I am in such a dilemma - what to do?
I am living with my hubbie and child overseas and we planned to go back to our country of origin in a months time. Doing so will mean we loose out on money, and will both be unemployed. However we will have more support, and will not have to pay rent as can live with family for a while before getting a job. Yesterday my hubbie said I should go back to family with our son, and leave him so he could save up some money for 1-2 months. This is a dilemma as I don't know how good it would be for our marriage or our son to not see his dad for that long, it means that there is another 1-2 months of him not being able to find work other than that overseas. But we'll loose less money and make more money. And may be we need a little space from eachother too. Hmm what to do?
You are faced with a dilemma: Live another 50 years, but in crushing poverty, or live just 25 years more, but in comfortable affluence. Which do you choose, and why?
I recently turned 19, so my choice is between a wealthy 19-44, or an impoverished 19-69.Before I tell you my answer, I will state the assumptions I'm making:Death is coming to me at the end of the time period, regardless of what I try to do to stop it.“Crushing poverty" means constantly working dreadful jobs to stay alive, eating very cheaply and sometimes insufficiently, and having no spare money for entertainment.“Comfortable affluence" means I work, but in a relatively enjoyable job, and that I can afford to take time off to holiday. I don't have to worry about rents or mortgages, and I can eat pretty much whatever I want.I’m going to take the 25 years. If I am living in crushing poverty for the next 50 years of my life, I will probably not be able to get any kind of higher education. I will be stuck with A-levels, and I doubt I will have the time or the energy to study at home.Also, two of my favourite things to do are playing field hockey and going to the gym. The cheapest gym in my area is £25 per month ($32), and my hockey club membership is by far the cheapest in the area at £135 for the season ($173). If I were living in crushing poverty, I doubt I could afford to spare this kind of cash. I also probably wouldn’t have the schedule flexibility to play hockey 2-3 times a week if I were working in such a low-paying job.And the benefits of wealth are just as important as the drawbacks of poverty. I love cooking, and while it is fun to experiment and create to live off what is in the cupboard, it's much more fun to cook with high quality ingredients. Not to mention, it's much more healthy and delicious.On top of that, I won't have to work through university, so I can focus on my degree. Also, if I'm going to be comfortably affluent regardless of my job, I could use my economics degree to get a job I will enjoy, rather than one that pays well. I can also take time off to go on holiday, visit my family, and travel.So that's my answer. I will regret not having an extra few decades of life, but I will enjoy what I have a lot more. I will also not have to worry even nearly as much about diseases associated with old age.
What Achilles' Dilemma is?
Hi everyone. I read the book Iliad by Homer and I have to write a essay about Achilles' Dilemma which he can fight for the Greek and live short but with glory or he can go back home, live long but inglorious life. The essay requires me to explain what Achilles' dilemma is, and what decision he makes in Book 9 of Homer's Iliad. So if anyone can give me some ideas?
The hedgehog dilemma?
So I have this issue, commonly referred to as the hedgehog dilemma. Whenever I try to get close to someone, I end up hurting them and vice versa. I pretty much don't have any friends any more because of this. I'm fine being alone, but only of I'm totally alone and they aren't there to rub their happiness in my face. I'm sick of it. I want this feeling to stop and I want to stop hurting and being hurt in return. I want my friends back. What can I do?
What is the biggest dilemma you had to face in your life?
My biggest dilemma I had to face in life is to VOTESounds funny right?But I am serious, from our childhood we were taught the importance of voting in elections. I remember my history teacher giving examples of how even one vote can make a difference.But know the reason for the dilemma is:How do I decide whom to vote? I believe I am a rational being who has no bias to any political party or influenced by religion or any other factor.My opinion is influenced daily by a lot of things like:Newspaper: The newspapers have become highly biased, for example take example of Andhra Pradesh all the leading dailies are mouth pieces of one or the other party. A normal person can read a maximum of one paper daily. So the more you read the more you get influenced with the party ideology.Okay, Lets not read the newspaper like many youth of our country and instead follow social media like facebook, youtube etcLet me give you an example again: I regularly follow GUULTEE ( name changed) for movie and political news.. this website seems to be aligned to a political party; till few months they praised a cine actor who came to politics and supported a party and now when he changes his stand everything the actor does is projected like a mistake. So what’s the solution?I started to read another website: CINEBOSH (name changed) This website supports anything and everything done by the actor.And the recent examples of Cambridge Analytica used facebook data supports the above argument.So the second option available is promises given by parties in their election manifestoTake manifesto of any political party there are promises on each and everything and yet most of it are fulfilled. So let’s leave manifesto as well.Thirdly,Lets us judge the government by the kind of laws and policies it makes which would benefit the state or a country. Seems good right?Wait now the problem is: What if Government doesn’t implement laws already made. Can this happen? YES example of implementation of AP reorganization act. I am not blaming any particular political party but yes this truly happened.Fourthly,Lets leave all these: If a party has good CM or PM candidate and a worst MLA/MP representing our constituency how should I vote?Should I decide based on Party or candidate?Last OptionSo I decide to choose NOTA. But how does it help a society when NOTA votes are just removed and has zero effect in elections.So I think voting in elections is a big dilemma !!
How can I solve this serious dilemma described below?
I can totally relate with you. I was in somewhat similar situation. My father is well. My family was eagerly looking alliances for me, I was also helping them. But somehow every other guy used to reject me. My parents started getting stressed,not sleeping during night. My marriage was the only topic discussed in my home. It looked like, the day I would get married everything will change miraculously in my home. Out of blue, one guy said yes to me. Since first day I never liked that guy, but everyone was so happy around me, I thought maybe I can do that much for my parents. And otherwise also he was a very nice guy, just that he was not my type. I never felt anything for that guy. I live in different city from my parents. I met that guy for about 2-3 times. He would treat me very well. But after every meeting I would cry for about 20-30 mins on my situation. My parents started doing all the arrangements, wedding date ,hotels everything. But one fine day, I said no. I was thinking maybe with time I will start liking him. It never happened, he kept on trying more and more to impress me.(I had already told him in starting that I dont feel the same way as he feels) My frustration started increasing exponentially.Still I am not married, but I am very proud of my decision. Although sometimes I feel that I did so wrong with that guy. I hope some day he will understand that my decision was correct. He also deserved someone better than me, someone who can reciprocate the same feelings that he had. I knew for sure I cannot do that much.And in the end, sometimes you need to be a bit selfish in life. Its about your happiness.