Syptoms Of Repressed Anger And How To Let Go Of Anger

What can happen if you never let go of all the repressed anger inside you?

I was dealing with my own depression/anxiety/panic attacks when I was introduced to a wonderful psychiatrist and a counselor. I was depressed, angry, sick constantly with n/v, headaches, body pain, fatigue, weight loss and many other things all at the same time. I was always sick and would throw up till I dehydrated and sometimes fainted. This always landed me in the ER and many times I was admitted into the hospital. It was during one of these visits that the ER on call looked over my massive chart and actually took the time to talk with me and ask the right questions. An appointment was made for me and I kept it with the psychiatrist. Even tho I knew I was depressed and had anxiety, no one had ever tried to find out why. I went to the counselor and she and I talked thru a lot of issues I wasn't even aware were actually a problem for me. After several more sessions with her and being on the right antidepressant, I began to get better and with this knowledge I began to understand just how angry I was about issues with my mom and within my marriage. It wasn't until I started letting go of the anger I had towards these two people that I began to notice that I wasn't being as sick, my headaches subsided and I began to feel like me again. My counselor made a comment to me during one of my sessions that has always stuck in my mind: ANGER turned inward becomes STRESS and stress becomes depression. And that was what exactly what all my medical issues were from; depression. So, I feel like that with that knowledge regarding my own story, I can easily say that if you are constantly angry, knowingly or unknowingly, that anger is going to fester inside you. If you do nothing to deal with it, it is just going to sit inside of you and make you sick.

How do I cope with repressed anger?

Anger comes from an unmet expectation, in this instance and I am guessing as I am only going on what you have written you are angry because you expect people to treat you with respect. I have been bullied in my life too and I learnt a great lesson. People treat you how you allow them to treat you. Instead of getting cross with the people who are doing it because you are not going to change them (or if you do it will be from how you handle this) you need to ask yourself what you are going to do about it. Or better still who do you need to become to not allow this any more. If this situation has passed one of the exercises you can do to let go of the anger is to write about it. Write a letter to yourself, to the people involved and then either burn the letter or bury it. It is important to write one to yourself as you will find there is anger towards yourself as well as towards the others. Make sure you let all of your emotion out in the letter and get very specific about how you feel. If the emotion comes up allow it but remember to breathe through it. When you breathe through an emotion you need to breath into your stomach for the count of 7 and then breath out again for the count of 7. If is best to do this while lying on your back as it is more natural this way. Keep breathing into the emotion until it passes. Good luck and I hope this helps. With love Britt

How can I get rid of repressed anger that I’ve had for years? I’ve been angry since the age of 11 and everyday I’m getting angrier. How can I get rid of it?

I would like to contribute to this answer. Early stored anger is a mini-storage of energy. This energy can either be used negatively (to vent anger and let it go waste to dissipate) or positively.During your childhood you must have been maltreated and you harbored bad feelings that the fire burning. YOU MUST HAVE SEEN THE ANGRY BIRD REPLICA. Your subconscious holds that, not knowing what to do with that. It is however strange that you could not do anything to calm yourself down while growing; it was natural to follow that path.Anger is a destructive emotion. It does not pay back in good coins. It is bad for one’s health. SELF TRAINING IS NEEDED TO GET RID OF THESE SORT OF EMOTIONS. We need to be innovative to defeat them.Split yourself in two and become boss of your other self, i.e., angry bird. Have two or three sessions where you can have rational and sane stance to guide, threaten and even virtually punish. IN THE MEANTIME, USE THE STORED ENERGY CONSTRUCTIVELY IN OTHER AREAS NEEDING ATTENTION. Remember! Energy is best used when positive WORK is accomplished. Use physics to increase efficiency at the expense of anger instead of draining it.

What book would you recommend for dealing with repressed anger?

Looking at my family and the traumatic emotional background, and resulting anger that stems from it, I can't say that there is a book that will help without digging deep to remember the original wounds. If you can do that, the book may not be needed.I'm sure there are books that will help, and you shouldn't stop looking, but I am convinced that you could read 100 good books on anger and get nowhere if you held in or denied trauma.I began to dig into my own emotional trauma probably 7–8 years ago, although I only knew I was addressing some depression at the time. As I've gotten through layer after layer, to a depth most trauma victims don't dare to experience, I see some intense experiences hidden so deep I'd never know they were painting current behaviors and feelings.It's easy for doctors simply to say, you have an imbalance in chemistry, here's an antidepressant, or antipsychotic. Smarter ones will know, there may be underlying trauma and encourage therapy.I never thought I was the type to suppress a memory. I can handle anything! Except when I can't, and something is so painful I refuse to acknowledge it. As I've gotten to the bottom layers, anger has bubbled to the top. It stinks. Bad. But as suppressed feelings and memories resurface, I see why I have been the way I have, and feel less and less under the control of some invisible force I need to fight. I need to fight for me, not against me.You need to know that all hurt feelings in your past matter. You matter. And you're allowed to acknowledge that things/people have hurt you. PTSD is not just something people get in wars. Family situations and many others can leave marks just as big.Digging through old memories can be painful. But if you don't do it, they will fester, and you'll never feel quite in control.Grab a sword and shield and get to work. Find a good therapist, and look up EMDR. Keep a journal as you dig, to watch your progress. This won't happen over night, but it doesn't have to last all your life.I hope this helps you.

Where does it go repressed anger and irritation?

From my research and experiences it becomes anxiety, which then causes a mix of self-defeating or self-destructive behaviors to include addiction and many forms of disorder.Generally, it goes like this, very subtle to major unnoticed/unresolved childhood trauma create false limiting beliefs and because we are in survival mode as children it is very much like ptsd.The subconscious then sets a course to protect us from this pain using whatever form of comfort we are familiar with, and depending on how control plays into this (being controlled, rebuking control) the forms of comfort will very.Because the subconscious wants to keep it hidden it creates a feeling of anxiety because those feelings need to be addressed. Not knowing what’s causing the anxiety we start to go into denial and use avoidance and distractions as coping. The distraction/addiction/defeating behavior are so hard to break because they are the only solid foundation we have to cope with feelings.Basically because we have not been taught to either identify, understand, process and regulate our emotions as children, we become dysfunctional as adults.And consumerism has found thousands of ways to make money in the process, because anything that reminds us of any unresolved feelings will push a button and trigger us to reach for a solution, which is why it’s so hard for people to make the changes they consciously want to make.Seven years ago I left the work place and started on an extreme course of self-awareness. I wanted to pinpoint why I couldn’t lose weight, what, in my mind kept unnaturally pushing me towards food. I did a lot of hypnotherapy to get into my subconscious, going back to those places of pain, not to relive them but to process out the pain, thus relieving them, one by one. Finally, finally, I found the answer. With each trigger to each, I traced it back to a feeling and then back to it’s roots until, finally there were none left. Now, after a lifetime of overeating, I can finally control it totally.Most people here about things like this but it’s not often anyone digs as hard as I did to come out of it.I hope this helps a few people see this from a different perspective.

How and why does repressed anger lead to depression?

This question only lacks a connecting link that can convert it to its answer.“ANXIETY”Simply if I say, prolonged repressed anger causes anxiety and prolonged anxiety causes depression.If we go deeper into the matter, we come to a point where all these three words leaves us with the same state of mind.How?If we talk about repressed anger, its the anger that was pressurized by oneself one themselves not to express. May be because we want to handle the situation better or we are afraid that expressing our disappointment, discomfort, misunderstanding, etc. may cause worse situations. We fear the further bad situations and this forces us to stay mum despite of all those thousand words going in the mind.We should never forget the pressure cooker law. Pressure in a cooker cooks the food inside, similarly the pressure inside the brain eats up its capacity of thinking. It is just like the irreversible change in the cooked food, we can almost never get back to that lite, free state of mind. Our mind gets bound to certain thought or a moment reaction that was not meant to be so bad as it seemed to be.This pressure can further lead to a blast or the pressure cooker get burnt itself if the valve opens. That means either the repressed anger will blast out at once or if you start spoiling yourself by too much thinking and crying, you will get more and more spoilt.Now, the word anxiety means nothing but the state of mind described above.If one still express yourself complete, one are safe, but if one fail to express, one keep all these in their mind for long long times and he/she gets depressed.Depression can be easily cured if we either express our problem to someone whom we feel can understand, be that a known or unkown or pet animal without delay.Too much delayed expression won't help much. Once depressed, one should start the way out of their mental discomfort.Never forget, health is wealth and health comprises of mental welfare akong with physical welfare.If unsatisfied with the answer or want to know more, you are invited with new questions or comments. Please upvote if you like the answer, just to boost me up.Thankyou\U0001f60a

How do you handle your anger when it comes to your mother?

Anger towards one or both parents is not uncommon at all in children. It is present in all children at every stage of development. A parents job is to help their child feel and resolve their anger in a mild, healthy way. I don't know how old you are, or if your mother is still alive, or what your gender is in relation her. Every interpersonal relationship has its own dynamic and deserves to be fully explored—-especially parent-child relationships.Your anger towards your mother possibly stems back to very early childhood, and you were unable to articulate or express your anger towards her. Perhaps you have been repressing/suppressing anger towards her for so long that your current anger doesn't seem to have an appropriate context. Taking time to figure out the dynamics of your relationship with her over the years will help a great deal in understating the source of your current feelings towards her. Do not be afraid to seek the help of a therapist to help get you started, as it can be a very complex entanglement of emotions.