My husband keeps telling me to lose weight. I was fat before marriage too. If he doesn't like me as I am why did he marry me? Should I lose weight?
Hi,Trust you are doing well!Please don't consider my answer to be negative or something. As a coach i always try to work from the place my client is in, not where i am.So you should start losing weight because you already know that is a concern and it was raised by him before your marriage. Secondly you know yourself to be pretty but you are not getting your desired physical attention because of your weight. So you already know the root cause of the issue. And it is not a huge task to lose weight. If you want to discuss about - "why he does not like you as you are", that will just be another discussion in a different direction, but surely that discussion will not help you to get the physical attention you need or solve your situation. So the best solution for you now would be to focus on losing weight. After you reach your weigh loss goal, you can have a discussion with your husband (on what you want as a change in him too!). Fair deal? You gain 3 advantages in this way:You regain your healthy weight and he will be physically attracted only to you.You can discuss openly with him about a change you want from him.You will never ask this question of "why he is not accepting you as you are" and as a bonus you both will improve.Warm regards,Pankaj Jena International Certified Holistic Health Coach(Weight Loss Expert)+91 08374751515Schedule your FREE health consultation session TODAY via Skype, Hangouts, FaceTime, Phone, WatsApp, Or In Person LoseIsGain - "You don't need anything new,losing your present unhealthy food and life style habits is a gain beyond your measure!"Lose Nothing But Weight!LoseIsGain Health Coaching For Weight Loss.
How rapidly can someone safely lose weight?
I loose My weight 4 kg in 10 days.My daily routing :-1. Wake up at 8am, after wake drink 1glass little warm water mix with lemon, after that I goes to washroom.Benefits to drinking warm lemon water every morning.Aidds digestionLemons juice flushes out unwanted material, toxins from the body and cleanses the system.Balance PH level.Clear skiskin.Lemonn.Lemon juice contains vitamin C. Which also helps in removing wrinklesFresh breath.2. After all this, goes to GROUND and I run for 15 to 20 minute not fast just slowly.Running has played a great part in weight loss.I find that, if I run 3km I loses approx 300 to 500 calories daily. An important thing to note is that you cannot eat all that you want and still lose weight3. Coming from jogging drink 2 glass little warm water and after 20 minute take some fruits (APPLE, PAPAYA, GRAPES, POMEGRANATE, or any FRUITS )Most fruits and vegetables are low in fat and calories making them ideal for use in weight loss. Like Apple, orange, grapes etc4. After 2 or 2 and half hour take some fruits and drink little warm water mostly 2 to 3 glass.Or I do lunch, in lunch 2 to 3 chapati, vegetables without oil, Dal & salad.Salad fit well into an healthful diet - - you can make them from virtually limitless combinations or fruits and vegetables. Carefully prepared salads can not only help you lose weight, but also help you meet the daily requirements doses.5. At evening goes for walking approx 2 km6. After coming from walking taking some fruits and drinks water, mostly prefer little warm water and after some time Take Green tea.Green tea contents caffeine. Caffeine is a well known stimulant that has been shown to aid fat burning and improve exercise7 .In dinner taking 3 chapati with Dal, vegetables (without potatoes) and taking maximum SALAD.Note :-1. I avoided fully Market products.2. Avoided fully potato3. I fully avoided Oil made things4. Drinks 5 liters water in a dayHope it helps you.Thanks for reading
What do you say when a girl says "she wants to lose weight?" but its bark and no bite?
I met this girl 6 months ago and we have been dating for a while. I am a health freak and when it comes to eating right and working out, i think its something everyone should do. i proud myself for running everyday and working out at least 3 times a week. i dont eat any junk food since its just bad for us and when u live in the states healthy ppl are a rare breed. im in the same boat as "jack" http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20101205070449AAWWh5f we are both healthy people and if i work out hard to be healthy and can control myself from fast food and drugs why cant someone i like do the same? my problem is that im a fit skinny guy. and the girl im dating is always telling me she wants to lose weight. she doesnt want to work out with me or eat right but keeps on telling me she wants to lose weight. its like a drug addict telling me he/she wants to stop using but uses straight in my face. i like her, but the attraction is fading as she is getting fatter, and the constantly nagging of her wanting to lose weight but doing nothing about it. after reading what people wrote for jack. if i want to tell her the truth, how do i go about doing so? ps. the girl in jacks question is chinese and exactly the same as the girl im dating, if that helps u guys.
Can't lose weight after 3 kids?
you probably gave up too fast! try this, everyday ( before your kids get up ! ) go for a jog for 30 minutes.. you have to do this everyday though to see results fast! buy a work out video and do it every day . you need to eat healthy, try eating only salads, chicken, veggies and fruit! if you have to eat bread, make sure its whole wheat! you should see results VERY soon :) dont forget, 8 glasses of water a day !!and eat good portion sizes, non fatty dresssings. if you want motivation send me an email! i can tell you when to go for a run and stuff .. best of luckk :) xox -
How do I get my girlfriend to lose weight?
Step 1: Pass the "Are you a controlling douchebag" test.Part 1: Are you the only one who thinks she is chunky?I once had a friend who was on the verge of being underweight who had a boyfriend who called her chunky, wouldn't let her eat ice cream and made fun of her if she sat with her head tipped down creating a "double chin" effect. [It ended badly, one year later, with bulimia and a restraining order.]Questions:Does any of this sound like it could be you?Have any of her friends told her that she should stay away from you?Would an objective medical height/weight or BMI test consider her to be average or underweight?Key: 1 or more "Yes" answers = 100% Douchebag. Dump your girlfriend immediately. You have lost your right to be in a relationship. It'll be better for everyone if you stick with (fully consensual) one-night stands.Part 2: Does your girlfriend want to lose weight? If your girlfriend is, in fact, overweight, she is painfully aware of this fact. Trust me. Most likely, she is reminded of this fact every time she leaves the house, watches TV or looks in a magazine. Questions:Does she ever make comments about wanting to be skinnier?Has a medical professional ordered her to lose weight for health reasons?Is she considering (or involved in) a diet or exercise program?Key:3 "No" Answers = 50% Douchebag.If you can't find her attractive in her current body, either get over yourself or dump her. You certainly don't have to encourage her unhealthy habits. But you don't get to change her body to suit your preferences.Step 2: So, you aren't a douchebag, and your girlfriend wants to drop a couple pounds...Support her and be her cheerleader.If she's trying to get motivated to exercise: offer to be her workout buddy, "reward" her for time at the gym, suggest dates that involve physical activity.If she's trying to eat healthier: help her stock her fridge with healthy foods, suggest alternatives to takeout and dessert, offer to cook.Instead of "you look chunky" try "you look fantastically sexy after a workout."Don't be sneaky and try to corner/brainwash her into healthy choices.This is manipulative and insulting to her intelligence. I'm assuming that if she's too chunky to be your type physically -- you must be attracted to her mind. In which case you should show her some respect and knock off the transparent "Hey! Let's eat healthier For No Particular Reason And Certainly Not Because I'm Trying to Manipulate You Into Losing Weight" ploys.
Im dating this guy who says he wont date me unless I lose weight? What do I do?
I met this guy online and we hit it off pretty well the conversation was great, I feel good until he told me that he doesen't like fat girls. (I'm fat) and that if I want he can stay friends with me and help me lose weight by going to the gym and dieting etc, and then when I get skinny he would like to date me as a girlfriend. Now before you call him shallow, I understand where he is coming from because I myself being overweight woulden't want to date an obese man. Its a turn off and not sexually attractive. He told me he likes my personality and I seem very confident despite my weight but he cant seem to feel "attraction" for me physcally. He said it in a very respectful way and was honest from the beginning. But I feel like Im happy and content with who I am even if Im fat and I told him that I feel like he doesent really like me for me , he likes me for how attractive I can be. I told him I dont want to be friends with him because I believe friends accept each other the way they are and if the other person doesent want to change (like weight) then you either accept them or you dont. I really feel like he is just a user because its exactly the samething as like for example Im talking to this guy and he is completely broke but hey if he starts to earn alot of money then yeah for sure ill date him. Thats like saying i am a golddigger and I would only date him if he has money. In this case its about my weight, I do believe being overweight is not attractive, but I feel like I shouldent have to change myself for someone else only for me and as right now I am happy being fat. So basically he told me "We can just be friends" but that he wouldent "help himself" if he sees me losing weight and gaining more interest in me. I told him no, you either accept me now or you never do. Because what happens when you get old? Your looks fade, so are you going to change me for a hot, twenty-year old? And also, the way I see it, if he cant accept me as a fat person then he sure as hell doesent deserve me as a "hot" person according to him. If he cant accept me as a fat girl, then if I DO lose weight, he doesent deserve me either as a skinny girl who would get more attention from guys than now. What do you think? In a way, Im glad im overweight because ATLEAST I know the guy who wants to really be with me, is not only for my looks.
Please help me with my weight loss!?!?
A few years ago, I was almost 200 pounds. I went from a 14 to a 2 in a month. I used the Alli pills - they're expensive, but they work really well. Try the pills, but be sure you follow their recipes. Some of their meals are really good. While on the diet, exercise regularly (for example, I did about 30 minutes on my treadmill daily), and choose recipes wisely. When I was on the diet, I made my own "rules." The recipe book had informational sections (for example, 'on the first week, if you weigh________ pounds, eat meals from this book that have _______ grams of fat or less.) about what to eat. I ate meals with 5 grams of fat or less ONLY. Even if you don't use the pills, get the recipe book. It gives all the nutrition information for each recipe so you know exactly what you're putting into your body. I was even able to have desserts.
I withheld affection until my girlfriend lost weight, now she seems to HATE me ? What to do?
I started dtaing my girlfriend last May even thugh she needed to lose about 20 pounds. She was size 8 38-29-38 which was way too big for her 5'5 small frame. she tld me SHE wanted to lose weight for herself because she refused to wear bikini or disrobe in front of me. I had faith in her conviction. But time went on and by October she hadnt lost weight. she lived 2 hours away and was at grad school. I started talking and hanging out with a couple exes. both very thin., and not naturally thin. they both work at it. I take a lot of pride working out. I was very fat growing up and like girls who like staying in shape. finally i had a blow up with my girlfriend 2 months ago. she said she thought i didnt care tha much if she were super thin. i told her differently and said she had to have known my preferences. so she started to lose weight but i explained to her i didnt want to have anything more than a emotional relationship anymore until she was in thin shape. i said if she wants to have sexual intimate relationship she needed to meet her goal finally. she seemed ok with it. but she hit on me a few times in bed. i gently removed her hand. I have always kept kissing her and being sweet , but i did NOT want to keep having oral sex or anything xxx with her so out of shape. finally she stopped seeing me for a month. Then she unveiled her new shape. she looks so hot and sexy. Posted new photos on facebook. Weve now seen each other two times and she is now the icy one. I feel like she's doing this on purpose. When I mentioned it to her she said its been so long since we've done anything that she doesnt feel like letting herself go. how do i get her to trust me and open up again ?
How to lose 18 pounds in 9 weeks?
The closer you get to your body's idea weight, the harder it is to lose weight. Keep in mind that 1-2 pounds/week is considered normal, healthy weight loss so your goal of 18 pounds in 9 weeks isn't unreasonable. Doing Turbo Fire may be adding muscle which weighs more per equal size than fat. Have you taken your measurements? If not, you should because that is a much better gauge for body change than the scale. I found I had lost size but gained 2 pounds at first starting to exercise. Use a cloth measure tape and measure your chest, upper arms. waist, hips, and thighs. Then measure again in a few weeks. You are right, if you are exercising, you should not take your calories too low. One thing that really helps is keeping a food and exercise journal. This gives you a realistic picture of what you are eating and doing for exercise. Many people underestimate their calories eaten and over estimate calories exercised. You can get a free online account at Fitday.com Then get an inexpensive food scale and weight everything you eat and drink for a week. You may be surprised where calories sneak in from. Why not do the full Turbo Fire program instead of the Fire/Jam hybrid? The Turbo Fire schedule has enough variety in it to keep you from hitting a workout plateau like you may have done now. If you are going to do some Turbo Jam, use the longer Cardio Parties instead of the shorter routines like you are using. Make sure you are 2 days between HIIT sessions to give your body time to recover. You may also want to add some strength training. This raises your metabolism by building/toning muscle. Don't worry, you won't get bulky, just nicely toned. Your body needs energy to burn fat. Do not skip meals. Pay attention to your snacking. Do not snack on chips, cookies, pretzels, or leftovers. Have fruits and veggies instead. Switch to whole grains for things like pasta, rice, and bread. The fiber fills you up and keeps you full longer so you eat less. Try dividing your plate into quarters. First fill half with fruits and veggies. The other quarters are for lean protein and whole grains. This helps give you a balanced diet lower in calories.