Why does The guy I'm dating insult me??
The guy that you're dating seems to have self-esteem issues. People like this make themselves feel better about themselves by putting others down because inside, they're really alone and weak. He seems to be following the mistaken ideology of "treat em mean and keep em keen". It only works on girls who had bad relationships with their fathers. If he treats you like this on your dates, i'd be afraid to think about what he might be like when you're married! If you really think he's worth it and want to try to change him, tell him that he's being insulting to you, and if he's worth half his salt, he'll listen and be nicer. And if things dont work out, leaving him would be the best option because they're plenty of other guys out there who know how to treat a lady nice. And most importantly, DO NOT even feel somthing is wrong with you when he insults you because thats exactly what he wants. And eventually, he'll blame you for being the bad person, bla bla bla and you'll try to nice to him but he still wont acknowledge you. He just wants control over you. If i were you, i'd take the insults as warning lights and move on.
I was insulted on first date?
This guy was telling me he was being sarcastic, but he would hurl insults at me. He said "You can't read sarcasm at all." "You think way too much." "You analyze everything." "You're too anxious." "You need to learn how to relax." I literally was just sitting there talking to him about random things and he got on the subject of my PERSONALITY for an hour, making insulting remarks like that. By the end of the date I started crying and told him to drive me home. He made it sound like I was the crazy one for reacting that way. I was so upset by the things he was saying to me about myself. He even said "You need to change those things about yourself. I'm sure other guys have commented the same things." When I got home, he texted me saying "I really do like you." I said "I'm not interested, sorry." Then this morning, he sent me another text saying "Do you want to hang out?" EW. Wtf is his problem?
Are military guys bad to date?
There are plenty of good guys in the Military. You just happen to have been involved with some real bone heads. I would not discount dating them in the future, but I would recommend you do a little more due diligence to make sure you are the only one in the picture. One lie and you are out of there. A wise man once told me that "men are the way they are because women reward them for it". Make him work for it girl, you're worth it.
Is it bad to be a cheap date?
Just a curiosity. I'm a little bit of a traditional girl who swoons over guys who open my door and pick up the check. I'm much less comfortable with the later however and always try to be a cheap date. Cheap date sometimes has a negative co notation. I'm not sure exactly what the connotation is though. Can anyone give me their take on this? PS. Don't pick on me for being traditional. To each their own. ;)
Question about men insulting women?
i have noticed that a lot of men will be very insulting. i can think of three comments which really blew my mind. one was from a guy 18 years older than me with virtually no dating life who said i could never be on the cover of a magazine bc lets face it im no supermodel. another was insulting my figure. another guy said im ugly after trying desperately to date me for three months to the point of becoming nervous etc. he also had no sex life and you think hed be happy to be dating someone. well i dont think im a supermodel. but im not ugly. i dont get these put downs. like, if i were to objectively look over these guys, compared to say hugh jackman, they really fall short. but when i date someone i dont compare to others. i just enjoy the person. i mean i seriously do not put them down in any way. because i figure that if i chose them somehow, or i let them choose me, to do so would be insulting my taste. not to mention i dont believe in harming people period. so you think theyd just do the same, or just focus on whats good about me? is this bc of social conditioning or something? it just seems kind of weird that a guy with no dating life, who is falling very short on the look stick (which i began to notice after they insulted me), should insult a lady like that he is trying so desperately to have. is it my bad luck? bc i have had this experience a lot. and its hurting my self esteem, i wont lie. i used to feel pretty good about myself. but sometimes i hear these insults. it makes me not want to date men anymore. but then i think, why would they want to date me so badly if i was really that bad? i mean, if they didnt like me, why do they want me? any guys know why some guys do this?