A "neg" is a statement or action made to briefly, without insult, disqualify oneself from being perceived as a potential suitor. Most women know that most of the guys who come up to them probably want to bang them. She probably told most guys her problems before. She expected them to have sympathy for her and have answers to her problems. The guys think the reward of showing her sympathy will be them taking her out and eventually taking her to bed. In all reality, she knows the answers to her problems, she doesn't need some guys sympathy. You on the other hand threw out a "neg". You told her you were annoyed by her behavior. What did this do to her? Immediately, she felt like she just lost value in your eyes. Her train of thoughts read, "I'm beautiful...but I didn't win this guy over with his sympathy. Why not? I'm good at this. I'll just fix his perception of me. Everyone wants me." Women are self-concious. If you get a woman off from her pedastal, you create interest from her. "Negs" are good to use to break a woman down to where she isn't protective and you can then demonstrate your value to a woman. Just be careful not to go overboard with insults, especially with women who are below what men would say is a nine or ten. Women that stand below this ranking are self concious enough, and you don't want to go overboard making insult to injury. Nines and tens know they are the cream of the crop, they insult men enough, so it's ok to use "negs" a little more on them because they take a little more work to break down. Good job and good luck!
So stressed over this situation.. best friend? Or shady girl?
Lord I'm glad I'm not in high school anymore. I'm going to try to give you the best of advice I have for dealing with girls like that. You can either use it or throw it away. First you must realize she can never be trusted as a friend again. She might even try to get close to you again in the future just to hurt you worse. From what you stated it sound like she has jealously issues with you. Second you're doing a great job of avoiding her. If you don't want to make a scene at school its best to just give y'all some space. Now this is some things that I would do (not saying you should do it). I would call her out. I would tell her to back up before I step forward and knock her somewhere far out of this world. I would really tell her about herself and put her in her place. Now that might lead to a fight but if that was another girl but from what you said she is just a coward because she wont answer your texts. And it seems like she only do things behind your back. That's another reason why she's fake and a coward. You could continue to avoid her but somewhere y'all are going to kill this. You need to be straight forward with her and let her know she fake and you don't want anything to do with her anymore. If you want more suggestions or want to talk just email me (gangstagurll2010@yahoo.com). I know high school can be the greatest and the worse years of a person life and sometimes you really just need someone to talk too. Oh yea try not to stress too much because she's not worth it. Don't let her have that much of control over you (and i know that's easier said than done). I wish you the best of luck, keep your head up, be strong and i hope i helped :)
Who is the most interesting person you met while traveling?
Thanks for the A2A which given me an opportunity to explain about one of my Best friend.It was in September 2011 when I'm going from Hyderabad to Bangalore to my brothers house who settled in Bangalore. I met this Chinese girl in Hyderabad station. She was in her late 20s, She was struggling to buy her food in the station because of language the problem, I went there and helped her she thanked me EOC there.My train came I rushed into it and settled in my berth, after couple of hours I got bored and thought of going to the entrance and stand over there to kill some of my time. When I went there for my surprise the Chinese Girl ( Who I met in the Station) is standing over there in the entrance. She smiled when she saw me and I also reflected the same.She looked fairly nice.We were introduced as strangers , we talked for a while and we became friends. She given me her visiting card.She is working in a MNC , she came here on a Project. By the End of the journey we became fairly close then. Our journey come to an end as we reached Bangalore station and mean while we became friends in Facebook through mobiles.We used to talk each other almost everyday Through Facebook. After few days we exchanged numbers used to talk over phone quite often and we used to meet twice or thrice in a week.Despite the differences in cultures and languages we communicated and understood each other in a way no one else ever would. We were always there for each other. Gradually as time passed, she became my best friend.. she taught me so many things.It was she who made a realize that friendship is not just about hanging out with each other.. it goes beyond that. I don't think she ever realized how she was changing my life and making it more beautiful every day.But all good things come to end. She had to leave as her project came to an end and when she told me she had to leave.. I was broken into tears. How could I can live without my best friend, a friend who changed my life?I still remember her last day in my city. we sat in silence for a few moments and it seemed like we did not have to say anything to each other. we understood each other well enough.. we knew what this silence was all about.When it was time for her to go, We both broken into tears.I promised her that we would meet again.and then she was gone..Its been two years and every time I think about it.. tears roll down from my eyes.
It's my birthday today and my parents still treat me like crap! I'm so sick of my life!?
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This weekend made me realize how uncool I am.
Yeah, this weekend I was hanging out with my friends and we were having a good time. On Friday, we went to Otakon, this convention in the Baltimore Convention Center. We had a good time and stuff, yeh yeh. Second day, Saturday, we went to the convention again. It was fun, my friend went to some girl and he talked to her and she fell for him. Later, Saturday, my other friends talked to some other girls and got numbers and asked if they wanted to come to the movies later. They said sure, and then came with us to the movies. It was about 12 of us including the girls, everyone had one except me. We went to see Pineapple Express. My friend had no money, so we did the swapparoo with tickets and got everyone else in. I got a ticket, but I didn't know what I was supposed to do, so I gave him the ticket which was for another movie and I said "I made a mistake, let me go get the other ticket." I felt like a idiot waiting in the lobby by myself for 10. I had no money to buy a real ticket. I never did it before. Thankfully, one of the other people came out a gave me a ticket to flash to the guy checking them. Once I got in the theater I saw everyone was laughing at me. I felt really bad. I felt stupid too. I embarrassed myself in front of everyone. I looked like a little kid because someone had to come back out. I just took a seat in the corner and watched the movie in silence. Then, later that night, everyone else hooked up in a seperate room upstairs while I was downstairs staring at the ceiling trying to go to sleep. Sunday, I just walked home with my belongings. It was a good 2 hour walk. I didn't want to be driven home or hang out anymore because I was too uncool and naive for them(at least that's what I thought). I made up an excuse of a family emergency so I could go home. That walk home was a long, lonely trek. It doesn't matter, I'm used to it anyway. I'm a loner. I'm not used to picking up random girls or swapping movie tickets. I'm not that cool. I guess I'll stay that way for the rest of my life. Sometimes I stay quiet to avoid saying something stupid, but on Saturday I didn't have to say a word.
How did you meet your best friend?
Just a question coming straight out of the boredom I am experiencing right now. I have two best friends. One is my mom, who I met rather conveniently when exiting her womb. The other is my boyfriend, and I met him after I was forced to visit a college I wanted nothing to do with AT ALL, and that I was forced to visit. My parents FORCED me to go look at North Georgia college. And I whined and begged and cried and pleaded, and when they didn't budge, I threw a tantrum and locked myself in my room and said if I visited there, they would have to physically remove me from the house, buckle me in and take me there. They asked me what was my aversion to just visiting the school, and as a last ditch attempt, I said, "I want to meet the person I marry when I go to college, and I'll NEVER marry someone in the military." And my dad actually swore. I've never heard him swear except for this one time, when he said, "Hayden, that's a load of bullshit, now open this door and come out or else I'm taking your door away." So I came out of my room, and they made me go visit, and I loved it. And I had to swallow my pride and tell my parents they were right, I was wrong, blah blah blah... So I decided to go there, and I started looking for people that went there, to get a feel for the college, etc... And that was when I found Jeremy. And we talked for a while, and then when my first semester started at the college, we decided to meet up and hang out... I had been talking smack about soccer, about how wonderful I was at it and how it was my sport and I was incredible and blah blah blah... None of this was true haha. So he said, 'Well why don't we go to the soccer field and kick the ball around some?' And I was like, 'Uhhh... Ok.' And of course he discovered I was lying about my skills. For a while I was a little dependent on him, and I had a big crush on him, and it drove him crazy. He told me I was like a little sister to him and we would never be anything more. Except for last year, he decided I wasn't so "little sisterly" anymore, and we started dating, and he has become my best friend. Oh, and the funny thing is, he's in the Army. :-P All my reasons for not going to North Georgia turned out to be pointless haha. And stupid to begin with. :-P But that's how I met my two best friends. How did you meet yours?