Jealousy is taking over my life!?
I have a problem that's been bugging me for a while now. I never used to be jealous of anyone, but recently, I get jealous of every girl I see who is even slightly attractive, especially if I am with my boyfriend. I have pretty low self esteem anyway which doesn't help. I take the little things he tells me to heart, like he once told me he likes blonde better than brunette, which makes me assume he finds blondes more attractive than me. I'm not here for abuse, or to be judged, I just really need some help. I've been with Matt for over two years now and I'm worried this problem is going to start to ruin our relationship. How can I stop myself from being a jealous person?
Rape fantasy is taking over my life.. help.?
I was raped four years ago when I was almost 18, so I understand a lot of what you have been through. Having a rape fantasy is not in and of itself a problem. Many women have them and they are perfectly normal. Obsessing about them might indicate that you need a little counseling, but not necessarily. It also just might mean that you are subconsiously expressing a desire for sex and it is coming out in the form of the fantasy that you enjoy the most. Enjoying a masturbation fantasy, even where the theme is rape, is normal and not really a problem. After I was raped, I also at had dreams that were very sexual that included rape in them and sometimes had conscious fantasies involving rape too. Although it might seem sort of odd that a woman that was actually raped might have such a fantasy, it really is not. For one thing, it is a common fantasy of normal women and you are still one. Also, it might be a way in which the mind helps come to terms with having been raped and having not had control of that situation. In the fantasy the rape plays out on your terms instead of on the rapist's terms, so you control the outcome not him. I still have rape fantasies even though I was raped four years ago. I don't find them disconcerting and just think of them as I would any other sexual thoughts that make me excited and help me express sexual desires. I just go with the flow instead of worrying about them. There really aren't right or wrong fantasies, rather, only one's actions can be right or wrong. Fantasizing about being raped isn't wrong. If you did not have counseling after being raped, or even if you did and you are finding your present fantasies or state of mind disconcerting, I would recommend seeing a counselor to help you work through your present situation. It will help you find a peaceful solution to your present feelings and get you to a better place even though you say you don't want to be told that. Counseling by someone knowledgable about human sexuality and victims of sexual assault makes a lot more sense than taking the advice of untrained people on Yahoo! Answers in this case.
My friend is taking over my life step by step. Help?
Your first mistake was taking her to the social event. Social events are meant to be social. Second mistake was ignoring it. If you had a concern, you should of told her. But that's the past. Don't regret that you did that. Instead of sulking in a corner, try fighting back. If I were in that situation I would seek out her weak spot and crush her (but don't do that). Speak up. Try talking to someone close to you about it. She obviously did something to get every ones attention. You could always try standing out more. If when you try to talk to her, try talking face to face and go straight to the point. Say what's bothering you, straight to her face. If she ignores you, grab her by the shoulder and say it's important. Don't send an email with your problem or a sms or something. It's best to go straight to the source. Good luck and I hope you get your social life back. P.s. And that's why I don't have facebook
Sports are taking over my life?? Please help. Thanks.?
So I'm a freshman girl and I play basketball and I honestly hate it. My parents always push me to be the best and I've tried so many times. I know I should never give up but I just don't wanna play anymore. I would rather focus on schoolwork and anything else that's gonna actually benefit me in the future. Basketball used to be my passion but my parents just have pushed me so far that now I hate it. A few times in the past I told them how I felt and they went ballistic. That's why im so afraid to tell them now. They always say "you're never going to be anything in high school!! You are gonna sit on the couch everyday after school and be lazy!!" and that's not what I would do. They never gave me the chance to show them other stuff I can do. I play basketball year round and I mentioned to them that I might not wanna do this upcoming spring season and they got so mad. I just don't know what to do. It's making high school way worse than what it should be. Ugh I just don't know what to do. Do I make my parents happy or just do what I think is best for me? It is also hard because my older sisters and brothers made varsity sports when they were only freshman. Only two of my brothers didn't play sports. I guess I feel bad because if I tell my parents how I feel, then they know they wasted thousands of dollars over the years for me to do something that I don't even wanna do anymore. I don't know what to do. They always say I have this athletic ability and I should use it. But what if I don't? Will I truly regret it after high school? I just I don't know. Please help.
OCD/Fear of Parasites Taking Over My Life?
I am 19 years old and have had OCD since I was a little girl. Right now my current fear is being infected with parasites (especially tapeworm). This fear started when we found out our dog/house cats had fleas, and I started finding fleas in the house. I read somewhere that fleas transmit tapeworm to humans so now I am deathly afraid of swallowing a flea. I am literally sick to my stomach right now because my dad put groceries/food in the trunk of his car with a bunch of my sisters clothes that were in her room on the floor (and quite possibly have fleas on them) so now I am afraid to eat any of the food because I'm afraid fleas could have gotten in them. I am extremely frustrated with myself because I am letting this fear take over my life. I know it sounds so stupid and I feel like an idiot, but I cannot stop the extreme anxiety I feel over this. What should I do to overcome this? Should I be doing the things I fear (such as eating the food, even when I m afraid of fleas in it)? How do I deal with the anxiety afterwards? Thanks
I mad wors mistak in my life help how to get her back she hate me over studid msiistake?
i was a bf to a girl 4 1 year was very like her very much and last night my first tim hav sex (do not let name fooll u ) well i put in wrong hole she smack me in face was creaming and mad me leave her hous i called her tell i sorry right now mayb hour ago want to have some dinner i told her is my first time did not kno couldnt see so jus felt arnd wasnot feel very good well she start screaming at me and hun upthe phone i just emil her and said very sry and am upset why she yell at me i want to do thing better nex time she emil me bak saying **** you and she sad she block me why plz help :( how do i tell her sry was an acident i wan her back plz and y was she so mad at me for mistake i also did not evn get it in a lot and she was one who try to pressur me into have sex :(
How do you die when taken off life support?
my dad has cancer, & it's spread all over his body.the machine he's on now, isnt a ventilator yet, it's a machine thats just a mask over his face to help him breathe. He's probably going on life support within the next couple days. We don't think he will be on it long though.. i was wondering when taken off it, how do you die? Do you suffocate to death, or what? Please help I really want/ need to know
Masturbation is taking control of my life?
Hi guys its hard for me to share this but here i go. I'm 16 and i masturbate basically everyday, But the thing is i would go on omegle talk up a girl be all nice and get them to show me there body. After i had finished if you know what i mean i would just leave and one of them messaged me after because we skyped and she was upset and i felt like the worlds biggest prick. I cant control myself when im horny. Ive been told im an extremely nice guy and i try treat women as best as i can. But masturbation is taking a toll on me. Im messing with other peoples feelings just so i can masturbate. Its sick. Ive tried to stop masturbating but its hard. I always feel bad after it. I think all this masturbation will take away the full enjoyment of sex. Please give me advice on how to control myself.