What are some of the best ways to start a conversation with a girl?
One of the most common mistakes I observe over and over is good guys who turn crazy as soon as they talk to an attractive woman. The best method for starting a conversation and approaching a woman is to keep in mind that women are human. Hot or not, we want to be seen as normal human beings.Walk over to her with confidence and slow movements.Moving slowly decreases your chances of bumping into something and it exudes more confidence. Also make sure you approach her more from the side than from the front – it’s less threatening.Concentrate on having a good time. This should be your only goal. Don’t start talking to her, only because you want to convince her to that you’re worth being dated or whatever. That way you won’t have the pressure of saying everything right so you don’t screw up the chance of going home with her.Remember: Women appreciate honesty! Don’t try to impress her by juicing up your stories.Lead a normal conversation, conversation in which you just want to get to know her.How to break the ice:You: Hi. How’s your day been?She – a bit surprised: Oh hi. :) It’s been fine. How was yours?You: Stressful. I have so much to do because of that exam I have next week. I have to read two more books and they’re not an easy read.She: Sounds tough!You: It is. Btw I’m John! Nice to meet you!She: Emily, nice to meet you too!You: So.. What do you do?She: I’m a teacher!You: Really! At which school?It’s always a good idea to do an activity that doesn’t require much attention parallel to having a conversation. Something like billiard, darts, bowling, cooking, sports, taking a walk,… It takes the pressure away and makes everything flow smoother and more natural.If you’re interested in getting to a deeper emotional level in your conversations, check out the article How To Talk On An Emotional Level.Signals others (including women) give youNot asking any questions = Next topic please!Looking at the clock several times = Please Scotty beam me out of here!“Mh”, “aha”, “ok” + seeming absent minded = You are boring!!!Looking around the room = All of the above.Staring into your eyes and listening closely = You are fascinating! Tell me more!Looking at your lips and not listening to your words (at a date) = Please undress me!Read more: Become Successful With Women – The 9000 Word Guide
I saved someone from getting raped?
So I'm 14 years old, and this morning I was at school about an hour early and our school is close to a Starbucks that we go to a lot, so a friend and I (he doesn't speak very good English, he's Chinese) decide to go. As I leave the front of the school, I see one of my friends, who is sixteen, getting chased by this dirty homeless looking guy. She had sort of a concerned look on her face. I came up, hugged her, kissed her on the cheek (we aren't in a relationship but I did that to make it look like it so the guy would kind of back off). She then kept walking and the guy stopped and talked to us. He was obviously high on everything he had a Coke stache and a roll up over his ear and heroin needle scars on his legs. I only engaged in a conversation with him because I've been told I look 15 or 16, and I'm very tall for my age. He made his intentions very clear, and stated that they were to take advantage of her sexually. After the things he said about her, I feel sick and nauseous. Long story short, she made it upstairs in the school and he backed off and walked away. All I got was "Thanks" in a text message, and she hasn't talked to me all day. Why? Is it something I did when I tried to protect her?
I want to keep my virginity until I get married. Any suggestions?
1. always pray for that wish or that intention 2. expect a lot of temptations, but keep your resolve whenever you feel tempted. physical discipline can help compliment with the praying you're doing. examples: training yourself to sports; you can also see the reason why "fasting" is good to our bodies at times (not too much though) like passing on a favorite food on a specific day/s. that will help a lot to restrain our physical cravings. 3. try to avoid very visually stimulating stuff like yes, porn because it will make you (us) to be turned on. it takes first SELF discipline. 4. you can help yourself achieve this by having a gf that has the same intentions/prayers like you to be pure until marriage. 5. keep yourself in a company of same christian ideals that you have and ever you see any person who strays from that pure ideal, then dont ever lose a vision of yours. its your fight, not theirs. 6. dont be too sure of yourself that you are strong that you wont fall. temptations are always there so keep on praying and disciplining yourself. hope this helps.
Chatted with a girl who lied about her age online! Nervous about cops showing up at my door?
I read the whole thing and have some responses (I'm not a lawyer): I imagine you are worried that you won't be able to use her age misrepresentation as a defense. From what I have learned, that really only applies when you actually have sex with a minor. It is expected that you verify your partner's age. Online obviously that's a lot harder to do. However, if a minor (or someone posing as a minor) states they are 14 or 15, then you have a reason to believe they are a minor. If someone says they are 21 online and sticks with it, then of course you have no reason to doubt them. I'm sure you've seen the perps in To Catch A Predator try to tell Chris Hanson that they believed the girl was 18. On what grounds? The person clearly stated they were underage and the perp acknowledged it. Based on what you have told us, you had no reason to think the girl was lying about her age (and I assume you asked her more than once) until she told you she was underage. Now, there is no law saying you can't talk to a minor. If a minor asked you about the weather, you are allowed to respond. In fact by simply answering questions on this website, you may be talking to a minor. The laws set in place are for when adults give graphic, explicit sexual descriptions of what they want to do to a minor. Look up your state's laws on child pornography or illegal communications with a minor. They usually list out criteria for what's considered "dirty talk" to a minor. Based on what you said you talked about, I don't think that would fit the criteria. The key word is "explicit" - you more or less have to say "I want to do this graphic sexual act to you" or give an obvious innuendo. You were wise to not share pictures or attempt to meet in person. In a lot of cases, that could show intent. I understand you are scared, but the mere fact that you feel remorse in some sense is a sign you are better than the predators you fear you are becoming. Finally, based on what you said, it seems the girl knew what she was getting herself into by lying about her age. I understand Omegle has a disconnect button, so if she did ever feel creeped out, she could have left the conversation once it had gone south. If you're worried that she might tell her parents, keep in mind that you and her have proof that she was deceiving you in the first place, so she might get more of a talking to for lying.
Is it okay for a 50-year-old man to date a 19-year-old girl?
I am a 19 year old female dating a 51 year old male. We have been living together for a year and a half. I’m very perceptive in relationships, and in my case, I can confidently say that I perceive no disrespect from him and no shallow motives. We have nothing but respect and admiration for one another, and all decisions we make are mutual. We keep up healthy communication and trust between us. Our relationship is not hypersexual, nor does it involve the younger party, myself, being paraded around as arm candy in social situations. The people who know us well have no doubts about the love we share for each other.All this being said, if one day my own teenage daughter brought home a date of significantly older years, I would worry for the same reasons you all are worried. There are plentiful shallow and hypersexual men out there, pining for a young body to hold, or perhaps for a less mature partner to make themselves feel superior. These desires aren’t inherently wrong, but they often result in the younger party feeling used or inferior, especially when the older party lies about their motives. I hurt for all the young deceived women who have to be on that side of a relationship.My advice to an older man seeking a younger woman (or anybody seeking anybody) is to be completely lucid with your motives. If you just want a fling, or a pretty girl to show off, be clear about it. You would be surprised how many women are on board for that type of shallow affair (“shallow” has a negative connotation, but it just means there is no deep relationship involved). The unethical side of dating is when one party misleads another. Bottom line: don’t lead someone on with promises of love when you’re not looking for love. It doesn’t make any sense and it causes emotional harm.
Mother using strap-on on her 12 year old duaghter?
It's not common, and I haven't heard about it. But I'm sure it happens. And yes, it's sexual abuse. I would report her to AOL/AIM/YAHOO/etc. Then when they take a look at what she has written, they will investigate it. I assume they would, I doubt that they would suspend her account when she wrote something like that, versus investigating if it is really happening to her. Or you could just call the police and give them the screen name, and they will probably look at her online chat history. Then investigate the kid you were talking too. Good luck, hope it works out!
My parents have never celebrated my birthday! Help!?
Hey guys so I'm a 14 year old guy turning 15 on Sunday. Big whoop right? But there is always the problem of me never being able to celebrate my birthday like everyone else. Not once in my life have I ever celebrated it, I have never had the joy of cutting he cake and blowing the candles. Intact usually my parents forgot like last year and all the years that I could remember. I know some 20 000 children die each week of hunger and I'm sooooo thankful for all that I have,I really and truly am, but for once I just want to know that I'm being recognised. My parents aren't poor in act quite well off, and my mother and father often go shopping for themselves. We always celebrate my brothers Birthday every year and this year he turned 17 and we even bought him a grand piano and he doesn't use it. M sisters also get birthdays and we always go out to fancy restaurants to celebrate but never me... Ie told them I'd like to get my self some clothes for summer ans I've lost weight, but they just ignore me And rarely pay attention. I constantly do house work and I'm somewhere near a straight A student. By the way, no aim not adopted and I'm really not spoilt, I just want to feel significant :(