How can I help my friend who's self-harming?
Self-harm is a symptom that can take many forms. But what to do depends on the situation. First, a caveat: You are a friend, not a caretaker. Being supportive and helpful is part of friendship, but try to keep in mind that you cannot bear the responsibility for the person alone. Being friends with someone who’s self-destructive can be exhausting, and you may need support yourself. Try to stay away from a downward spiral of increasing feelings of responsibility and guilt coupled with isolation. I’ve been there, on both sides, and it’s bad for everyone.But, in terms of what you can do, there’s the long-term and the short-term. Long-term, try to find out why they self-harm (e.g. depression? anxiety?) and try to get them to a professional. And just, in general, be a *friend*. If it’s depression, try to engage them in stuff, try to get them to take a walk with you and so on. Depression is a downward spiral itself and sometimes you need a bit of a push in the right direction from a friend.Self-harm is often a coping mechanism that frequently also turns into a kind of psychological addiction, Short-term, it depends on them. Talk to them about it sometime when they’re in (relatively) good condition.If they *want* to self-harm and don’t want to stop doing it, there’s not really much you can do about the symptom itself. Forcing the issue too much might risk harming your relationship without aiding the person at all.If they want to stop self-harming, but can’t do it alone, help them out in making the self-harm itself harder. If they cut themselves, get rid of their razor blades. If they starve themselves, be a bother about them eating. And so on.
My friend is addicted to cutting themselves, what can I do to help him/her stop?
Don’t pressure her. Don’t say something like “if you loved me you wouldn’t do this” or try to guilt her in any way. Don’t act like it means she’s actively suicidal.Self harm is a coping mechanism. Yes, it’s a very bad one, but it’s how some people chose to deal. It can be for a multitude of reasons, and in my experience, it’s not something people talk about to people who’ve never self harmed. Unless you’ve been at that desperate breaking point, it’s hard to understand.Instead of addressing the cuts, tell your friend you’ve noticed she seems down or stressed out or whatever the unusual behavior is. Offer to be an ear if she needs to vent, or a shoulder to cry on if she needs to. She may not want to talk about the self harm at all; God knows I walked away from everyone who tried addressing mine directly. It can be an intensely private thing, and she may not want you to notice. Offer to help only if it’s asked, and I would recommend not notifying an adult (if you’re in school) or a doctor unless her life is legitimately in danger. Most don’t understand this and see it as a suicide attempt, which it can be but often isn’t.Be patient and be supportive. Chances are your friend feels very alone right now, and knowing someone’s at least willing to stand nearby can help.
Bruises on wrists - is my friend self harming?
I've been working in a new office space for about two months. One of the girls there is doing a PHD and I've noticed that she always has a lot of bruises on her forearms. They appear about the size of my thumb or a little smaller and are dark coloured. I've noticed them a few times now. Is this self harm? How would she make them .... I used to self harm and tried to bruise myself but it never worked. I'm not sure if I should ask her about them and offer support or ...?
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Are there any guys that self harm?
NO you are certainly not the only guy who does this. The reason most people cut themselves is so that they can point to where it hurts instead of recognizing or admitting the emotional pain you are in. You really need to get help to both stop cutting and find out why you are hurting inside. The long term effects from cutting are so horrific you don't even want to know them. Your body can only take so much before it starts to breakdown. You are at a major risk for heart problems and with this behavior you will never make the candidate list for a transplant once your heart eventually get enough bacteria in it from the cutting and causes serious heart failure. Check around your area for a free clinic and ask advice to get counseling, but the best thing is to admit this to your parents and let them help you. Tell them you need some help and as scared as they may be to have to see you with such a problem, they will know how urgent it is to get help. good luck
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