Why does married life get so boring?
Is this true? I mean most of my friends who are married tend to talk without excitement about their lives having family. Like this friend of mine who when I asked him how he and his family was he said "Oh, we are just dealing with daily stuff, school, work, the usual". I mean he and many others used to say how happy they were at the beginning or when single. I'm single myself, so I would like to know if we all end up talking like that or is it that these people aren't having the right family life? What to do to maintain the bliss?
My boyfriend is married but wants to divorce and marry me, what should I do?
I've been through this twice. First time I fell in love with a married man he told me he was separated....actually she had just taken the kids away for the summer...she returned, I ended the relationship, but then they did actually separate and we resumed our affair, several years later we married. And lived happily after? Well.... no, 6 years later I learned he was having an affair, totally destroyed me. We divorced but we continued to see each other and be intimate (I know I was stupid) when he was in town on business until I found out he was actually now married to wife #3, the woman he'd cheated on me with! So yes he cheated on wife #1 and #3 with me (and probably others) and he cheated on me. Scenario #2 I met a man we became friends, then more, he was separated ...off and on... so we were together off and on.... this went on for about 3 years. Then 1 day I was at his apt and his estranged wife showed up and she was an emotional mess and I was faced with the pain I was contributing to for this woman. I quickly left but that's when I realized what a horrible person I was, I had been in her shoes, the betrayed wife, and I had no business being with her husband even if they were separated. I told him to figure out what he wanted and not to contact me unless he was truly free. About 8 months later he contacted me to tell me that he and his wife had reconcilled and in the course of their marriage counseling he had revealed my full name to her and he was calling to warn me that she might do something erratic... I never heard from her thankfully, but even now, nearly 20 years later, if I'm in their part of town I worry about running into her, I still feel the shame, which is also why I write this anonymously.So my advice would be to walk away as quickly as possible.
Two kids by age 23???????????/?
not at all!!! i'm 23 and had my first when i was 18-she's now 5 and i am 5 days over due with my son. i am happy cause once my son is born it'll all be out of the way cause i'll have one girl and one boy. me and her dad are still together. it mite be a little hard when the 2nd one is born, my daughter is a bit anxious but excited at the same time but at least u won't have to get a double buggy, so much hassle having 2 kids that are both so young-less exhausting! congratulations hun and good luck, i'm sure you will be perfectly fine.
I'm 35 and single. Is it late to find a partner and have kids?
Too late? Not at all, not even close. In fact, you are some serious prime meat my friend. There are lot of single women your age and a lot of them are hungry for a long term relationship.Do the math: there are slightly more women than men in the world. Suppose the ratio is 49% men and 51% women. Suppose that by your age, 90% of them have paired off. That means that out of 100 people, 45 men and dating 45 women. That leaves 4 single men and 6 single women. They should be fighting over you.
I am a married woman and he is a married man. We fell in love and we both know that it's not going to work. How can I help myself to forget him?
First of all,its very good that you both know its not going to work. Relationships of these sort wont last long It will end without your effort. But the biggest mistake you are doing now is, you are trying to forget. This is actually a wrong step. Reason, The more you try to forget, the closer you are getting into this emotionally. Love with Sister, Love with Brother, Love with children, Love with husband, Love with other family members, Love with pets, Love with friends all have different takes. All you need to worry is, what is really the take from this relationship?. what is the reason for this relationship? what is the purpose? . So the fist step is to, Find the root cause of the issue that keeps this relationship going. There are several reasons, Loneliness, Depression, Lust, companionship, jealousy, revenge.. etc.. Try to find the reason for this relationship first.Second, You dont have to be guilt for this relationship. Opportunities and the social setup is the culprit. You should be guilt only if you are prioritising this relationship over your family. There is nothing wrong to have a companion. He/she can be a good friend too. He/She can be provide good mental support too. So the next step is how can you convert this relationship to yield positive benefits. Approach this in a very optimistic way. A Man and woman outside of the marriage can build a good companionship. They can build good trust. Learn, Share and succeed together. why are you so down on this part?Third, Reveal this relationship to your husband/wife, Your family, and most importantly to your kids. This will cut down half of your guiltiness. Build a trust. Make him a family friend rather than a secret friend.Finally, as other said, concentrate on something highly occupying. Build good reading and learning habits. Go to temple. We can all give only suggestions, but its you actually have to work.
Wish my boyfriend would propose...?
we have been together for 2 years, i love him, he love me - endlessly!!! we have a son together and he helps take care of my two kids from a previous marriage. he says he wants to get married someday but no proposal yet. i told him i want to be engaged, then plan a wedding a couple years from now. what do i do - keep bothering him - or just let it go until he asks. i really am anxious to be engaged. he doesn't have much money after the bills are paid - but i told him i don't need a fancy ring - and there are places where you can make payments. any ideas, suggestions, comments?