Struggling with anger towards hypocrite? Christians only?
alright, I am a two year old Christian, and about to turn 18 in half a year. I've had a pretty strong Christian walk, but Im struggling with anger. Because of the recession my family moved in with my grandparents. My grandpa is a pervert, hypocrite, condemns EVERYONE to hell, cusses and mistreats people left to right. He hits and threatens the neighbor's kids when they are doing nothing to him or towards his property. He yells and is greedy and all he does is eat all day and complain about everybody's weight when he is over 300 pounds. He cheats people, lies, steals money, and screams about every every little thing. He is racist and crude and cruel and starves animals.... yet he NEVER GETS BUSTED FOR ANNNNYYYTHING!!!! The church loves him but they don't understand how bad he treats his family!!!! I AM SOOOO FED UP WITH HIM. I CAN'T TOLERATE THE VERY AIR HE BREATHES!!! is it wrong of me to dispise him sooooo much?? What would God have me do??? I'm sick of him bullying people and being rude?? Should I call the police on him next time he does something really wrong??? Should I run a way??? Should I just pray alllot harder?? Should I tell the preacher??? I don't want to sin in my anger but he is testing my anger, any good person can't tolerate a man as evil and cruel as him :(
What are some of the inner demons that you struggle with?
Procrastination - especially in trying to do the things I ought to do instead of wasting so much time in my worthless attempts to conquer trolling in this category - how vain and frivolous it is compared to trying to operate two businesses, how time consuming, and fruitless.
Why am I struggling to get over my lying cheating ex?
Because you were lied to and cheated on and that's a terrible feeling. Odds are your struggle is more with yourself. Being betrayed by someone you love can cause all sorts of things like blaming yourself for their indiscretions. That's probably the worst one. You start that inner tearing down thinking you caused it or something about you drove them to do it.The best way I have found to get past being betrayed is convincing myself that anything I blamed myself for I can change/improve. But overall, that person did this and they are 100% responsible.Cheating and all the nastiness that comes with it is a mental illness. Cheaters usually have a laundry list of issues and generally their ignorance isn't anything to do with their partner.There are many things you can do to move forward with your life, take up a hobby, take a class, join a gym, etc etc. But take time to heal. Make time for you to appreciate yourself and understand most of us go through it and most of us manage to move on.It's expected for one to be confused and hurt. Time heals all wounds and this to shall pass.I've found telling myself it obviously wasn't meant to be and that has helped me a lot. No blame, no anger, no self pity, it simply wasn't right.I hope you don't struggle for long and that you quickly heal and find someone wonderful :)
Does everyone struggle everyday in life (please answer)?
? : I don't know of anyone who jumps out of bed in the morning and says " I just can't wait to get to work ! Everyone I know don't get enough sleep ( get the rest they need ). I think everyone of us struggle to get moving in the morning. I am retired now, yet, I know just how you feel. To make your morning brighter, go to bed at the same time each night, get up at the same time each morning. Eat right and stay off of booze or drugs. Then, love the hell out of what you do. Humans spend more time working than we should....we forget to " play ". Have fun with your job....If you can't do that, find another one !
I am a 25-year-old man. How can I handle frustration and anger?
Dont worry brother!!.Going through your background, I almost felt like I was reading my own background apart from a few differences. You are still 25 years of age. This is almost the perfect age to figure out what your interests are and what you actually want to do in life. Continue to work where you are working because you are doing an amazingly noble job of supporting your family. We tend to underestimate this, but honestly, your family will be extremely proud of you for supporting them.But gradually in your free time, concentrate on your interests as well. If you have no specific interests, try out every possible thing you can try. Because you never know if you are interested in certain things unless you try it out. So work on your interests in your free time and see if you can make a career out of your interests. As you proceed in this direction you can increase the time you allocate to your interests. But remember, it will surely take quite some time and effort to make a career out of your interests. So patience is very important.Its quite natural to feel lonely regarding all this. But trust me brother, there are lakhs of people like us who have no idea as to what they are trying to do in life, but doing it just for the sake of doing it and just because they have to do it for money.So Cheer up buddy!!
What does it mean if you can’t stay mad at someone, even though they did something very wrong to you?
It's called having good sense. I used to puzzle over this because my boss was like that. We'd have a conflict and in our next interaction he treated it like it never happened. But over time I realized that was an amazing quality, not a flaw.In som ways your statement has always been exactly like me. My mother always said, ‘never go to bed angry. Everyday is a new start.’ I always taught my daughter to never let bitterness get past your body because it is like poison and will slowly erode your personality, character and everything you've worked for.It's best to let things go. You can't control another person. You feel the effects of what they did to you but what they did to you is not about you and isn't about you. It's best to treat it objectively like you would going to a doctor if it effected you seriously beyond your control, but if you can completely let it go, do so.