Feeling guilty after making out?
I'm a 14, almost 15 year old girl. I've been dating this guy for over 2 months. We will usually kiss each other sweetly but last night was a different story. It was a full out make out session. It was fun when it was happening but now I feel so guilty about everything. He apologized, after it told him that he was taking it too far. (Because he was the one who brought me into making out with him.) and I told him that was fine, but I'd rather take things slower. For a girl like me, and a guy like him, who are both waiting till marriage for sex, this will just increase our sexual desires. We both agreed not to hardcore makeout too often, and to limit it to sweet kisses because we are both so young. Knowing this makes me feel somewhat better, but at the same time I still feel guilty that it ever happened. What should I do?
Am I meant to feel terrible my whole life after a massive mistake that I know was entirely my fault?
It is hard to answer your question without knowing what the massive mistake was. Irregardless, guilt is an emotion. As is “feeling terrible.” A feeling of guilt means you have good morals when you make a massive mistake but it should be proportionate to the offense. Once you have owned up to the offence, then you work on making amends for it. That is the purpose of guilt, to make us acknowledge our faults, own our actions and take the steps to correct them.Guilt without action is not healthy. Your feelings are there to spur action. So take the actions you need to to correct your mistake and move on. We are not meant to arbor guilt forever. It is a spur to action. So write out a statement of what you did, confess your faults to the injured parties, then find ways to make up for it. So no you are not meant to feel guilt your whole life. Do what you have to do to make the other parties whole, ask for forgiveness and get on with your life, taking care to change your character defects.
How can I stop feeling guilty over many bad things I’ve done?
I know many don't want to hear this, but it honestly just takes time, support from loving people in your circle who can hold you accountable, and the Lord. I used to be a piece of work. Everyone, including my family knew and thrived off of that information. When it was time for me to turn in my ignorance badge, my family was completely against me. They constantly reminded me of the “old me” and that is what helped me bury my face in my hands feeling that they were right. I then tried church to cover the pain and shame but that didn't help either. It wasn't until people who actually knew the Lord introduced me to Him. They showed me what love was despite how wrong I'd done them. This never got in the way of loving me. Telling me that I needed to get it together, let go and let God, and not allowing me to wallow in pity were some of the best actions taken and words ever spoken to me even though they hurt at the time. They placed themselves in harm's way to bring me out of my own self inflicted darkness into the arms of God. They are my family and I love them for their sacrifice to love me- the unlovable. I no longer act like I used to. No one can manipulate my emotions. I'm not giving away my body in hopes that men will like or love me. I'm no longer bringing harm to those I felt were trying to bring harm to me. I'm no longer fake nor hateful. I can speak the truth of my life without shame even though it was meant to quiet me. I've done some things one of which almost took my mind and then my life. I had an abortion years ago and suffered severely from the pain and shame of it. I couldn't move on. I died with my baby. I don't know how it turned out for other women but for me, there was no coming back from that. But I did. I have. I tell others that they can overcome their shortcomings as well and no matter what the world thinks God will love you. I one day overcame my pain and absolutely NEVER thought I'd do it. YOU’LL DO IT, TOO…WHEN IT'S TIME. Hope this helps.
Make a Leo feel guilty?
I think it's easy to make a Leo feel guilty. However, Leo tend to release any negative emotion so fast, so they would forget it in a very short time. If they're guilty,,, they tend not to show it because they fear of losing face in front of others. And it's not that easy to make Leo forgive for his mistake... I guess you have to stimulate his feminine side so that he would realize that he's wrong and won't do it again in other time.
Feeling guilty after sex with an escort...?
I recently, I made the mistake of having sex with an escort. I had no idea what I was thinking. I think lust took over and I ended with sex with an escort. The sex felt good but now I feel guilty. I used her for selfish reasons. I feel like I wanna call her up and apologize, that's how bad I feel. Is it normal to feel this way? How do I deal with this? I don't want people to think I'm a bad person. I know I made a terrible mistake. I know I'm never gonna do something like this ever again. I just don't want it affecting me negatively in the future when it comes to future relationships.
I lied about something and I'm feeling terrible. How can I overcome this feeling?
There's NOTHING to feel so terrible unless you've murdered someone... Coz the dead don't rise from grave!! Lemme just remind you that you only are a human being and nowhere near perfect. You are bound to make mistakes. Everyone is! The difference is made by the choice(s) you make AFTER you've made a mistake. Lingering over the past, cribbing and crying is not even the last thing that'll help.You gotta look for ways TO MAKE AMENDS. You can't undo what's been said and done already. What you can do is try to minimise the damage and helping in healing of the scars you've given to others. BUT FIRST YOU GOTTA OWN UP YOUR MISTAKE. You'll be up for corrections once you're ready to face ALL the consequences of your actions. You must accept that what's happening now is only a result of your actions - direct or indirect. People ask - WHY ME? - when things go wrong but never when they are fine.So my friend, OWNING UP AND BEING READY TO FACE THE MUSIC is the key. Once you overcome this fear, life's gonna be so much easier.Additionally, if you've done something that can't be corrected anyway, SAY SORRY TO YOURSELF FIRST and others later because you've damaged your soul more than others. Whenever something bad happens to you, remember your mistakes in the past that've caused harm to others and accept it as a payback for your actions.The above statements might sound unrealistic at first, because it's an extremely hard learned lesson to accept everything that comes your way. But being a Fauji by heart, I have known, tried and tested it and I'm a thousand times better person now than I ever was!P.S. NEVER (R) NEVER SAY SORRY FOR MISTAKES YOU KNOW YOU'LL MAKE AGAIN. Just request for more understanding and say you accept your mistakes and work on correcting them.
I made a mistake while driving the car today, I feel bad now?
I haven't slept all night last night and i was driving this morning. I wanted to go left, I put the flasher and saw a car coming on the lane but I thought that I had enough time to make it so I drove. The other car seemed far but I suddenly heard violent honking from this woman and then she opened her window and shouted: "Who taught you how to drive?". I thought it was a bit exaggerated. I mean I got my license a couple of months ago but I think I drive fairly well. Did she flip out because she saw that I was young? Would she have done the same if it was an older man in the car driving? Now I'm asking myself if I'm really that bad of a driver.
I feel regret and guilt over something I did in the past. I feel I am not that good person. What should I do? How do I gain that trust and belief in myself again?
Hi,I don’t know what exactly happened so i cant comment over how to compensate, but i can sense that you have realization that you have done something wrong and this is the first step that you are already doing something to improve the situation. there are lot of people who do mistakes infact sins without having any realization for their acts so trust me you are at better place.. Guilt is the worst feeling and i can say that because i have spent 5 nights without sleeping when i was feeling guilt for my deed.Think about it ,what can make the compensation. work on it. Do something which can make someone feel better. Good deeds always works!See you cannot do anything about the past. the all you can do is try to rectify your actions. you feel sorry, accept it. make confession to someone what have you done you will feel light and something will come out which can help you to overcome from this.You are a nice person this is why you are thinking this much. Don’t feel disappointed and worthless. trust yourself you are better person and you can do things which can make you better person.Everything is in your hand. you jut have to try. when you will make someone smile you will start feeling okay. Feed to the needy people,try to talk to people who are suffering with problems,spend time with your family the way they reciprocate really sooth the soul, Read a good book to divert yourself are some of the thing which can make a person feel better in these situations.. Best of Luck!