What do you do if a friend thinks you are judging them?
In my experience with my friends I have observed that this sort of conversation ensues when I bluntly start doling out solutions to them for their problems. This frequently happens when the conversation starts heading toward my judgment imposed on his/her situation from my vantage point.With time, I have learned to attend to their problems by more or less rephrasing it so that it conveys my understanding of their problem and my concern for them. I try to direct it toward a solution more often than not but making them feel that they are in control of the conversation. The short advice is to apologize then and there and pay heed to their problems earnestly.
My crush thinks I like his friend.. oh SH*T!!!?
I need answers please, I know I aleady asked this.. but what do I do?? I mean his friend is also my friend, but thats ALL he will ever be, and my crush, who supposedly likes me too, but doesnt have the balls to ask me out, is all jealous and mad lately, and every time I talk to my crush, he says ransom stuff like were talking about school or something and hell just out of the blue say, oh sorry (friends name) isnt here today.... or Ill be like hey you wanna hang out... and he will say... yeah, but (friends name) wont be there with us... and I was like sooo.. and was thinking the only person I want to hang out is you, and only you... but I cant say stuff like that because I dont want to make things awkward!! and so I was like well that would be awkward if it was just me and (friends name) and my crush says why would it be.. you were talking about yourselves just fine yesterday (aka we were hanging out, and I was talking to my crushes friend pretty much the whole entire time, but all we talked about was how much I like my crush, and how much he likes me back..) and he sounded jealous, and mad!! but not mad at me, but mad at himself because he cant express how it made him feel!! I wasnt sure what to say because I didnt want to spill my feelings to my crush.. I just dont have the guts to!! :/ but yeah what do I do?? I dont want him thinking that I like his friend :/ I am sooooo attached to liking my crush, and when he brings up other guys that I have "flirted" with (I call it laughing while talking because his friend is funny!!) and I feel like Sh*T!!! and I want to just talk to him about it, but I cant :/ plus his friend is my best friend's boyfriend, so therefore I would NEVER try and flirt with him, or get together with him!! but my crush seems to think differently!!!
How do I say no to someone who thinks I'm their friend?
How often do they think that you are their friend anyway?It is hard to be nice most of the time because people would always take you for granted and they keep on asking something despite them being unjust.Being nice is not bad but being bad at some point is not bad at the same time.If you think that they will take it against you then, indeed, they were never friends with you.Being friends is a deeper form of relationship between people but it must not give an ultimatum to agree on every single thing you thought would keep your friendship on a smooth sailing.Tell them no in a nice way that they can take it against you but don’t assure them that you will say yes next time. Friendship is a give and take relationship but there is always a limit. Know that and let them know it.
Ok i think my friend is a vampire?
ok, im a guy im 14 and go to school, a new kid came to our school about 1 month ago, we clicked straight away, so where really good friends now. hes pretty dark in his ways, usually wears black (no hes not emo/punk/goth) at break and lunch i usually go out on the feild with everyone, but whenever it sunny he never wants to, he NEVER eats in school, but hes not skinny hes about normal, and hes really really strong and FAST!!!! not super human strong or fast hes just the strongest in are year and the year abouve by far, hes SO fast as well, not so when he runs hes a blur to the eye and all that crap hes just really fast, way faster than a normal 14 year old, he usually wears a top on unger his clothes so when we get changed no one could see him, bu the other day, he didnt, and i looked (not in a pervy way!!) he is ******* ripped!!! i mean full six pack, pecs, biceps the lot!!! he never does sports, or activitys at all, he stays inside most of the time and is very pale, whenever blood is mentioned or someone gets a noes bleed usually everyone crowds round but he just dissapears, or kinda tenses and holds his breath! help anyone?? i know its kinda weird and i sound paranoid lol
Why do my friends think I'm Stupid?
I think you’re scared. If your friends think that you are stupid, then by all means, raise your confidence and go ask them. Do not ask strangers in Quora about why you are stupid. Frankly, speaking, half the people in the world are below average in IQ and hence, are stupid by definition. Same is the situation of Quora, half the people here are stupid. You will only get vague answers like the one that I am giving if you are asking this question here without context. I will try to answer your question though. If your friends think you are stupid, then go ask them or go get a better set of friends. Are your friends genius scientists or wise diplomats? Then what makes them categorize your actions in the realm of stupidity. I would suggest you just think about it for a while and if you still cannot come up with an answer, then go ask your friends boss, or go get yourself a new set of friends.
My best friend thinks I'm copying her?
Ok, so me any my "best friend" have been friends for three years, but that all ended today over the most un reasonable, stupid excused reason. She says I copy her to much, and she's getting mad, and that she's done with me. She claims that I take resembling Myspace pictures, and that I stole her Myspace name. Which is NOT true. Here take a look at the pictures.. Me: http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=453549309 Her: http://www.myspace.com/tessie_luvs_you (Read her status as well xD) Anyways, me and her JUST became friends again a couple days ago from another fight. That time she said she was sick of my lying. What lies? What's wrong with me? It seems that everything I do, every step that I make, hurts someone or gets them pissed. I'm just trying to be my own person, and keep my friends in line. I'm just trying to be a good friend. That's what I've always done. If one person is mad, she gets the rest mad. I want to leave more than anything, but I can't. Because I CARE. Unlike what she thinks. It's like hell has already risen. If she continues this, everyone is going to see hell rise. I'm sorry, but I've tried my best, I've done everything. But apparently, my best isn't good enough. I'm NOT copying anything. I have NO friends, because I always screw up everything. Why can't I have friends who take me for who I am? Who actually care about me? What do I do? This is seriously putting me in deep depression..
My friend thinks she's ugly, how do I help her?
Please tell your friend that according to the bible, God's holy word, “we are fearfully and wonderfully made.” She must know that she is very beautiful. She is unique. Besides, true beauty comes from the inside. There are many persons who are said to be beautiful on the outside but they are unkind, manipulative, disrespectful to others, etc. These people are not truly beautiful. Besides, the beauty that we all are on the outside will fade one day and our true beauty that is on the inside is what will last. Remind her of all the great qualities she has and tell her that that is the reason why she is beautiful.
Does it make a guy like you more if all his friends think you are hot?
Depends on the guy. Guys who are under 21 years old will tell you that it is great if others think you are hot, but older, more mature men will not be quite so enthusiastic. You see, it depends on WHY those other people think you are so hot. Some guys think that all slutty girls are hot. If that is the case your guy will not be too happy about it. On the other hand, if you are truly a super model type, then yes, your guy will like it, but NOT because the other guys think you are hot, but because you TRULY are hot.
What should I do if one girl thinks I'm her best friend, but I don't feel like I want to be friends with her?
She can think whatever she wants. As I said elsewhere, a person’s relationship with another person may feel greater and more connected than the other way around. She may consider you as her best friend and you may consider someone else your best friend.You might think, “How does that work? I thought best friends are mutual and exclusive?”No. ^_^A best friend is basically someone that connects with you the most at this moment in time. Over the period of a person’s life, it’s possible to meet many people, make many friendships and in that time, create many best friends.Let’s use an analogy for this. Let’s say you and your friend drives the same car (the relationship), a Ford. Let’s say you also own two other cars that are also driven by other friends, a Mustang and a Ferrari. For your friend, the Ford is amazing. She loves it! She adores it! She thinks it’s the best thing ever. For you, while the Ford feels safe and well, you definitely prefer the Mustang and Ferrari. They match with your personality, your needs and wants.So in this regard, the friend who shares the Ford with you, think the Ford is the best in the world. In your case, you are her best friend. In this regard, the Mustang fits you perfectly. In your case, your two other friends are your best friends.Now as for the bit about not wanting to be friends with her at all, that’s a whole different thing. If you feel this isn’t something you want, there are three specific ways to do this.Be straight forward and honest. Tell her without needing to be mean. Just be truthful.Give her the opportunity to prove that her friendship to you is possible, even if you may never consider her a best friend.Avoid her like the plague. She will probably ‘get it’ eventually.Personally, I don’t reject friendships. I deny existing ones if they prove to be an over burden, eg: toxic, evil, disgusting people. Reason I do not reject new friendships is because I treat friendships as an allowance of other people into my sphere of understanding and recognition, which in time may build trust, loyalty, goodness, consideration and all of the other things that make it delicious. ^_^ In other words, unless they are evil and disgusting people, I normally allow opportunities to happen. It keeps my life peaceful and drama free.
People think I'm their best friend and....?
Well, basically, I've found myself in this situation quite a lot. One where someone thinks I'm their "best friend" or really good friend where I just view them as a casual acquaintaince. I mean, I don't understand it and it usually ends up getting kind of awkward (for me at least). I try to be nice to everyone and if someone asks me for help (with pretty much anything, but usually school work) I gladly give it. I'll talk to them if they are talking to me. But I don't feel like I go out of the way to really build a friend-type relationship and next thing I know I'm being called their friend or best friend or being asked by them if I think we're really good friends or something. They'll start telling me all this personal stuff while I only really talk to them about school stuff and I kind of just try to give them advice on whatever it is, but it gets kind of uncomfortable. And I'm just stuck in this awkward position where its like "Wait what? I never really considered us that great friends" but I don't want to say it because I don't want to hurt their feelings. So what should I say to them? And what can I do so people stop thinking we're such close friends? And what am I doing to make them think this?