Why do I feel like I can't talk to my parents about anything?
I as a teenager has gone through same. I felt hesitant to get my parents involved in my problems. But as i grew old I understand the reasons for not wanting to talk to my parents, and some explanations for why I should. So I am sharing some of my experience. First is money. We always think our parents don't have enough money for this thing so what's the use to tell them when they can't help us in this. But we are wrong they are always willing to help us with their tight budgets too.You may feel bad piling them on with another problem if you feel they are already loaded down with their own issues. Getting help from your parents now may actually prevent the problems from being worse down the road.Another issue is we feel our parents will be disappointed in us but its not like that they will be happy to help us. Sometimes we felt that our parents won't believe us or they just won't understand. It's true at times a parent may not completely get what is going on, but will almost always understand one important thing: "My kid's suffering, and I have to do something." But we feel as if our parents will make it worse.In the short-term, it might feel like self-injury, they may "nag" you more often. But it's is a great thing in the long run.We think our parents are part of the problem. Instead of telling them we think the problem will fix itself. At times we feel too ashamed to talk about it. Shame is a strong emotion. Your parents will probably ask most of their questions when you first tell them, so it may be intense in the beginning but you will feel better afterward. We are afraid our parents will send us away. Unless your specific problem threatens your own safety or the safety of others, there usually isn't an immediate need to remove you from the home. If you don't talk to your parents much anyway, and it's uncomfortable. If you don't feel much of a connection with your parents, you may be uncomfortable bringing up a serious issue later on. Even if they're not good at expressing themselves, have faith that they care and want to help you.Communication and trust is the key. Trust your parents and communicate your feelings with them. It feels great to have their support as they are the biggest strengths.
Do you use Usted in spanish when talking to your parents, too?
If you talk with your parents you don't used "usted" :-) Mamà, necesitas algo? Mum do you need something? :-)
I don't want to talk to my parents anymore?
What should you do? Grow up. I don't mean to sound like I am insulting you, but if you are 23 years old, then you are an adult. You don't need mommy's permission to go to the Pride parade, or anywhere else. If you want to sell your car, and the title is in your name, then go ahead and do it. Obviously your parents don't approve of some of your decisions, but as long as you are certain that you are acting in your own best interests then stop expecting them to like everything you do, and live your life as you see fit. Children need and want their parents approval, but now that you are an independent adult, your parents approval is more of a luxury than a necessity isn't it? BTW, if your parents are paying for your car insurance as if you are a secondary driver, or as a dependent living in their home, or if you are not telling your insurance provider that you are living permanently in SF, then you are committing insurance fraud. Now it may not seem like a big huge crime putting one over on the big mean old insurance companies, and I don't want you to think that I am being "Mr Law and Order" or anything, but since you said that your car insurance is the only thing that you are dependant on your parents for, I think you should think about this. If you get yourself into a nasty accident and have to file a pricey claim, the insurance company will look for ANY excuse to not cover you, and not providing FULL disclosure to your insurance company is a no-brainer for them. They will invalidate your policy, and leave you up the creek without a paddle. Now for the stuff you are letting your parents upset you about. There's nothing in your story here that would justify you to not call your parents. But when you call them, is there a law that states that you have to tell them EVERYTHING? By now you should be old enough, and wise enough to know the sort of things that will upset your mother. So keep that stuff to yourself. Besides, if all she can do is find something negative to say about the things that excite you, then does she really deserve to hear about them? You live across the country from them, so paint a rosey picture everytime you talk with your parents, and then you can go about your life in peace.
What is the main reason you don’t talk to your parents anymore?
Well that isn’t my case at all. I still have my mom that is alive and I talk to her sometimes 1–2x a day.Generally people use the excuse “I’m too busy” and never seem to find the time to talk to their parents, yet find time to go party, go to clubs, go hang out with friends, have a guys/girls day out with everyone else but with their parents. I’ve seen it to many times and I don’t get it when it comes to these reasons. I also have heard “My parent(s) doesn’t really have anything to say…” or “He/She just repeats themselves and it annoys me..” or “I always go over there… it would be nice if they came over to my house now and again…”To me that is funny because:when your parents were busy most parents have made time for their children and most have put in an effort to see their parentsmost parents have listened to their children when they had absolutely nothing to say at all A LOT OF TIMEShow many times did you repeat yourself as a child and most parents said nothing and let you repeat yourself over and overMAN-UP/WOMAN-UP and go see your parents. Stop complaining about how many times you go to their house and they don’t come over to yours. If you have to complain about such an insignificant thing about how many times you have to go over to see them then there is a problem.In other cases, adult children do not see their parents because of a traumatic event(s) that has occurred in their life such as:emotional abusephysical abusemental abuseparents not even there as they grew upparents on drugsnot having a stable environmentmaybe the parents just up and left them on their own at a very young age for no apparent reasonmaybe the parents dropped them off at Uncle Bob’s house and was never heard from again until the child was now a young adult and now wants to be in their lifeIn these circumstances I can understand why the child doesn’t want to see their parent(s) anymore. And the parent has no right to NOW try to force themselves on the child after being gone for years or traumatic event that has occurred. They don’t get to now act like a parent when they had their chance.The child will either try to make it work or decide they don’t want to let the parent be around them.