Starting To Wonder If I Can Do It

I’m starting to wonder what people think of me and how they see me as. How do I stop my fear?

You can take two options to approaching this in my opinionApproach them about this If your’e fear is worrying about how they see you then eliminate this fear and approach it. The worst they can say is that they don’t like you. But guess what, are these people going to matter in your life say in the next 4 years? Next 3 months? Life will go on with whatever they say about you. If its a positive which it mostly may be then congratulations, your’e fear is slowly starting to determinate. If it isn’t so what.Don’t worry about them People have their own problems, so to be honest they probably aren’t even thinking about you. So while you are wasting your time + energy thinking about what they think of you, you lose the opportunity to enjoy the moment and it is just not worth it to be honest. While you live in the now and focus on yourself’s happiness, you encourage and invite others to do the same !Hope this helped

What should I do if I'm starting to wonder how well my neighbors are taking care of their cat? He is always outside my back door and has tried to get inside every time I open the door.

Hands off, you homewrecker :)I once had a neutered male cat named Tom Puss. Tom was a gorgeous, huge, Norwegian Forest cat. While I was at work, he spend his day outdoors and always returned home in time for dinner. He was a healthy, tree climbing, bird-chasing, affectionate specimen. He was also good company.Then he suddenly disappeared.Tom went AWOLI walked around the neighbourhood and called his name but he remained missing. Tom did not wear an ID-tag, my bad.Suddenly, about a few weeks later, he turned up again. He seemed happy and looked good. A little bit too good, Tom had gained some weight! I figured he had been cat-napped by a nice well-meaning stranger and kept indoors. He had clearly enjoyed his new friend and the offerings of lavish food but missed the exercise… until he escaped from this lap of luxury and found his way home.From that day on Tom was wearing an ID tag!But it was too late.During the months that followed he went back and forth between the strangers house and mine, showing up to cuddle on the couch and stay the night, only to disappear again. The intervals grew longer, until he stayed away all together.Perhaps I should have kept him locked inside the house (many cat lovers would consider that to be safer) but I let him decide his own destiny instead.I never discovered who the cat-napper was and I wonder why he/she never called the number on Tom's ID tag.Is that cat begging at your back door injured or does it look malnourished?? Is it mid winter and freezing??It could be that the owner is away and the cat got locked out. Just talk to your neighbours, they will appreciate it.Thank you for caring and looking out for him.

What is a simple and professional way to say "I was wondering if you could xxx"?

I would like you to xxxAre you able to xxx?We need to discuss doing xxxTime permitting, can you XXX?XXX needs to be addressed, you are the best person for the jobIn view of xxx, are you able to deal?Because XXX is important, I thought of you immediatelyPlease XXXI know you are aware of this, so can you XXX ASAP? Let me know.If possible I would appreciate you to XXX, can you help?Naturally it depends what XXX actually is, we can get creative if we know the specifics.

I’m starting to wonder whether people will care if I’m gone. I know a few will be sad but I know they can move on easily. Why can’t I shake off this feeling?

Feelings happen, and you don't need to be so invested in shaking off a feeling.I have all sorts of feelings. I even sometimes have feelings that I'm less than great in every way! How crazy that is!But I don't invest in all my feelings. I don't buy into their truth.I try to look behind the feelings and see what's happening.This isn't brilliance on my part. It is the result of insight from my wife, who noticed that when I became quarrelsome, it always was associated with fatigue, dehydration, or overcaffeination. Slowly I learned not to take my feelings seriously but to recognize them as symptoms. My feeling quarrelsome generally led to my taking a nap.So: rather than concentrate on shaking the feeling, look at what's behind it. Maybe you need to spend more time with loved ones. Maybe you are overstressed at work and need a vacation. Maybe you have an iron deficiency.Don't believe everything running through your head. Learn what it's telling you about yourself.

How can I start wondering in a philosophical way?

Wonder is basic to humans. I don’t know of any particularly philosophical way to do it.You might think of philosophy as a method of resolving (or, anyway, trying to resolve) questions that come up from wonder. But it’s wonder first, philosophy second.Here’s what Aristotle said in the Metaphysics:“It is through wonder that men now begin and originally began to philosophize; wondering in the first place at obvious perplexities, and then by gradual progression raising questions about the greater matters too, e.g. about the changes of the moon and of the sun, about the stars and about the origin of the universe. Now he who wonders and is perplexed feels that he is ignorant (thus the myth-lover is in a sense a philosopher, since myths are composed of wonders); therefore if it was to escape ignorance that men studied philosophy….” (Met. 1.982b, Tredennick, trans.)

I am planning to start up a business and wonder what I can do to build authentic connections/a support network in the meantime?

You can start a blog, a podcast, and a researcher schedule, so that you know everything about this topic, including who is who and what they have written.You can read everything written by people who are top in the business line you are going in.You can write about problems you find people have and solutions you come up with.Then you can start interviewing them, writing about them, writing reviews for the books, and sending them ideas (see my book Become an Idea Machine - coming out in January), or, instead of waiting for the book see how sending ideas works... Try it, come up with great ideas for people in your line of business and send them, for free.Get really deep and dirty into everything that is going on in this line of business.  Go to meetups, got to google chats, go to internet forums...FEEL THE PULSE of the business world around what you want to do, and especially about what the people want to do, what they need.Start helping people in that space by finding out what they need.If you do this, for six months to a year you will be a idea machine on fire.You will know the ins and outs.You will know everyone.You will have helped everyone.You will be so into it you will be the person to go to, because you simply will be able to solve problems.Good luck!

What do I do if my girlfriend of 4 years starts to wonder if I'm her man or just her friend?

You’ve stopped pursuing her.Take a look at what you do. What are you doing for her? How are you showing you love and cherish her? Is it what makes her feel loved? Are you reminding her that you are thinking of her? Is she your priority? (If you are living together) Is she your top priority when you get back home? Or if vice verse do you drop what you are doing when she gets back home?Some examples of the things you can do to make her feel loved: take care of one of ‘her’ chores, plan and take her on a date as a surprise, leave her love letters (or even just notes saying I love you) in unexpected places that she will come across every so often, hug her from behind and kiss her neck when she’s doing something else, send her messages in the middle of the day telling her you are thinking of her, tag her in soppy memes or send her links to things she likes (for instance one of my exes LOVED dogs, so I’d find a cute dog pics or videos and send them to her every day).Every woman is different and will feel loved with different things, and they might change over time. Finding out what those are and doing them is half the fun of being in a relationship.And yes I’m a hopeless romantic.

Will my ex start to wonder about me if I completely disappear from all my social media accounts?

Probably. This is strange. You’re doing something healthy to feed an unhealthy desire .Yes, quit social media. You’ll be happier and more productive for it. You WILL be more mysterious…One girl (mutual crush - bad timing) quit social media. The only people who know where she is or what she’s doing is her and close friends/family. She just became even more exciting and mysterious. Like we all should be. Instead I actually know what food my ex is taking camping this weekend (snapchat is one I still use). Like fuck should I know that?!However. DON’T get caught up trying to inspire your ex into thinking about you.What you want your ex to think about you, who you’re essentially trying to appear to be, is the opposite of the person you’re being right now - that person does not think about any of this. It’s all counterproductive and thingy things.I’m not having a dig, sometimes we just keep trying to seem like something instead of being it. Living our own lives. Thats’s whats attractive and thats what’s best for us.*Do take time to improve yourself too, like you said, but do it for you and don’t look at it as temporary.