Help with social anxiety, and lack of confidence?
I always go by not caring what other people think, and I shouldn't, but yet I find myself constantly comparing myself to others. I'm always stuck thinking of something I could have done better or 'why couldn't I be like that.' I have terrible anxiety when it comes to people because I never know what to say or do. I even get anxiety when it comes to hanging out with friends sometimes. Please help or give me some advice. Or if you have some good advice and could talk further, email please.
I have social anxiety, how can i improve my confidence?
I am 16 yrs old boy and I am also social anxious and I have bipolar disorder too, so I am so worried about my esteem and any slight poking can harm my sensitive mind, I can understand your problem. Do you know social anxious peoples are social then anyone else from inside, if you get a person who is same type then you can practice and get to know your internal sociality, I think maybe you are social anxious but you have confidence on you, The main problem of social anxiousness is any social activities other people do so easily (e.g. relationship, talking friendly) we find is\t comparatively hard to do, and 1 in every 45 American are potentially suffering by social anxiousness, it's niter insane nor psychotic so just try to be positive, even you can pretend that everything is fine and will be fine and move on... Or you can check out psychiatrist for better suggestions and medications (If needed) Be happy, be positive :)
How does one gain confidence lost due to social anxiety?
Oh dear !! Good that you asked this question rather than keeping quiet.I have met thousands of people so far. I can tell you, I have met many of this type. So don't worry much. These phases come in everybody's life. Things will change. Just give it some time. In the meantime, follow these tips which I give to everybody.I can see you are not a gym type. First join a gym and eat well to put on at least 10 Kg. weight with some shape.Forget about the girls for the time being. Just answer questions. Period. When there is a need for you to talk, official only, use email. I can see you are a good communicator in writing. You can also send good morning mails.Join Face Book, if you have not done it so far. Keep on hitting likes whenever you feel like it. Write comments. Put something on your wall daily.Respond to comments thereon. Aim at having at least 500 FB friends. Send requests to unknown people, whose posts you like, till you reach the target. At least twice in a week, put your photo on the wall. Avoid posting quotes.Go for trekking with unknown group. You will find many shy people there. Just be friendly with them and try to help every body.Make at least one male friend. Hang around with him as much as possible.Forget about changing the job. It is you that needs the change.Read lot of fiction. Once in a while read non-fiction also. ( I used to see 7 movies a week in theater in those days, and read around 100 pages a day of anything I could lay my hands on.).Put your heart in your work. What you need is one good success story earned the hardest way.Just remember, it is not necessary for everybody to fall in love or have relationships. In India, more than 90% marriages are arranged marriages.Please believe in what is said above.My best wishes are with you.One last thing. I have seen crowd in the IT field. Please don't try to become like them if you are different. There is nothing wrong in being yourself. It is more likely that people will like you in original than as a convert.
Social anxiety, how do i improve my social confidence?
I'm not really a good person to give advice, as I am exactly the same as you and worry all the time about not being good enough to the point where I won't go out or be around people. It is a horrible rut to get into and is hard to break. In hindsight, I think I run away too much and don't face my fears or challenge them enough. I know it is easy to give advice but not always so easy to adopt, but if I could change anything about myself it would be that I had more confidence and liked myself more, because that way you wouldn't be as bothered about what people think about you. As somebody else said, not everyone will like you nor will you like everyone, so you just have to try and accept who you are and stop worrying. Try talking to someone that you can trust, as a problem shared is a problem halved and sometimes you feel better for getting it all of your chest. I also feel a lot better after a good cry, as it lets all of your frustration out. Also try researching social Anxiety, there are many books out there that can help you and give you tips. One I have read is overcoming social Anxiety and Shyness by Gillian Butler (I think) Good luck and hang on in there. xx
Social Anxiety, Depression, and low Self-Confidence?
I'm 21 and it has kept me from living anywhere near a normal life. I was taken out of school when I was 6 or 7 because I was so shy that I'd always try to escape or hide. I home-schooled until I was 14 or so, then I stopped that too. I have almost no real-life friends, because I avoid socializing the best I can. I also have kind of a shell so no one can get close to me, and never gets a chance to anyway because I try to make myself appear unapproachable or busy so no one bothers me. I tried to change about every year once I turned 15, and always failed to maintain it. I applied for jobs at 15, but didn't get one, and haven't since. An average day for me now is just wake up, go on the computer, then go to sleep. I used to be outside most of the day playing sports and whatnot, but those days are long gone. Things I dread are any social situations. Like, I scheduled a dentist appointment 3 weeks ahead of time, and every day I'd dwell on it. Meeting new people sucks too because it's embarrassing. Basically anything that reminds me how my life is makes me depressed because I thought my life would turn out differently. At the same time though, I always knew I would end up miserable, because I've always make my life worse so I can be secretly miserable. I always thought I'd end up killing myself (don't do that) since I was little, but I no longer think I will, I'm just stuck with the life I created for myself. Things that help me in social situations is to just stop caring what other people think of me. Basically just pretend to be confident. Part of me genuinely doesn't care what others think, but I've always also been really hard on myself. What helps my depression is realizing suicide isn't an option, because my family would be devastated. So, the logical thing to do is change and be happy. Being unhappy is just a waste; it's completely unnecessary. Though I hate my life, I remain optimistic that I'll someday be happy. I hope you are too.
How can I stop my social anxiety and become more confident?
I myself struggle with social anxiety and confidence issues. There are six steps to help you that I have learned.Don’t judge people because they are not judging you.Fake it til you make it. Act confident and maybe you will work your way up to being confident.Be mysterious. Don’t be an open book, leave a little to the imagination.give compliments to other people, make them feel good.step out of your comfort zone.smilepractice talking to people by saying small phrases like “good morning”if you have self esteem issues maybe try working out or just trying to look at yourself a different way. Don’t over work to the point where you become unhealthy though.have something to fidget with. like a button off a shirt that you can flip. Something to keep your mind off the social aspect of whatever it is you’re doing.I hope i could help. feel free to message me if you need more advice or need some one to talk to.
How can someone with social anxiety be confident?
It is common for people on the autistic spectrum to have social anxiety. The best thing I found without going into a meltdown and yes I have had a few that ended in panic attacks. The last one left me with a temporary paralysis and a blinding headache/migraine. Those on the autistic spectrum often need more time to process things, a clear routine and clear instructions, people on the autistic spectrum have sensory issues and are overwhelmed by colours bright lights or noise.No seriously I have recently found meditation and mindfulness a very helpful way to calm the anxiety that builds up like a volcano. I often carry a stress ball with me to squeeze. I close my eyes and focus on my breathing 10 breaths inhale and exhale. I keep the “samaritans” crisis helpline on speed-dial in case I start to methodically plan my “suicide” oh yes I have very good days and I have very very dark days.If you smoke, quit smoking today. It worsens the symptoms of depression and anxiety, as do recreational drugs or alcohol. Don’t self-medicateTake a ten minute walk around the block, your nearest park, Where-ever you are, take the time to just be still and quiet. In the bath or shower. I often find a walk clears the air and quiets the mind. I feel calmer.Live for each moment, each hour, each day.Say to yourself every night before you go to sleep. “Tomorrow is going to be a good day.”Avoid computer screens, social media and phone usage one hour before bed. This stimulates the brain and causes restlessness when you should be sleeping.The most important thing to do is: Talk! It really helps. Hope this helpsTomorrow throw open the curtains and smile
Is social anxiety caused by low self-confidence?
Not necessarily.I have been avoiding crowds and social situations since I was a kid, and to some extent I still do. I was very quiet and almost anti-social.The difference is, when I was young I used to let that emotion get the best of me, I stayed in that shell and tried to avoid situations/confrontation and people in general, but it wasn’t necessarily that I lacked confidence, I actually believed in myself quite a lot, i just hadn’t used that emotion to help me yet.Nowadays, I still get that nervousness or anxiety when going out or meeting new people or knowing ill be around a bunch of people, it always gets me, but I’m very secure in who I am in a lot of ways, and very confident in myself in some ways as well…to the point where at times I don’t even know when something is difficult for someone else because I’ve completely forgotten this is supposed to be an intimidating or scary thing.Therefore, I have some pretty big balls, I do things other people are too scared to do (normal people :P), and most people assume I am an extrovert, when I tell them I used to be a very shy kid who’s much more introverted than a natural extrovert, they don’t believe it.This doesn’t mean I’m confident in every single way either, in some situations where I’m anxious or just feeling shy, the anxiety can get the best of me still.Overall though, I perform really well in social situations now, I am confident, but I always feel that anxiety, and it’s almost paralyzing sometimes. But I learned to just push myself through it and depend on the skills and abilities that I know I have and that really worked because I can overcome most negative or anxious emotions.I also give myself time to relax and adjust to a situation, because I’m just not a natural extrovert, however sometimes I can blend right in and be social from the start and people would never think I had to deal with these inner emotions first, but no matter how confident I have gotten (and I consider myself up there in confidence) I still can’t shake the anxiety, it’s just wired into me, but it’s a lot less than it used to be, the more I keep being social the easier it gets.However, when i stay to myself for a few days, kind of recharging myself, or for an extended period of time, i notice the anxiety builds up a lot more and I have a harder time dealing with it, so it’s best to keep myself out and in the world, socializing and getting used to it.
Depression, social anxiety, family and self confidence. Help?
Basically Im having alot of trouble living right now and would like some answers or tips on what to do. Im a 19 year old girl with no direction, alot of regrets and alot of time on my hands. Any information or similar stories to mine would be greatly appreciated. Haters and Piss takers kindly get ******. Throughout my life I have travelled and lived in several different countries. Mainly for the reason that my parents havent been able to settle. About a year and a half ago they wanted to move again but I decided I wanted to stay in Australia to try and create a 'base' or a 'home'. A year went by and I experienced some of the happiest times I have had, nothing particularly awesome happened I was just comfortable with who i was and where i was for a change. I'v always been independent and have a rather love/hate relationship with my folks, so it was good to get out of their hair. I was confident, and popular and found i felt alot lighter and clear headed. This went on for a while but then suddenly, for no particular reason I developed an anxiety disorder, It very quickly worsened and I found myself having what seemed to be mild-ish panic attacks all the time. I was usually bubbly but suddenly when i was around people my mind would go blank when i wanted to say something, i felt totally self conscious and went very noticeably quiet. It got in the way of my job, my rent went downhill, so i decided to call up the fmaily and get them to bail me out . Now im back in my 'home'country and I feel like the biggest stranger. My issues have gotten alot worse to the point of me being stuck in my room most of the time, avoiding any situation where i have to talk to anybody. Im feeling so lost and apathetic, I have so much anger which i didnt have before, being back with the family is bringing up all these awful feelings of regret and I cant seem to pull myself out. Depression is not new to me, i have had bouts of it since i was about 13, I also had a rather severe case of OCD when I was 9 (haha aside from all this i seemed like a pretty normal girl). I know i am in a luckier place than others, and with financial support of my parents, my options are endless! But thats half the problem :( . I want to do so many things, but cant seem to ever get close to doing them. I dont mean to sound ungrateful, but feel so stuck.
Anxiety and lack of confidence?
I wouldn't call it a disease, but a disorder. Anxiety, lack of confidence, and depression can be controlled with medication and/or therapy. You need to see your regular Dr. and tell him/her about your problem. He can prescribe a therapist for you, or a medication such as Paxil or Effexor. There are many others, I just know about those 2. These disorders sometimes run in families, from generation to generation. My dad had anxiety attacks that he described as "rumblings and fluttering in his stomach". I have anxiety and depression and am treated with medication daily. I had a lack of confidence that would keep me in the house for days--I was so afraid of doing the wrong thing and people laughing at me. I still am a loner and do things by myself. One of my daughters has anxiety and depression disorder, and is taking meds and seeing a therapist. Her anxiety kept her from going places with friends and traveling--she would literally get sick! So, you see, you aren't alone, but you do need to see a professional for help. Go to the phone and make an appointment with your doc right now, please!