Why do I feel so sad as a transgender woman?
I’m working through stuff like that, too. ((HUGS))Don’t get me wrong, my transition was wonderful, and hard, and necessary, but life is more than just gender transition. Here’s some possibilities of why you might still be sad after transition:If your family, friends or colleagues don’t accept you and respect you.If life is hard because of discrimination or prejudice.If you don’t really accept yourself or feel good about yourself. Counselling might be helpful.Learning strategies to overcome chronic fear. When fear has become an ingrained response, it can trigger feelings and difficulties that look like anxiety or depression.Because it takes time to recover from the ordeal called gender transition.Get advice from an endocrinologist who is experienced in transgender care. Increasing your estrogen dose, or discontinuing anti-androgen medication, may both be options that help with how you feel. Good hormone support has real value. Anti-androgen medications can have side effects, and may no longer be necessary in your HRT regimen.However, the most likely reason is that life brings sadness and distress of it’s own, completely unrelated to gender transition. For all that gender euphoria can be wonderful to focus on, and delight in aspects of your new life, it doesn’t solve everything.Sometimes it’s the broader view of leading a fulfilling life that brings answers, especially once we’ve done everything to sort out the living nightmare that gender dysphoria can be. Here’s an article that looks at some things that can make the difference between enjoying life, or merely existing:9 Strategies for Dealing with Gender Dysphoria for Gender Queer and Trans Folks
Is there a dating site for people like me , im a serebro hermaghrodite aka intersexed , im not gay im just me.
This is the only one I came across: http://www.okcupid.com/interests?i=inter... Not very much. I wouldn't reccommend it. Your problem seems similar to that of transsexual people. Most dating sites that offer transsexual dating tend to lump them together as one group with transgender people and crossdressers. Sometimes even intersex people are included in these catagory lumpings. It does everyone in the lumped group a disservice because all three tend to be of different psychosexual natures and date people of different psychosexual natures. Many bi-sexuals looking for a "best of both worlds fantasy" cannot or will not distinguish between a pre-op transsexual woman and a she-male. This is a form of their selfish indifference towards the nature of the person they are trying to date, never mind that person's needs. This "best of both worlds fantasy" is also sought out by some bi-sexuals towards intersex people as well. I hope that one day there will be a dating site exlusive for transsexual and intersex people. With gay gender fluidity theory and bi-sexual best of both worlds fantasies needing to be promoted and fufilled, it will not happen unless transsexual and/or intersex people create their own exclusive dating sites.
Clinical depression or gender dysphoria...?
It's called Gender Identity Disorder, or as I like to call it Gender Dysphoria. I was emotionally unable to be male as it dove me deep into a depression I could escape from. This isn't gender confusion. Gender confusion is a term people who don't agree, or are strongly motivated by western/christian ideals, and believe that gender changing is immoral. They want you to believe your confused about your gender. From what I read about you, your not confused about it, your confused about what to do about it. I know this feeling personally as I am transgendered and for years struggled to let the person who I really am out. I was eventually unable to function anymore until I transitioned. Transition was the only way I could escape from the feeling that I felt trapped, and that I loathed my body, and myself to a certain extent. You should see a gender therapist and work out this, and likely consider transitioning if you ask for my personal opinion. Do your research and evaluate your options. What you are going through is perfectly normal, and is a product of our societies inadequate methods of identifying gender, and gender identity. It's not your fault, but you do need to do something about it ASAP.