In an arranged marriage, if the guy calls only once in week, is it too infrequently. Does that mean maybe he is not interested in you and forcefully getting married?
No I don't think so. May be he is a little reserved (introvert) kind of guy and takes time to open himself up to the bride.I'd suggest, the bride can take the initiative to call or texting to him and then make a conslusion. Also an in-person meeting can be initiated (if possible) and see if things improve. In case if that's not possible skype or any other medium can be used to see his reaction and then understand.Also there may be chances that the guy is tied up with work related issues or some professional tension. Myself being a male I had this issue sometimes back that I couldn't talk openly when I had any troubled day in office. So there could be a possibility to that too. If that's so, the bride again can take some initiatives to give a space to the guy to opening up and sharing his problems.
Guys... What does it mean if a guy calls once a week to every other week?
Well if you're not 'gutsy' enough to make more of an effort, then you'll really never know. It could be that he's really busy. It could be that he has another relationship that he's also taking very slowly. It could be that he isn't really interested in having a serious relationship at the moment, or in the last couple of months... Who knows? And you won't know until you make a move. You wanted a mature guy's view. I like it when I know that the lady is interested. I like it when the lady makes plans every now and then. It's not always the guy's responsibility to come up with plans. Maybe you could arrange another 'group' activity? Maybe arrange a group activity, then make sure nobody else is invited... Heee... The important thing that I think that you're missing here though is that you appear to be too hung up on this one guy. Go out and meet other guys, there's lots of them out there. Many of them may also have similar interests. Good luck.
Indian family is making me depressed..should I get married?
It sounds to me like you're willing to jump from the frying pan into the fire. Why would you want to get married to someone from the same culture as your father, if your "husband" will probably end up treating you the exact same way; as a possession? Makes NO sense to me. And, since you aren't allowed to experience the American culture, your ONLY other option is to get some schooling, start working and MOVE away from your family. You don't have to go to college. You can pick a short (one year, more or less) technical career and start working soon. There are so many choices: medical assistant, dental assistant, veterinary assistant, receptionist, computer technician, etc. Find one you like and GO FOR IT. If you're waiting for "someone" to "save" you, you'll become an old woman and never accomplish anything. As long as you depend on someone else, they will always have control over you. You need to find someone you can trust (whether a family member or friend) who will help/support you. Maybe consider moving out with a few friends so you can all rent a house/apartment together and share expenses. You can work as a waitress, clerk, dog-walker, house-cleaner, etc. to help pay your schooling. It may sound too hard for you (because of your culture- you've been "taken care of" all your life) but hundreds of thousand of people have done it before you and hundreds of thousand people will do it after you, so YOU can do it too. Make plans, then start your new life, before it's too late. Before you give up and lose your spirit. As far as being afraid of your father, you are in the U.S.A., where you are legally an adult and you are FREE to do as you wish. If your father tries to hurt you or stop you from doing what you want, the LAW is there to protect you. There is NOTHING WRONG with wanting to live the life that God GAVE YOU. You were not born in order for your father to "live HIS life again," understand? In other words, you are not the first Indian/Muslim woman to feel this way; not the first to break away from tradition, and you will not be the first one to start a new, FREE life. So just do it... and start living!
Has an ex ever come back after marrying someone else?
Unfortunately, yes. It's painful to accept my first love messed up with me. And immediately after two weeks of his wedding, wanted to be with me again, but I couldn't reciprocate his feelings, for me everything was over. There's nothing I could have changed. I had my own reasons not to even talk to him:He's married and ethically it was wrongMy affection died, on the day I caught him cheating and since then I never looked backHe's so confused about his own feelings and never satisfied with one personI’m old school & have zero interest in extra-marital affairI felt extremely bad for his better half, as she used to model herself on me just to make him happy. It's bothering me a lot so I went blind to them and blocked them from everywhere.