My childs father wants our child SSN, do i give it to him.?
Im pregnant and im suppose to have my son New Years day. Yesterday my baby daddies mother called me telling me to have the baby on the 20th so our son can be on her sons income tax but not mine. My child's father hasn't bought my son anything not even a pair of socks and his reason was cause he isn't here yet. my child's father has a job and he pays his cell phone bill and his car note, he doesn't have insurance on his car he doesn't have health insurance on himself and the apartment he lives in his mom pays for it. i asked him if he could he pay for the babies insurance since he has a job and i had to stop working a few months early for health reason and he said he doesn't know cause he doesn't even have any on himself and is already low on money so i had to get Medicaid so my son would have insurance. .He never brought up having the ssn until today. And my son lives with me and my mom so i don't know why he would need it. and when i told him he wouldn't need it he told me he would incase he needs to take him to the hospital and i told him all he needs is the insurance card so he got mad and called his mother she called me i didn't answer cause i feel i don't have to explain anything to her so she called my mom and told her i need to have the baby on the 20th cause if i have him on new yrs. i wont be able to put him on her sons income. and it came down to he was going to hive his mom our sons ssn so she will file so he can get money for college. Im in college too but they don't see me trying to get induced for tax reasons. and last time we talked about taxes he said he should have enough to pay off his car so he could sell it to get a new camaro and i told him how immature it is to get a new car that he would still have car notes and have a new baby he didn't once bring up what he needs to buy for the baby or paying for school. the point is he hasn't bought anything for his son he has money but he spends it on himself and unnecessary things. my son lives with me and my mom. he is on medicaid that i got for him. so why would he need the ssn. and do i have to give it to him. SN when i got pregnant the first thing his mom told me was don't put my son on child support. he begged me not to take him to court so they wouldn't put him on child support but he isn't doing anything money wise.
I love my boyfriend, but he keeps asking me for money. What should I do? He earns more than me and never mentioned returning the money.
Don’t give him money !! You will never be able to get rid of him. It doesn’t nessesarly mean that he’s using it on another women, if it doesn’t work out, there are TWO sides to every story. But it means, he will always need you, and basically you become like his mom after. Yes. There are reasons girls stay in a relationship, even an unhealthy relationship, so maybe you feel like he cares about you, which may be true, but he needs to care about you A LOT, not just a little, and he needs to put your needs above his own. It just means you would be taking care of him the rest of his life. And he needs to have something to offer, and bring to the table as well. It’s not nessesaraly a bad thing that they ask for money, if it works out, he will make it up to you in dates, or movie nights, cooking dinner, and spending time with you, and paying all the rent later on, so it’s not bad that you help him out, but ONLY if he puts your needs first, and he’s not free loading. Plus another thing to think about is if he’s always asking for money, it sounds like he’s boke, and going no where with his life. If he’s broke, what happpens if you got pregnant. I know your probably thinking he’s just gonna use you and move on, like other a** holes, and that will be the next girl to get pregnant by him, but in reality, no, that could very well be you. Because there are consequences to dating guys who don’t care, and not learning from mistakes. And yes, that’s an extreme thought, but becoming a single baby mama is a consequence. Or he could stay, and you could find out about all other girls he’s had get an abortion, and he could use the baby as leverage to hit you up for money and all. The hard way is rough, and you have no idea how much things can happen, if you stay, a lot of different outcomes all together can happen. There’s other consequences too.
Anyone who has given a child up for adoption?
Angelia, Don't do it! You will never get over it, in my experience. Giving up your child is a permanent solution for a short term problem. Since you are saying that money is your big problem right now and that if it wasn't, you'd like to keep your baby.. don't sell yourself short. Or cheat your baby out of a mother who clearly would be heartbroken. Swallow your pride and take your parent's help. That's what family is for. I think it's wonderful of them to offer and someday you can pay them back. This keeps your child in his family while you get yourself situated - we have to make compromises for our children and you are fortunate that you have their support. Try to believe in yourself. I wish I had listened to my heart back in 1966 instead of all the people advising me that I wouldn't be able to take care of my own child because I was young. I believe that both my son and I were and are forever hurt and damaged by having been separated. He told me after reunion that he believes that we would have made it if I had kept him.
Husband in dep, left me, I'm pregnant, still need to file for divorce....?
My husband is in the delayed entry program. He married me one month ago and then left me 4 days ago for his ex-girlfriend from high school. I found out two days later (yesterday) that I am pregnant. He has not been to boot camp yet. What, if anything, will the military do? Will they make him give me money after he goes to boot camp? Is it different because he hasn't been yet? He did already go to meps. He got a 95 on his AFQT or whatever (asvab score), but now he is saying he hurt his back. He is married to me, but he lives with his girlfriend, who doesn't want him to join. Doesn't he have to now? He told his recruiter he hurt his back, and they said military surgeons would fix it, he just has to sign waivers. I just want to make sure I get help, financially, for the baby. I'm scared that he doesn't want to go now, and I don't want him to get in trouble for adultery or malingering, because I really will need help from him. Do I talk to his recruiter?
Why do fathers think it’s okay to not pay child support?
My ex and I split up 3 years ago. I never fought him on paying half the childcare costs even though I was within my legal right to do so. He is ordered to pay $544 per month for two kids based on his $45k per year salary. He says he can’t afford it because he had to save money to get his license back (lost due to DUI’s). He refuses to take the kids more than 2 nights per month and refused to get a second job to cover things he has still managed to work throughout the years with no license. His parents think it’s okay for him not to pay and he says it’s no big deal. Meanwhile my fiancé just gave up his health insurance so he’d have more money to help support my kids while I’m in PA school (and also working two jobs). Child support is for the basics like food and shelter, and he is contributing zero. I also have provided all transportation the last couple years. So many people I know think this is fine. We decided together to have the kids. Why is this okay?