How do I explain to my friends that I'm busy?
It depends on several things, none of which are listed.How long have you known your friends?How persistent are they?Is it a temporary "busy" or a more permanent kind?Aside from non-existent meetings, what other ties do you have to this group?These questions are designed to prompt you to think beyond the immediate "How to explain?" situation and think more about whether you need these friends and whether these friends will warrant an explanation from you.If these are your childhood friends, perhaps you are busier than them because you (each of you) are growing in separate directions. If that's the case, you can't expect them to understand what you're going through because it's not their path. You can write a speech worthy of the likes of Mr Winston Churchill but you won't be able to get through to them: explaining to the blind person what color red represents is quite futile.It's not that either of you is above the other but you might as well be on different planets.If this "busy" period is just a temporary situation, and if you know your friends well, you would have explained it to them by now. Since you're asking for help, this period would appear to be more permanent in nature (in your life at least for the foreseeable future), and you might not be on such good talking terms with your friends.In the light of all of this, you are better off re-thinking whether these friends that you have are in the position to understand your life and your situation, and support you, or if they are putting you down and make you resort to anonymous online postings in search of ways to communicate with those "friends".(One sign of whether you need to keep someone around you is this: if an online stranger treats you better than a friend, then maybe that friend is the wrong kind of friend).You might not like my response, and losing friends is emotionally taxing, let alone deliberately cutting off ties with them, but without doing so, you won't be able to obtain space and relief needed to get better ones.Those current friends of yours might have been with you for a long time, but you have to keep in mind that your surroundings are your world, and being exasperated from having to re-explain something to someone means that your surroundings are hurting you. Please love yourself enough to be in a company that's either kind to you or neutral to you: negativity is toxic and draining.
Can someone explain my best friend's personality? im confused?
so can someone help to explain her personality??? she acts really mean to her friends, extremely sassy (her nickname is queen of sass) very rude to her close friends however, she acts very nice to people who are super nice or people she is not friends with she always acts like a bad friend, always ditching me and her other friends, etc. but she has proven that she cares an awful lot about me. when other friends tell her that she is "mean" to them, she replies "yea, i know" in a smug, sassy voice, but with a smile but when i tell her that she is "mean" to me, she replies "oh. i dont like that:( now i am sad" HERE IS THE CATCH: she is a really sensitive person, and gets offended super easily. she doesnt fight back, but she goes and cries often in secret, because she is offended really easily. explanation!?
Someone help explain this quote to me...?
"Those who cannot conceive of Friendship as a substantive love, but only as a disguise or elaboration of Eros, betray the fact that they have never had a Friend." - C.S.Lewis I know this quote means that friendship can be just as strong as romantic/sexual love, but that it exists in its own entirely separate sphere. However, I'm just a bit confused about the last part - "betrays the fact that they have never had a friend." I'm guessing Lewis said 'the fact that they have never had a friend' in reference to a person who 'cannot conceive of friendship as a substantive love, and only as an elaboration/disguise of Eros [romantic love]', since if you view every 'strong' friend in a romantic way, you technically don't have any friends (since friendship itself is in its own sphere). But if this is the case, how does the first part of the quote 'betray' the second part? Why is 'betrayed' used? If my interpretation of the second part of the quote is incorrect, can someone explain the second part of the quote to me?
Salam, i need help explaining to my friend about the 72 virgins?
72 virgins comes from a Hadith that states: -The smallest reward each for the people of Heaven is an abode where there are 80,000 servants and 72 wives, over which stands a dome decorated with pearls, aquamarine and ruby, as wide as the distance from Damascus to Yemen. This Hadith is a hoax. However, we are promised beautiful companions in Paradise but the concept of 72 virgins is absurd as the Qur'an does not state 'how many' companions will be granted to us. The Believers, who are granted Paradise, are promised beautiful companions, known as 'Houris' in Arabic. The Qur'an describes them in these verses: Serving the believers will be immortal youths with jewelled and crystal cups filled with the purest wine which will neither give them headache nor hangover, with fruits and meats of their desire. They will be fair ones with lovely intense eyes like guarded pearls; A reward for the good deeds of their past life. (56:17-24) We have created mates for them and made them virgins, matched in age, for the companions of the right hand. (56:35-38) They will be chaste, restraining their eyes in modesty, never touched by man or Jinn.(55:56) Serving them will be immortal servants. When you see them, they will look like scattered pearls. (76:19)
How can I explain my mental state to my friends?
I can understand where you're coming from. I myself have Bipolar disorder and I'm anti-social because of it. However, if your friends don't know about your condition they really can't help being insensitive. When I started dealing with being Bipolar, I had a one-on-one chat with my closest friends. This made them understand where I was coming from. Since there wasn't a group of people around, there was no crowd pressure to make fun or laugh about my problem. If they are truly your friends, they'll understand or at least try too. My family has taken this in stride and my sister has done her best to help me when I'm in one mood or another. It's possible that your sister really doesn't understand what depression is like. My sister didn't understand my low moods until I described it as best I could. I'd have a heart to heart with her and really tell her how you feel. She might be uncomfortable with the situation because she doesn't understand it. There is still a certain stigma that goes along with mental illness, but part of ending that stigma is to be open about what you feel and how you feel it. You should be proud of how far you've come. I'm proud of myself for getting as far as I have with Bipolar. I have to manage mine with therapy and medications, but if you can avoid medications then that's to be commended.
How do i explain to someone that they're not useless?
This is a very tricky situation. Actually, nothing can convince him that he's not. Only he himself can do that. He has to realize it for himself and believe it, not just have someone explain to him that he's not. I am in the same situation with my friend, and i told him this: "You may think you're useless to everyone, but you're not to me. You mean a lot to me, and i'd be honestly crushed if you weren't around. You mean a lot to me, and I don't think you are useless." It seemed to cheer him up that at least one person who he was close to thought that.
Please help me explain something to my hard-headed girlfriend?
Well, Alex, even though you're mostly right, do you really think being right will help you with your girl friend? Sometimes, discression is indeed the better part of valor, especially when it comes to women. But, live and learn my friend. You didn't actually hit it out of the ball park today, though. A standing triple maybe. Having papers could mean any number of things, which would include your and your girl friend's answers. Mostly it means being legal. But green cards and naturalization certificates are both paper. So, better take a draw on this one. No one becomes a citizen automatically for marrying an American citizen, not someone legal already, or someone illegal. It takes three years of residency after the marriage to apply to take the test and qualify. If you like, you can look this up on uscis.gov, print it off and show it to your girl friend. However, my advice is to know that you are right in most respects and say "yes, darling, you are right, as always." I think things will work out much better for you, if you do.