What is the hardest decision you have ever made?
Hardest decision is choosing whether to use a pen.
What is the hardest decision you've ever made?
My ferret Charlie lived to be eight years old. We found out he had adrenal disease when his was seven. He all so had an enlarged spleen and kidney. We paid the vet to remove one of his adrenal glands and he lived of six months after. Then his started to have more problems. The vet kept reminding me that it was "better sooner than later". But I don't listen. Then for a couple weeks he seemed better. His hair was growing back and his was playful. Then one day I went to feed him and he wouldn't move. I was holding him when he throw up then released his bowels. Next started having seizures, he starting crying a horrible painful cry and I didn't know what to do. He died in my arms that morning as I was trying to get him to the vet. I feel like it's my fault he died in pain, because I was selfish a didn't put him down. Not putting Charlie down was the hardest decision I ever made. It is also the stupidest and most selfish decision.
What is the best, hardest decision you have ever made and how has it impacted on your life?
So. Here it is.When I was in 8th Std, a guy proposed me. He was the most notorious, casanova, below average in academics but good in sports AND everyone’s favourite. I was the most studious, strict, focussed and teachers’ pet and a ranker all my life.He proposed. I denied. He insisted. In std 9 I said yes. By the time i was in Std 10 we were head over heels in love with each other.Now, i belong a very conservative family. Love marriages are a no-no. We were of different castes. So my dad got to know about us. We broke up. We could not stay with each other. We patched. And it went on till I realised that this cannot go on forever and that i need to take a final decision. So I left him. This time for final.I changed him completely. I behaved so badly, he swore at me. Yes. The girl he loved made him swear at her. I changed me completely. A topper girl became average. Hormones messed up. 5 years. I used to cry every night. Talk to myself like a psycho. He was the reason for my existence and my whole world. Plus i am a hyper emotional person.It took me 5 years to stop dreaming about him everytime. I am a post graduate now. Still dream about him once a month which is not under my control.The worst part is my sister did love marriage. After much scene, my parents agreed and i was supposed to be happy about it even though they did not accept my love.Today, I am no more the girl i was. I made things so bad between him and me, he doesn’t want me anymore. We love each other and probably will-but we won’t want to spend our lives with each other. Its that bad. I became shy and introvert. My confidence became zero. I stopped making friends. I began to be afraid of the dark. I stopped feeling good about myself. I still hate myself and probably will. Which shows on my face and my body. I have never done bad to anyone in my whole life-except him.I will never forgive myself. But i had to take that decision. I had to choose and i chose my parents which i am proud of. But this feeling doesn’t go away. I never will be the same again.This was still the best decision otherwise he would not have been able to move on ever and i did not want to give false hopes.
What's the best decision you've ever made?
One of the absolute best decisions I've ever made was back in High School during my Freshman year. I was in my social studies class, which was taught by the school's choir teacher, Mr. Michelson, who has worked in the past as an opera singer. We were separated into pairs, and working on a project involving maps, when Mr. Michelson went around the room to each group, seeing how they were progressing, but mostly trying to recruit students to join the concert choir. When he approached my partner and I, he asked both of us if we would like to join the choir. Straightaway, my work partner said "No!" After just a moments thought, I said yes. I have never really sung before, and I'm usually not a spontaneous person. But at that very moment it just felt right, so I agreed to sign up for next year. By the time I was senior, I was participating in 3 different choirs in High School, among them was a choir hand-picked by Mr. Michelson. Our choirs went around the nation and won various national, state, and regional competitions. Choir in High School became my absolute favorite class. we had so much fun, despite the fact that our teacher, Mr. Michelson, had somewhat of a negative reputation among the kids at school for being mean and loud. I felt he was just misunderstood. Thanks to the class and Mr. Michelson, I gained so many friends, and had more fun in High School than I ever would have if I had said "no" that day. On top of that, I've become an exceptional singer and have worked on my voice so much that I have now recently begun a voice acting career. I have much respect and love for those years in choir and for my teacher. That spontaneous "yes" of mine has been a large part of my life, and continues to be.
What's the hardest decision you've ever made? Was it the right decision? Were there any regrets?
This may be the most pertinent answer to any question I have ever answered.The hardest decision I’ve ever made was the decision to leave my husband of 12 years. It was the best decision I’ve ever made, and I have so many regrets.My first husband was a raging alcoholic 25 years my senior. Why I married him would be to long a story to tell, but I knew from the very first night I’d made a terrible mistake. To put it simply, I was young and naive and I really just didn’t know...But I was such a very good girl. Active in my church, always trying to do the right thing and make the world a better place...it came from my heart because I really wanted to do good in the world and make a difference and make god and my family happy.But, I wasn’t happy, and my whole life was a lie...because of my alcoholic husband and my mistaken belief that it was all my fault and if I could only try harder, be more perfect...And then, my rock and anchor in life, my dad, got cancer and died horribly...And then I just lost my way. Such a long story but...I found no comfort with my husband, but I did find comfort with another and I ended up leaving my marriage, my faith, my family and everything I believed in behind. And that my friend was the hardest choice I ever made and so full of regret. I lost everything.I lost my faith, I lost my family, I lost my lifelong network of friends. My husband had been a wealthy man, so I also lost my comfortable lifestyle, I lost my healthcare...and finally...I lost my mind.I became suicidal, and a shell of the person I had been before but...I found out I’m bi-polar and finally got treatment. I finally got therapy for severe childhood trauma I had never confronted. I realized...so many things...I...grew up...It’s years later now. I never left my faith, I went back to it and am now stronger than ever. I have my family back, my husband has joined me in my faith, I have more friends than ever. But I am humbled beyond description and maybe that was the whole point.Yes I wish I hadn’t had to go thru all that to be where I am now, but I now know some more valuable lessons. I know the simple power of hope, humility and faith. Without those things no amount of piety or wealth or good intentions will make a difference. I also learned the lesson of...never give up. This life is amazing, and there’s so much to live for.