18 and no direction in my life?
Im 18 and just graduated from high school this last year and have no idea what i want to do with my life..... I am working in a gas station right now but thats definitely not what i want to do with my life although i enjoy it..... what should i do? Any help would be appreciated as this is kinda starting to stress me out
How should I give direction to my life?
There are no shoulds. There is only inner desire.I gave direction to my life by attending college, then getting an advanced degree, practicing a profession, marrying and having children, all the things we are told will make us happy. And there was definitely some happiness, but inside I felt a lack. Something was missing. I began to wonder what all of this meant in the bigger picture of things.I won’t describe all the ways that I searched for meaning, except that after decades it took me to a teaching that explains what is the meaning of life, why do I exist, what I am to do in this life. I now have a structure that gives direction to my life and the sense of something being missing has shifted to an eagerness to find out how it all ends.If you feel any interest in this path—the wisdom of Kabbalah—go here.http://www.kabbalah.info/bb/kr
Do you give your life direction?
Do you give your life direction?I have a feeling that if you let life guide you,it will be a bad life.However,if you take it in your hands,it can be beautiful.What do you think?I see many people let their lives guide them and not vice versa.If you give your life at least a direction,it would be better.Why do they do it?I agree and so I attempt to give my life a sense of direction. I divide life into two categories:Big PictureSmall PictureBig Picture deals with the question of what gives my life meaning. Small Picture deals with the question of what gives my life purpose.The BP meaning of my life is to maximize the wellbeing of the world. The SP purpose of my life is to accomplish the BP meaning of my life.The SP of my life functions via a simple formula (which I developed) known as the L.K.H.F.That is, the pursuit of Love (loving my family & friends), Knowledge (advancing knowledge, educating others), Health (being mentally & physically healthy) and Finances (being financially secure/free).This formula can be defined as the “direction” of my life. I don’t like not being in control of the life that is mine.
What's it like to feel like your life has no direction?
Liberating.I suspect this isn’t a word many people answering this question would use. And one I wouldn’t have used either if you’d asked me a few years ago.You see, when an illness struck me that prised me away from all the direction I had, I was forced to reassess my values.Now, I look back to a time when I thought I had everything. I thought I was ‘going somewhere’. And I thought long and hard about what exactly it was that I had then that I haven’t got now (besides my health). I realised the only thing I had then that I don’t have now was hope – the idea that I was moving in a direction toward something greater.The reality in fact is that life is what happens while you’re planning something else. Thankfully I realised this and started to live a life with purposeful directionlessness.I admit it was difficult at first. It took me about a year to accept that it is okay, for instance, to allow my finances to break even. I don’t have to sacrifice my time to some fat cat I don’t know so that I can stow it all away in the name of some dream that will never materialise. Or some dream that I might not even want when – or if – I ever get there.I have started to live for the moment, and to appreciate the small things that bring enjoyment to each day, rather than just crossing days, weeks and years off as I approached the next deadline, or greater accomplishment.The truth – and I learnt this lesson the hard way – is that none of us know what is around the corner. Having some direction in mind can be a useful tool to attempt to get to where you think you want to be, but there are no guarantees you’ll get there, nor promises you’ll be happy when you do.I live a simple life now. I do the things I want to do in this moment in time, not knowing exactly where they’ll take me; and trying not to worry about where I might end up. Before, life was a regimented affair rather like an unpleasant residential camp. Now, it’s an adventure.
I feel like my life has no direction?
I'm a 15 and I feel like my life is stuck in a rut. I don't have many friends, never have anywhere to go, or anything to do. I find myself watching tv all the time and eating a lot. My lifestyle is becoming very unhealthy. i feel very stressed to do well in school, mostly pressure from my mom. She is constantly degrading me and making me feel bad about myself, which does not help with my lifestyle choices. (Even though I know that whole idea that she doesn't make my choices for me.) I hate being home and around my mom because she makes me uncomfortable in my own skin. I feel like everyday I come home from school, do my homework, and try not to watch tv. I have nothing else to do. On the weekends i never have any plans. My siblings go to friends houses but I am kind of just… stuck. It is starting to become boring for me, and I feel like I might be becoming depressed. I wouldn't generally put myself into that category as being depressed, but I don't know what to do. I do not self harm or anything like that, but I was tempted to make myself throw up the other day because my mom made me feel fat. I just feel lost.
Do you like the direction your life is heading in?
Yes, now it doesn’t mean it will be a smooth sail or a bed full of roses. There are obstacles that could come up, unforeseen circumstances. The approach is to predict and prepare for unforeseen circumstances that might arise. It’s never certain hence predicting by analyzing how your life is going, things that might come up along the journey, constantly checkmating yourself and doing self evaluation in the process of doing that you can then sail the ship through the tides and to the right direction also.
Why I chose the wrong direction in my life?
Like this also happened with me, then I started something new…I had a habit to watch porn before bed sometimes it may extend to 2 to 3 am in morning but after watching it I felt ashamed of myself and decide not to watch again.Next day with full dedication I started to study and after solving 4 to 5 questions of math my mind starts thinking about Sasha grey(pornstar) then it becomes unctrollable situation for me to prevent myself from watching it …wathing porn…After I decided to write each and every aspect of the whole day in a notebok included i watched porn till that time or studied that much hours and also started one habit to wake up at 4 am for study and concentrated on goal to become what I want to…And the result started showing, the joy and happiness of completing work in early morning and reaching office on time.Do something like this or may try something new which is helpful to you and all of us.