Intrusive thoughts, constant anxiety and fears ruining my life?
I have been dealing with this problem for over a year now and it has really been bothering me. Disturbing and scary thoughts of all natures just constantly attack me every few moments of the day. They mostly are related to violence, death, and sexual things which I always worry may happen to me or loved ones. I get thoughts about me or someone I care about, getting shot or decapitated or getting in a car accident, going blind or deaf, or dying from a deadly disease like cancer, or unwanted sexual things happening. I do realize trying to push away such thoughts and fears doesn't work and only makes it stronger. I try not to push thoughts away… but it seems like no matter what I do or don’t do, they just keep getting stronger. Also, I am 20 years old and in college, if that helps. I feel I really need to get this thing solved or else I won’t be able to move forward. This has really become a severe disruption and annoyance in my daily life. It seems like I can't do anything that requires even a little amount of concentration, these thoughts always get in the way. This constant anxiety and paranoia has become a part of my life and it troubles me so much I get painful headaches. And now I think it is starting to cause depression. How can I fix this? Thanks
Overthinking is ruining my life - to the point where I overthink myself out of living. Why do I do this, and what should I do? I do suffer from severe social phobia and depression and have been through severe abuse in my life.
One day I came up with really great article about overthinking and I really want to share it with you.It could change your lifeThere are pointed out 10 points how you can stop Overthinking:Overthinking does not lead to insight. You want an understanding of which decision will be best. For this, you need a level of insight into what each decision will lead to. Thinking this through, however, is futile.You never, ever know what something will be like until you experience it.Your decision will never be final. Over-thinking often comes from the notion that you will make a grand finale decision that will never change and must be correct.Learn the reasons why over-thinking is harmful, and let it motivate you. Stress only occurred if the individual engaged in negative over-thinking about the events.Do physical activities throughout the day. Do you want to know one of the main reasons you over-think? It’s because you have the time to. Consider daily exercise—any physical activity that raises heart rate and improves health.Become the ultimate skeptic. If you think about what causes thinking to be so stressful and tiring, it’s often our personal convictions that our thoughts are actually true.Seek social support, but don’t vent. It is really powerful impact of social support in the reduction of stress.Develop the skill of forgiveness. It’s special because it, single-handedly, can induce the ultimate peace in people.Plan for conscious distraction. When you know the time of day rumination will begin, you can plan to remove that spare time with an activity that engages your full facultiesSolve another person’s problem first, and get perspective. Helping others puts your issues in order by reminding you that we all go through tough times, some much more than you ever will.Remember that a perfect decision is never a bold one, so get started. When your final years are approaching, you will not worry about how well you thought through your decisions, or how thoroughly and accurately you approached life’s forks in the road. You will rest happily knowing you lived true to yourself, acted with confidence, and stood up for what you believed in.Here is full article - 10 Ways to Stop Overthinking and Start LivingI hope this helps! ;)
Solution to ugliness?
I am apparently very ugly. I say apparently because I don't know whether I'm ugly when I look at myself in the mirror, I just look normal to me, but then it's irrelevant what I think. What is relevant is that girls NEVER approach me, smile at me or even look at me, and I'm always alert and keeping an eye out so I should know. This can only mean that my face is inadequate and nothing but a disappointment to girls. A bit like seeng a car with no wheels, they must think "Aw shame, what a waste of a human being". So since girls are NEVER interested in me (and ironically my sex drive and craving for love is skyhigh), what's the solution? Plastic surgery would be great, but it never works, you just end up looking like a waxwork. So suicide seems the most viable option, as although it wouldn't give me what I truly desire (mutual lust) it would at least end my suffering. Alternatively, could I get castrated so that my sex drive is destroyed? Because my sex drive does nothing but drive me insane with constant disappointment and rejection.
Is death better than a ruined life?
HELL NO!I’ve interviewed more than 400 of the world’s most successful people from billionaires to real estate tycoons to the founder of Zappos.And nearly all of them had a “Ruined” life at one point or another.Grant Cardone had just gotten out of rehab and was in line for unemployment when his uncle forced him to get a job selling cars and changed his whole life. Now he’s worth hundreds of millions of dollars, has two beautiful daughters, and an amazing wife.James Altucher made millions of dollars and then lost it all along with his wife, his kids, his home, and his reputation. He earned it all back and LOST it all again. Today he is one of the happiest and most successful people I know.Tim Ferriss was on the verge of committing suicide due to severe depression and hopelessness until a friend helped pull him out. Today he has the world’s largest podcast, 5 New York Times best sellers, and some of the most amazing accolades of any person on the planet.Russ Whitney was strung out on drugs, bankrupt, and suicidal before his drug dealer recognized him from a book he saw at Barnes and Noble and forced him to get clean.Garrett J. White had made millions in the mortgage banking industry before he lost it all in the crash of ‘08. He was on the verge of divorce, physically sick, and completely broke. He decided that life was worth living and today he’s one of the leader’s in the men’s personal development movement, has an incredible marriage, and makes more money than he ever did in banking.The only way to ruin your life is to end it!Where there is life there is hope.It’s not over until it’s over and if you truly believe that it can and will get better.If you’re struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts then I want to invite you to read a guide that I recently put together detailing my battle with depression and suicidal tendencies.How I Beat Depression Naturally without Anti-DepressantsI’ve pulled from dozens of peer reviewed studies as well as my own experience to help you overcome depression, reclaim your life, and live the dream.If you are willing to fight tooth and nail, you can create a beautiful life.Death is the only failure that there is.While you still breathe, you can win at the game of life.So pull yourself up by your bootstraps and commit to living.