How to deal with a Spoiled/bratty sister?
My sister isn't exactly a toddler anymore. She's 11 years old but she still acts like a brat. She literally gets everything she wants and complains about what I have even if it is so minuscule. Such as: paper, tissue, food, and water bottles. If I we're to complain about her, I would complain that she has an I phone 5, Her own laptop, a dog (which I detest), and etc.Even if i ask her to train the dog, she throws out a witty comment or s something just to piss me off. Today, the dog got the toilet paper still on the roll and ran across the house with it leaving strands of toilet paper EVERYWHERE. I told her that you failed to trained the dog but then she replies- "You aren't trained well either". I swear I wanted to hit her but i knew i shouldn't have so i decided just to point out that she makes my mother look after her when she takes a shower, gets my mom to sleep with her, and etc. She is an absolute annoyance to me and it gets to the point where she will start copying my every move if she doesn't have a witty comeback. I have tried to lock the door or even go to BATHROOM to do my business but she just comes in anyway. My parents don't seem to care and the blame always goes on to me for not finding a solution but every possible solution that there is is totally negated by my bratty sister. Its like she wants me to hit her. I haven't done so yet but I have reached the point of where I will strongly consider it and she knows too. When i simply use hand motions to say something, she flinches in fear thinking that I will hit her. My logic then leads to this. If she knows that I am considering to hit her, why would she aggravate me into doing it? She must like seeing my getting torn apart from my parents or just watching my suffer. She is impossible to talk to and she is probably the only reason why I learned to cook so i don't have to see her in the day time again. It's also the reason that i'm underweight -_-. So if you have any answers or ANYTHING that will help me to fend off my spoilt/bratty sister, please leave a serious answer down in the answer section below. Thanks.
Do you believe spoiled kids are the most sheltered?
As long as your parents keep funding your shoe collection or whatever other luxuries you have to have you really won't have much freedom or independence. That's why I try not to depend on my parents so much and get my own money. And those kids that have been sheltered their whole life- they don't know how to cope when the real world comes crashing down on them. I have friends - their parents have them secluded in the house all day so they won't be " running the streets"
My sister says she is depressed. She is being treated by therapists, but I think she is just a spoilt bratty child and overly pampered. How can I be sure she is actually depressed?
Okay so I’m a person with depression so I’m familiar with the symptoms, but I also have a relative who plays up her symptoms for convenience.First of all - it’s the specialists who diagnose her, not you. Secondly - Depression often makes a person incapable of empathy, incapable of looking outside their own bubble. When I’m in a depressed state I can’t read body language or understand how my actions might affect people. It’s not deliberate, it’s more thoughtlessness than selfishness.Selfishness is ‘I know this upsets you but I’m gonna do it anyway’ whereas thoughtlessness is ‘Even if you told me this upsets you, it honestly didn’t cross my mind and I’m so sorry I hurt you.’If she’s in therapy and trying to listen to the advice her therapists give her, that’s one thing. If she’s jumping between therapists and complaining about every treatment they try, refusing to do even the tiniest thing to help herself - then that’s a problem. But it might also be a symptom.People with depression actually need to be pampered sometimes. Because they feel so lost and alone they forget that they are loved. Gods sometimes I just need a hug.Example: When I have an anxiety attack I know what helps. I’ll get a glass of water, focus on my breathing, go for a walk ect. I do my best to manage my symptoms.When my relative has an anxiety attack, she’ll refuse any suggestion of a walk or fresh air, she won’t slow her breathing even when you guide her, in fact she’ll ramp it up. She will sit stock still and focus only on the panic. It’s not that these things don’t work for her, it’s that she’ll refuse any help or effort to alleviate her symptoms at all. When she actually takes her medication or follows our advise she feels much better and says as much.People not believing our symptoms is unbelievably damaging. Your attitude is honestly a problem. We are often asked to ‘prove’ our symptoms when we can’t.How do you describe a smell to someone who has never smelt it? A sight to someone who has never seen? It’s not something we can clearly explain because we know no other point of view. We have no standard to measure our symptoms. We don’t know what’s ‘normal’ for other people.Your sister needs love and support. Let the professionals work out her symptoms and if they tell you something, listen to and believe them.
Lazy Husband: I married a spoiled child! What to do?
I did read your entire question. And I understand where you are coming from. You need to tell your husband that you are at your breaking point, because you are, and then tell him exactly what you need from him. He is young and most likely spoiled, as you say. But if he loves you and you make your expectations clear and realistic he will slowly rise to the challenge. Start small and build slowly. Maybe buy some frozen dinners and have him warm it up for you when you are on the way home. Call to remind him at first if you have to. Then once he is consistently doing that ask him to start the dishes soaking when he throws in your food. Appreciate what he does, and slowly add more. This will work eventually but you have to have patience. Also, let some things slide as far as housework goes until you get your degree. Good luck to you. Hang in there.
Am I a bad person for hating my "sister"?
I can understand where you're coming from cause i’ve dealt with similar issues. shes so cocky and so arrogant. shes self obsessed and she treats me like absolute shit. i was a fat kid and the only thing she use to do was embarrasses me in front of her friends calling me fat,making fun of everything i do and and my teeth. even after i lost 38 kgs she still found some way to make fun of me. I didn't know it would have such a huge impact on me cause i now suffer with low self esteem issues and am very self conscious. I feel terrible every single day and i know that if it wasn't for her my life would have been 100 times better. Growing up my sister was given more love than me and that didn't bother me until i became as old as her when she started getting things for being the darling daughter that she is.For her 18th Birthday she god a pair of diamond studded earnings worth like 42k or something. and i got ‘Im low on cash’the apparent Reason for that is the fact that i am a guy and she is going to be married and sent off. My parents are aware of the mistakes they have made with her but its not like that are stopping her from doing anything cause she is ‘Beyond repair’. Thats a load of bullshit cause i know how they react when even the slightest thing hurts her. They use her as a bad example in front of me but the moment i turn around they praise her for even the smallest thing she does. if i do something not even remotely connected to something she did they start shouting at me. they are not aware of the things they have done and they think im in the wrong. During fights ive even brought up the issue and they couldn't say a word but they start bringing my studies in between just to change the topic. i basically hate my dad and my sister so much that sometimes i just fell like running away till my feet bleed.
My sister's keeper??????????????????
you have two sisters. anna and kate. kate is the one with cancer. anna is the one that goes thru the medical stuff for kate. anna goes to a lawyer to go to court to win rights to her body, which means that her parents wouldn't be able to make her give up anything medically for kate. which now is a kidney. the whole trial goes on. kate is in the hospital this whole time, and really needs the kidney. the doctor thinks the kidney transplant won't help at all...but the mom still wants it. before a legit decision is made about if anna gets the right to her body, she gets into a car accident with her lawyer. the lawyer is okay, anna is not. she ends up dying, and the kidney is given to her sister. her sister ends up living for years later. read the book. its kinda good.