What is the point of living if all you do is disappoint everyone?
Someone, whom I truly cared for, told me that she regrets that she met me. Somehow I disappointed her.My father told me the he was disappointed by my academic performance even though I tried my best and performed decently.I was supposed to go an important family gathering but I skipped it because I didn't feel like attending it. It seemed pointless to me. My mother told me that I always let her down. I assume from your question that you are disappointed or depressed by the fact the you let everyone down. You care for them and you don't want to disappoint anybody. They expect something from you. But here lies the problem. Don't become victim of someone else's expectation. Everybody has different expectations from you and it is impossible to fulfill them. If somebody cares for you, they will understand you. They will understand your limitations.The point of living is not to please everyone. The point of living is to spend the time with the people whom you care for and who care for you. The point of living is to not disappoint yourself.
What was the worst disappointment you had faced in your life?
Hey, my name is Dan and I’m from midwest Brazil.In my early days in university I was craving for a job. So I applied to an internship on a major company in Brazil.This was my first view from the construction market in Brazil. And I was extremely disappointed. There it goes the reasons:The market was flooded with the same professionals. In the waiting room of the company there was at least 50 others for the same job offer.You need to have experience. Yes. Your ears are fine. You need experience for an INTERNSHIP.They want you to work full time. No surprises in that, but guess what, the university was full-time too. For some reason companies think that they are more important than your education.They want you to work on every end. I have friends in Canada, and they say to me “if you want a job apply for what they are specifically asking”. Cute! Around here we have to know and learn everything to get in the market. Our Curriculums get 3 pages for being ‘good’.Of course there was a lot of things that makes us cry, but I choose to learn how do deal with that for being happy.Ok. That was it. I think you should always learn the upsides of things to overpower the downsides. Life is beautiful.Thanks for listening.
I am very disappointed with myself, I became a person horrible. help me?
First off, if you serious consider killing yourself and it's more than a passing notion go get some help. Thinking about it is normal enough but fixating on it is a scary sign.Being disappointed in yourself is actually a good thing. You have recognized you have a problem. Your behavior hasn't met your expectations of yourself. You have hurt people and you want to stop.Realize that you control everything about yourself. Further, understand that you can wake up tomorrow and start doing things differently. Your past is gone now. You can start building a new approach any time you want. There’s no trick. Just effort and consistency.I've had a problem like this in the past. For me it was deciding who I wanted to be and acting like ‘that’ guy. After a while, you stopping being the guy you are disappointed in and become ‘that guy’. I can't tell you it was simple, quick or without relapse but eventually it worked.Good luck!
I Did something terrible. How can my parents forgive me?
I'm 15. Well just now, my mom took away my laptop (around 1) after catching that I was using it after midnight. My parents are very harsh and get pissed if I'm up at 12:10. My bedtime is 12. So um my mom was furious and she took my phone and comp and said I was grounded. I think she probably called me a stupid ***** but I can't remember. Afterwards when I had calmed down after stabbing my arm with a plastic fork (my version of cutting I suppose but no blood is drawn) I wrote on an index card "Mom, Dad, please sell my computer. I can't handle my addiction anymore. It's ruining my life. I am sorry. I just can't control it anymore. Please understand" and I put it outside my door. I would really like it if they sold it. I have been staying up to at least 3 or 4 in the morning on Tumblr (but im in incognito mode so it looks like I'm on pottermore :/ I'm a disappointment to my parents I know) I just don't know what to do with myself. My parents probably hate me. Also they're pissed off at me for clogging my bathroom toilet a lot. I live in the basement so it has to travel uphill so it uses a motor (which I'm pretty sure I'm ruining because I clog it so much) it always clogs because I use so much toilet paper (1 roll in a day and a half) or I just don't flush because I'm scared at night by the noise. What can I do? My parents are always disappointed in me about this. And my school has the first voluntary football game tomorrow night that I'm probably not allowed to go to anymore. I know you guys might not see it as a big deal but when you're my age these things you don't want to miss out on. I don't care if I'm grounded for life really. I just don't want my mom or dad to be mad at me. I really hate myself for the poor decisions I've made this summer. School starts in one week. And I typed this on my iPod touch.
''Gender disappointment'' ....anyone else feel this is wrong and horrible?
First, I'm willing to forgive the women especially. They're going through hormones. The two mother-like quotes you have (the first two) sound like they're women who have boys already and were hopeful for their girl. That's a BIG difference over someone who has no babies and has the gender they don't want. I mean, I know a family who had 6 girls and then finally had their baby boy. I'm SURE they were disappointed with every girl, then loved their girls anyway, but it's only natural. And these days, so many people draw the line at 2-3 babies that a mom who has 2 boys already and is expecting a boy will feel disappointed and depressed... no girls. For mothers who WILL not have more than 3 children, then I could see them considering abortion (terrible thought) rather than just considering having 4+ kids. It's ridiculous. I know my SIL had 3 boys, all c-section... so she was a bit down when she found out the third was a boy too (she couldn't have a 4th, she would have if she could have though.) Selfish, maybe. But not wrong I think, unless they treat the baby differently. My SIL so wanted one little girl, to cuddle and curl and love on. Would it have been normal for her to be anything BUT disappointed and a little depressed when told another boy? Especially with the hormones? Now having said that, there's a big difference between the woman or man who gets sad at the 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, of a gender... and the woman or man who have a baby for the first time and WANTED that baby to be a boy, and now is angry and ignores that baby girl, focusing on getting pregnant immediately and not spending time bonding or loving on him because it's time to get a boy, and she's just... unwanted. It's normal, but it's not right.
Should I kill myself, now I am a disappointment of my whole family and let my parents down?
I am a 21 year old international student in New Zealand. Coming from a third world country, my parents had to work their entire life in order to save up money and send me here study, in hope of giving me a better opportunity in life, whether or not I can stay here or return to my country with a foreign university degree. I am currently in my second year, where I should be graduating at the end of next year. My first year was a breeze with flying colors, I have been on the Honor Roll of the university because I was in top 20% of the students. However, due to a personal problem, pressure on some other matter that I should not mention here, my first half of the second year was a disaster. Out of four subjects, I almost failed one, and totally failed another subject. One of my very close relative was diagnosed with lung cancer, and my 2 year relationship has ended a couple weeks ago when I found out she cheated on me to be with another richer guy. I feel entirely hopeless, inapt, that I can't do anything with life, and I can't bring myself to tell my parents that I will have to extend my study, costing them at least another 10,000 dollars, which no way on earth they would be able to afford. I started smoking heavily for the last 2 weeks, which money taken from my supposedly food money. I can't think of any possible way to get me of this situation, where my whole family has put hope in, and I have failed them. I can't sleep, eat, I feel like I have no energy to do anything, and I have thought of killing myself once every few days in the past week. The only reason that stopped me from doing it is when I imagine how terrible it is for my family when they know I commit suicide in a foreign country 35,000 km from home. Is there anything at all that can pull me out of my own thoughts?
What is the most disappointing concert you've ever been to and why?
Bob Dylan in 1998. He walked out, stayed hunched like he was frozen at -50C and mumbled the words. He left out entire verses in every song. Then he walked away without as much as a Thank You. I couldn't understand a thing. It was nothing like his shows of the 1970s or 80s. And I'll never waste money on him again.