Homeless girl in my apartment... HELP!?
You say she is 'with a decently rich carpenter'. So why isn't she living with him? What did the doctor have to say, by the way? Usually a person has to give a name to see a doctor. If a person doesn't know their own name, that would, to me, trigger an "OK, this person has some psychiatric issues that should be looked into." If her story about being abused is true, that may be an indication that she was sexually abused. Hence you should not have sex with her until she gets screened for the various STDs and Hepatis C (although you don't mention anything about sex in your post). I think you've done a lot of good, but at this point she seems well enough to go back out into the world (especially because of this carpenter situation). I think you're just setting yourself up to be hurt. Truth be told, many homeless people learn on the streets how to be great 'manipulators'. It sounds like she has you 'wrapped around her finger', allowing you to fall in love with her ... story about her not even knowing her name ... meanwhile she is seeing someone else. At this point, I think she is 'using' you. I also think it's best if you gently tell her that it's time for her to either move in with the carpenter or let's find you a decent homeless shelter for you to stay in.
How can I help a homeless family member when I'm barely making it by?
Original question:How can I help a homeless family member when I'm barely making it by? Sister is homeless with a little kid. She has a little car, but no income. I'm a few years younger and never have enough money to take care of myself and stay with friends as is… In the US (pnw)A few things come to mind:Provide Community and Conversation: Regularly visit with your sister. Make sure you both hang out in a public place. Libraries are wonderful places these days - play areas for the kids, comfy chairs, computers and no one walks around telling you to be quiet. It’s free, it’s safe and it gives you the opportunity to talk about everything you both are dealing with. It also allows other people in the community to see that you both have family and a support system - this is important!Research and Share Resources: When you find out about a program, get an application for housing, or hear about a job opening, contact your sister and let her in on the news. If she does the same for you, then you’ll both benefit from the increase of valuable information.Pass Along Warnings: If you encounter a problem with a non-profit, government agency, housing company, etc., or if you hear rumors about someone who is taking advantage of poverty survivors, be sure to let your sister know. Again, if she does the same for you, then you’ll both benefit from the increase of valuable information.Babysit: Your sister is going to need help with the kids if and when she has to go to a job interview, apply for assistance, or whatever else. Having a trustworthy and reliable relative help out with the kids under those circumstances can be a HUGE help to the parents and an extremely important protective measure for the kids.Establish a household: You might be able to get an apartment together if you join forces and apply for assistance as a family. I don’t know how, exactly, this would affect your eligibility. That’s something you would have to research and talk about, but it might be beneficial to both of you.I’ve pulled together a general list of resources available in the USA here: What To Do When You Are Facing HomelessnessThis will provide additional information on helping someone who is homeless, but most of it won’t apply to you because you are (effectively) homeless yourself: How To Help Someone Facing Homelessness
SSD & SSI Help Please dires need family and Screaming for HELP!!!?
If you have appealed twice and are now seeing a judge, you just need to wait. SSA may not talk to you because you have a layer representing you. If I were you I would look at my contract with Binder and Binder and be sure I owed them no money and fire them. Than contact SSA and say you want to talk to someone about your case and have them explain to you what is going on. Unless your disability is a cognitive disability or makes you stupid, I do not think you need a lawyer to win your case - EVER.
My boyfriend became homeless now i dont like him.?
I agree. I just got out of a 2 year relationship where the guy was a helpless baby and i was basically his mother. So that is why I need my own space and time alone now, and looking for something healthy. He isnt asking to live with me or anything. I just know he was up-front to this other girl about me, because he really likes me a lot. And she kicked him out. So i feel responsible. But its the same feeling that I dont want to feel with anyone! I dont even want to invite him over just once. I know that as soon as he gets here, he will want to use my shower because hes been homeless. And then when I need him to leave, I will feel horrible! I have a big heart. But I just want a traditional dating where the guy comes over (showered, and from his own home!) to pick me up and we go have a nice dinner. And because i have a big heart, I feel so sh*tty being like "you just lost your best friend of 15 years, your roof over your head, your income, the little boy you were nanny to and love
Are there many homeless people in your city?
Photographer captures the faces of Seattle's homeless (king5.com)I want you to see faces of human beings I see every day. There are over 12,000 folks homeless in my area.Some folks are drug addicts. Some mothers have been abused so much it’s difficult to get them to feel anything but fear or trust anyone.Some homeless folks have given up on life. They are waiting to die. They want to die.Go to downtown Seattle and look across the street from the county court house. There you will see people wandering with blank stares on their faces. You will see young women pulling down their pants to go to the bathroom. People such as my son sleep on the sidewalk. People walk around them as if they were stepping around garbage.Every homeless person became homeless for a unique reason.Our country needs to spend a greater percentage of tax revenue for more mental health professionals, more health care, free tuition at community colleges to teach some people a useable skill.Unemployment is very low here More technical folks are needed, Lets train folks to fill these openings.I ache for the mothers and children who are homeless. I ache for the garbage in tent camps.There was a parking lot that charged $50 to park to walk across the street and watch a football game. Homeless camps are right next to our stadium.The demand for services is overwhelming here.I help one person at a time.That's all anyone can do here.Maybe one day society will be a place for all people to find joy and laugh. Life should not be so hard for so many here.2018 images of homeless camps in king(www.bing)
Why would homeless people's family allow them to be homeless?
A large number of homeless people are mentally ill or brain damaged and their families cannot deal with them any longer. My own father went homeless after being released from prison for pedophelia, having sexually molested me, my step sister, and a child he was babysitting (these are the ones known, there are probably many others). The family could not deal with him any longer. He was brain damaged from repeated concussions from sports and several car accidents. It's hard to know what caused what. Did he drive so crazy and have bad judgment from brain damage, or did he get brain damage from driving fast and poorly? But it released his inhibitions and allowed him to prey on the innocent.Pedophelia was not the only manifestation of brain damage. He was also irrational and quick to anger. He borrowed or stole things from the family. He couldn't keep a job. He pushed the family towards the poorhouse.It was an attempt to stabilize the family that led to my dad being kicked out of the family home. He was likely 30 by then, living with his parents. He had been lovingly called the black sheep until his conviction. After that we just did not talk about him at all. It's as if we were part of the family by adoption rather than birth. The family kept tabs on where he was and gave him some money occasionally. He eventually was employed enough to rent a tiny studio apartment and buy a beat up bicycle. Rather employed long enough in a union job to get unemployment whenever he was laid off. He lived in that apartment over 10 years until he died of an illness rather suddenly. He never did admit to having molested me, only saying that he did not remember. Perhaps that is the brain damage, but I don't know how a person could forget a thing like that.It's painful to have a family member who is homeless. When people ask about your family, you either have to lie or become a victim of their pity. It's kind of horrifying, but the family was being ripped limb from limb while he was present so this is the best alternative. It is a relief that he is no longer around.