Ex best friend talks behind my back...advice?
Ok so i have been friends with this girl since 1st grade and we were best friends, then last school year she started talking behind my back, telling everyone i was mean 2 her and was jelous of her becuz she was friends with some chick (which is absolutly not true at all) and she eventually got every one of my friends at school to hate me because she was saying lies about me to them. i told my other friends that thoes are not true and they diddnt believe me. i confronted her about it and told her too stay out of my life and dont talk about me again and she kept doing it. all of this drama made me decide too change my school. I finally got my friends to kinda understand were im comming from, but they want me to appolagize too her!! what do i do??
Please give me some advice! friend problem!?
Ask yourself this, How would I feel if this leads to her death and I knew about it and didn't tell someone? When your friend gets better, she will thank you for letting the counselor know. When her mom finds out, she's not going to "flip." She's going to be concerned for her daughter and want her to get help. She's going to be upset that she didn't know sooner.
Me and my very best friend never talk. help?
Believe it or not, this situation is hurtful but it is going to help you grow. You will start opening up to new people around you. Nobody is irreplaceable. Your friend is ready to widen her circle, including you, but not giving you a privileged position. That is a change, but you will grow over it. For your friend, you were not enough anymore(sometimes parents advice their kids to stop hanging with same friend forever), for you she was enough in the big world. Bless her every day and take every day as an adventure? Who knows how many lovely people you can befriend with open mind?
I am super shy but I want to have guy friends. What is some advice about talking to guys?
From someone who is still in school let me just say I completely understand where you are coming from. I myself am a female and my best friends are three different guys who I respect and trust completely. Guys are a bit different then girls yes, but depending on who you talk to they can be easier to get to know. The best advice I could give is to approach in confidence. Don’t be weird about it and don’t walk into a conversation of two people you don’t know. They’ll consider it very odd if a stranger just comes up like HEEEYYYYY. Have a friend introduce you or at a time you think is appropriate. See I was friends with a guy who’s like my best friend of all time, and then we transferred schools together, he made guy friends and then I slowly introduced myself and now we all are good friends. Show confidence when in conversation, don’t show them that you are scared. I know it’s hard but just try to act confident and then soon you’ll be comfortable with them. Understand all guys aren’t the same and some will want to flirt and be friends with you for the wrong reasons cause well they are guys. I respect all my friends and stay clear of those types of people. My conversations range from a wide variety of things. About once a day if I feel the conversation with someone is going and down and there begins to be that horrible awkward silence I look down at the ground for a second or two and then look up and say “Wow I really want a taco right now.” (or if its the same person I’ll say some other random food that I may be craving cause I’m always craving something.) They usually laugh at that and the conversation continues. I resort to that only if needed. You can have a set of lines or something that you can have memorized to help keep conversations going. It helps in all situations not just guys. I hope that somewhat helps:)
Some advice: why do my friends turn out to be such idiots?
I'm 22, single, live alone. I love to play music and I'm into recording my own stuff. I love really dorky stuff like philosophy, religion and art. I've been a loner since time began, not ashamed of it. I always seem to wind up with the lousiest 'friends' who would look on and laugh as I nearly got into confrontation snitches who would talk behind my back and lie to my face. I don't know if it's jealousy, or opportunism, or what.. it doesn't help that life is going nowhere at the moment either. But the last thing I need is idiots trying to take advantage of me, why is this happening and how do I stop it.
How do you find a topic to talk to a friend/group of friends that you are not close with?
The best lead in question when you know nothing about the person, is to ask them where they are from. See if you have common ground.You can also ask what they do for a living, but risk embarrasment if they are unemployed or stay at home parent.If you see a picture of some other place like Paris or Madrid, ask them if they have ever been there. Even if you have not, you can say how you find it facinating and would like to in the future.The art of conversation is not difficult, but does need to be learned. You can sometimes start with what they are wearing and go from there.
What is some advice to give to a friend when their mom died?
Previous answers here are very correct. You don’t give advice in this situation. Unless you’ve experienced a parent dying, your perspective on what your friend is going through is going to be way off. Even if you have personally experienced the death of a parent, everyone experiences grief differently. It is deeply personal, and so many grieving people report that they are hurt by people telling them how they “should” or “shouldn’t” be feeling, or by people telling them what they “should” or “shouldn’t” be doing.The best thing you can do is to listen to your friend, and support their needs. They may want to talk about their mom, way beyond what you feel comfortable with. Let them. Or they may not want to talk about anything at all. In the worst of my depression, some of my best friends would come over and just sit with me. We’d read books. We would NOT talk. It was incredibly comforting. Remember that there is no time limit on grief. It may take your friend a few months to return to their normal life. It may take years. Your friend may be altered permanently by this experience. Your job, as a true friend, is to walk beside them on their journey, help them care for their needs, and never be pushy or judgmental about how they deal with it.
Help my friend wants to join a gang i need advice to give to him?
simple - give a reply yes or no gangs generally are folks whose personalities have made them outcast by their own doings gangs offer no real benefit to anyone .... you are offering to risk your health or life for a "leader" who simply wants backups to his own ideas gangs are also against the law, so any activity there can bring you a permanent record or jailtime gangs also bring heartbreak and harm - offer nothing to the persons involved or society if he wants to stand for something - stand for something that betters him as a person and society! thanks for your concern - that is a sign of a true friend best wishes to you both!
My friend is suffering from severe depression. Need advice?
My friend (21 years old) told me that she is severely depressed. She cries almost daily and is going to see a shrink this week. I'm not sure how I can help her get through this. She is reluctant to talk about it. I'm not sure what could be causing it since she is not in financial difficulties and has friends and family that she can depend on. Any advice on how to help her from people who had the same problem or who also went through depression would be appreciated. Thanks.