Why doesn't my mom trust me? (teen partying)?
ive never ever done anything too bad...and i'm one of the top in my class, i just dont get why my mom doesn't trust me enough to go to a party...she thinks that i'm going to drink, and doesn't trust that I will choose not to drink...i mean, i dont plan to drink at all!! but my mom still wont let me go to the party!! i'm in 9th grade, by the way :) i think my mom is being overly strict...instead of letting me learn from my own experiences, she's locking me up at home and expecting me to just trust her while staying safe but never actually experiencing it and learning for myself. I'd like to hear from parents, do you let your teens go by the "learning youself" method or the "trust me i've done it" method?
Have you experience not having a birthday party, starting when you were a kid until today?
I was never the kind of kid who wanted a party… I’ve never liked being the center of attention. However, my mom has always made sure that my birthday was celebrated by family at least.I was born at 1551 on 12/25 - in the middle of my mom’s first Christmas dinner on my mom’s first Christmas in the United States. And she never lets me forget it. LOL So… at 1551 every year on Christmas Day, it is no longer Christmas, but rather it is my birthday. We actually have a birthday cake - in addition to all the usual Christmas desserts! And I open birthday gifts at that time. So I wasn’t ever cheated in the way that most Christmas babies are - my mom made sure that I had a birthday and a Christmas, each separate from the other.
Should I go to the child party after my ex (child’s mom) invited everyone that doesn’t like me after I expressed that it made the environment uncomfortable?
Put yourself in the place of your child, and let’s suppose you didn’t go! What might your future child say to you? Keep in mind that these are the moments in a child’s life where memories and psychosis are made. Of all the people that will be there, one will remember what happened forever! And if they aren’t old enough to remember, sometimes the other parent will relay what’s ‘remembered’, whether true or not. That’s much harder to do when there’s a video and pictures and you were there. Keep in mind in moments like these, you can create your own (and your child’s) great memories or reasons to hate you. When you have a child, your needs are not first any longer. Unless you don’t mind being part of the cause of your future problems.
What is the worst thing that ever happened at your barbeque party?
This really wasn’t that bad (we actually laugh about it now) but it was certainly very uncomfortable in the moment!My grandmother had very poor hearing and required hearing aids. Once, at a Fourth of July party in my backyard, she decided not to wear them.My neighbors were telling a very devestating story about a family member of theirs who passed away, saying something along the lines of “… and, unfortunately, she passed away.”I couldn’t tell you what my grandmother heard, but she gives my neighbor a big thumbs up and smiles, “Good for her!”Everyone just seemed kind of stunned about the whole thing.Like I said, now we just laugh about it. But it was quite uncomfortable at the time.
My mom thinks there is something wrong with me...?
Okay, so I have a problem, I think? My mom hates who I am now. She says i'm anti-sociable and she hates who I've become. She thinks it's because of my piercings, my clothes, and what music I listen too ( A day to remember, Asking Alexandria, NeverShoutNever etc...). She has threatened me by saying she would send me to my dad (He's a strict christian.), who will change my so called "attitude" if I don't stop whatever is pissing her off. I don't know why I don't like being around other people! I just feel that it's best if i'm alone... But apparently, there's something wrong with being that way... I don't know what to do. I don't want to change who I am, I just need a solution for her to accept me. If anyone can, please reply to this. Also. I'm 15. I do believe in a "Higher Source of Power", just not the christian "God" ( I think it's a joke, honestly) so I don't want a religious answer. Thanks.
My friend invited me to her birthday party but I don't want to go?
Okay well her and my other friend the other day got mad at me because i didn't go to the beach with them because my mom said no, and they claim i always ditch them? So today is her birthday and she invited me to her bonfire party thing, and she's the partying type of sluttyish girl (not trying to be mean but she embraces it) and I'm like shy and I smoke weed and i'm chill, i don't like being around a large group of people. I don't know anyone who is going, so i only know her and none of my friends like her so i can't bring a friend. Plus there is going to be alcohol involved and i am not comfortable around alcohol. I feel extremely uncomfortable about going and I just don't know what to do because it's her birthday and i don't want to ditch her and make her mad at me, HELP HELP