I need help talking to a girl. I just don't think of anything to say. What should I do?
You don’t need to talk a lot, or even “know” what kinds of things to say. Take an interest in her and set out to get to know her. This means you will need to ask her questions to find out who she is, what’s she’s into, what her plans are for the future, what she likes, her hobbies, interests, etc, etc.Breaking the ice can be the tricky part. It is best if you can find some sort of thing you have in common. If you share a class together, ask her what she thinks of the class, the teacher, the content. This can lead into a discussion about what she thinks about the school, other people there, what she does for entertainment, and so on.If you know her through work, you can do the same sort of thing, only about work.The point is to try to get to know her, so you can ask about her family, where she grew up, siblings, what they’re like, are they close, and so on.It can be weird if it is too much like an interview or an interrogation, so interject and reveal bits of information about yourself. Anytime you can find some commonalities, interests or experiences you share, affirm it, ‘Yeah? Me too. I love that!”If she has a hobby or interest, learn as much as you can about it through her.If you listen to people, the topic they are most interested in is themselves. “I,” “me” and “my” are the most commonly used pronouns in daily speech. So, by making the conversation about her you will undoubtedly be talking about a topic of keen interest to her. At the end of the conversation, she’ll think you are a great conversationalist, when all you did was take an interest in her and her interests.If you would like to learn more about this kind of strategy, check out the old, classic book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. You can get copies online for a few bucks plus delivery.
I like a girl but I can't talk to her. Can anyone help me?
Why can't you talk to her? If you're too shy, look at it this way: you have 2 choices - walk up to her and have a conversation, or continuing wondering how that would turn out until the opportunity is gone. If you're worried about rejection, look at it this way: if she reciprocates interest you gain something, and if she rejects you then you neither gain nor lose anything - therefore the logical choice is to try as you have nothing to lose. Have a little confidence so you can at least let her realize you exist - that's a start. Also, don't stress yourself out over it; just be casual but polite and aim simply to have a pleasant talk. Don't barrage her with questions, but do try to learn a bit about her each time you chat. Make sure you also frequently address her by name so that you learn it well and because people a naturally inclined to feel more connected to you when you use their name.I hope this helps and I wish you well. Comment or send a message if you have more to say / ask, follow me if you'd like to keep up, and check out my Quora blog. :)
I like this girl but i need ur help and tips on talking and getting with her.?
So this girl i really really like. But i have a problem she sumtimes stares at me. and i am had here in my math class last year. then i have her in my luinch. during lunch i sumtimes feel like she stares at me but she is like in a coolish indin table. Btw i am Indian christian and she is muslim. but she does not wear the headress so i am wondering if she is a strict muslim becuase of the dating. so during lunch she would randomely talk to me abt her friends and random stuff. but the problem was i was a loser and did not talk to her that much becuase i am very verty very very shy person and quiet person. i am only a bit tlaktive atround friends. but after 2 times opf rnadomely talking to me she stopped, an i was like damnit i screwed up maybe it was becuaser i was boring but i really like her or was it a dare? could u help me out. and sumtimes in the hallway i see her staring at me and during lunch sumtimes with a smile soprt of or mostly straight face what does that mean? i have sort of a pimple onm my chin and scars from pimples and few pimpleas on my right side of face. i am trying to get over the shyness and i don't no if i should say hi to her. normally i see her at the end of the day when she is walking left and i am walking right maybe i can say Hi (girls name). and maybe during lunch when she is not surreneded by her clique becuase i am very shy. and sumtimes i see her walkiing in the hallway they way i am going and say Hi how are u doing? i wanna do it but i am really nervous that she may think i am weird for randomely saying hi but i really want her to like me the way i do. and i am a sphomore and she is to and i wanna her to no me so in senior year i can ask her to the prom becuase and i don't want to ask her now or in junior year becuase of the big exam and i plain out scared. and dont no if she follow the part of her muslim religion weaather she dates. so please please help. And what are sum good way to say hi and how are you doing to her withput sounding reaptive everyday. becuase i want her to like me. and wehat are some ggood way to over come shyness and quietness cause i am [ pretty talktive with my friends but why can';t i be talktive to her becuase when she talked to me before i was like ummm. Thank You Very much ahead of time for answering the question. she is muslim and i am christain that doesn't matter but i dont no if she is allowed to dat but ill be happy to be firends with her.
I like this girl but i need ur help and tips on talking and getting with her.?
ok well im no dr.phil but i think u should talk to her and see if she likes u
My girlfriend doesnt want me talking to other girls help me!?!?! Thanks?
Ok so me and my girlfriend been dating for 4 months naw im not gunna lie we do fight over stupid alittle things (were trying to work on that) but my main problem is if i text, talk, hangout, video chat, or even hug a girl but, her she will yell at me an go on and on about me talking to one of them. But then i let my girlfriend text, talk, hangout, video chat, and hug whatever guy she wants but if i even ask her why she does i will get an atiude dont get me wrong i love her but this needs to stop its getting to a point where its making me kinda mad she constently talking to other guys and you know what somtimes it makes me thing does she have feeling for this one guy there always talking and when im not around my friends tell me she furts with him and ill be like wtf. And another thing she can see my phone all she wants for how long she wants idc i have nothing at all to hide, but if i ask for hers she will be like no u can stay out of my business you dont need to know who im texting and im not texting or calling and if i dont let her see my phone she will yell at me and last time she saw my phone she deleted all my numbers out of it that where girls..... HELP ME PLEASE 19 hours ago - 1 week left to answer. Additional Details and if i talk to her i know she will get mad this one guy that i think she likes i turned the cornor in school and she was on his back idk what to do i really love her and i dont wanna dump her :( she yelled at me for talking to one girl that was like my sister (2 yrs younger then me) 18 hours ago She is also always bringing up my ex girlfriends like who you trust this one more and why dont you go backout with this one or why did you even touch that one.... and if i do dare talk to a girl she will say i like the girl i talk to and keep bringing that person up......:( I DONT WANNA DUMP HER SOO PLEASE HELP :(
Im interracial, shy, and i like white girls, i need help?
Whether or not "most white students" find racial jokes funny, you clearly do not, and I would imagine that if you were to speak up and point out the ignorance and meanness behind them some of the very girls you pine for would look at you with admiration. Eye have pretty good insight into white people, as I have lived amongst them for most of my life. My own two parents, ironically, are both Caucasoids. Both of my nieces are racially mixed but, if pressed, identify themselves as "black"---coool with me---any way you look at it, they are FAMILY. Sometimes Eye think that the world and all its people would be better off if we all wiggled our toes in the Big Gene Pool so that in years to come all of humanity will be sort of....well, bronze or beige, I guess. Have Mormons take the Hajj on Rosh Hashana while Hindus celebrate Kwanzaa by sitting their babes on Santa's knee. Maybe cut down a bit on all the racial violence. Until then, keep in mind that many wonderful people are shy and should not keep you from being happy and successful. And don't let the Racial Kooks run the world. Hopefully, by engaging them in conversation they will better come to understand and consequently accept you for the intelligent young man you are (that said, watch your spelling and punctuation). Racial intolerance is born of fear and ignorance. Mainly ignorance---lots of white people never really listen to or interact with black people on anything more than a superficial level. You can help crack through the Wall of Stupidity that separates so many of us by keeping your head up and letting your voice be heard, at school and in the world that you will soon graduate into. To that end, check out your school's Journalism Department and get your stuff into print. Art classes. Film class! These are also great ways to meet girls and learn to converse with them in a meaningful way. If you attend a mainly white school you can erase the doubts of any stone-age white skeptics by excelling in all you do. Yes you can!! Good luck in all that you do. Spread kindness. We are all in this together.
How do i stop talking like a valley girl?
It's sort of like trying to ''lose'' a Southern Accent....bottom line? You shouldn't, hon....it's what makes you you....everything you said about your professionalism speaks for itself. Saying a few ''likes'' and ''OMG'S'' and accentuating when you talk is NOT going to detract from your intelligence, believe me....it's your given culture and you need to keep it and not become a ''generic'' just to fit in with the status quo.
Please help me!!! How do i stop talking like a valley girl?
The word "like" is going to be the hardest word to stop saying, but if you want to sound less "valley" then "like" is no longer in your vocabulary unless you are using a simile. Even then, try to say "as" instead of "like" to get you out of the habit of using the word. The next phrases to eliminate from your vocabulary are "totally" and "ohmygod". Use the word "completely" instead of "totally" in legitimate cases where you are describing something. Instead of "ohmygod" just say "wow" or another mundane expression. Teenagers and young adults are known for using the word "like" way too much. I was guilty of it as a teenager, but now that you're aware of it you can conscientiously eliminate it from your vocabulary. If you CATCH yourself saying any of the above words don't, like, totally freak out! (Hehe, just kidding!) :-) But seriously, if you catch yourself saying any of those things don't freak out, just keep talking. Just being aware that you accidentally slipped is a step in the right direction.
I like this girl, but i never get a chance to talk to her. please help!!!!?
I like this girl but i never really get a chance to talk to her. I dont have a problem talking to girls, its just i dont really get to see her. She is pretty popular and when ever i see her she is surrounded by girls. I am friends with all the popular guys but i really dont know any of the popular girls that well. I get invited to the parties but i never go because when ever i have gone in the past, there have been drugs there and not just weed. I dont really have a problem with the alcohol part, but its the drug part that makes me not go. The thing is, is that she is at all the parties. I get asked to hang out too, but we never hang out with the girls. We dont really see them unless its a party. What should i do?