Girlfriends Parents are verbally, mentally and emotionally abusive.?
I am not sure why I am asking this but maybe someone can give me an idea that I haven't heard before. Sorry for the rant I am a tad angry... My girlfriends parents are verbally, emotionally and mentally abusive. They constantly yell at her. They tell her that she is worthless. They have used slurs and profanity that you could not believe. I have witnessed a few of these encounters and from that experience I can tell you that the ground for these attacks does not exist. She is 18 and I know all the rights you have as a legal adult but she has nothing. Her parents control her every move. They check her mileage on her car. They took her finances away after buying a $12 mouse for her computer for college. That's another thing. They made her give up a scholarship for college and forced her to live at home and go to community college. I am not making assumptions here. This is factual. There is no inflating the story for a desired response. I don't really know what to do. It is unbearable to just stand by while I know this is happening but that's not why I am writing this. I want to get her help in anyway I can. The only good thing that could happen at this point is she applied to transfer to a college and live on campus. Besides that I cannot see an end to the onslaught that I am witnessing. Sorry for the rant and for using "I" so much when it really is about her. Thank you.
Verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusive parents?
Hey, all I can say is stay strong. I have more to say though. I have known a partner that has been abused by their mother in physical, mental, and very abusive ways. I want you to stay as strong as possible, strong and reasonable. I know you are losing the battle sometimes thinking of why your parents are acting that way. Your parents might have had problems in past life to be so abusive towards you. If you ask, they will help. This starts at a process with the CPS. I understand you are scared with this decision. Once in contact, ask them all the concerns you have. Ask them if you can talk to a CPS counselor to help you with your problems. The more problems you explain to them the more urgent they will make your case as more important as possible. Also be there for your brother as well, guide him in the right way if he is still growing. Explain to him what your parents are doing is wrong and communicate with him. But don't tell him about CPS if you are older than him because your actions might be prevented by your parents if he does spill. Some parents are there to impress others around them with their kids, while treating them horribly because they have issues in the past, current issues with each other, bad communication, did not have role models while growing up, and or did not have parental skills to cope with growing kids. But I hope you will receive the love of guardians no matter how old or young they are one day. Be brave, don't let others hurt you, always be professional first, and don't ruin your own image. Hope it helps! Stay strong I believe in you.
What is emotional and verbal abuse by a parent?
By definition emotional abuse is abuse characterized by a person subjecting, or exposing, another person to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. Verbal abuse is abuse done by word of mouth. In my opinion abuse is distinct from neglect because it’s a form of active attack as opposed to merely failing to supply the things a child to thrive. Verbal abuse is a form of emotional abuse since it relies on hurting the child’s feelings, either by content alone or by the style of delivery.Examples of emotional abuse: telling the child they were unwanted, that they are unloved, disliked or hated by the parent. Telling them that they don’t count because they were born in the wrong place. Having unreasonable expectations of the child & then calling them an idiot because they inevitably fail to live up to those expectations - such as asking them a complex mental arithmetic question based upon Imperial units of measurement or pre-decimal British currency when that kid has only ever known SI units & decimal currency. Shouting at the kid while indoors & standing up close inside their personal space, like Gunny Hartman in Full Metal Jacket. He’s a great example of an emotional abuser - because of him, a marine recruit eats a rifle bullet.Criticism that isn’t constructive is kind of abusive. If a kid does something wrong, that’s ok - they’re a kid. Childhood’s full of learning by trial & error. To take them to task excessively for making mistakes can be abusive. Give them a safe space in which to learn, and advise them patiently if they need it.
How to deal with verbally abusive parents?
Warning: Major emo whining. I've been verbally abused by my parents ever since I was a kid, but it keeps getting worse and worse. This Christmas has been especially difficult for me. For the last few days, I've been learning to drive. After only the 3rd day (with no professional lessons at all), my dad made me drive on busy roads with traffic and all that. I honestly think I did very well. Obviously not perfect, but good. After a 2 minor incidents (no crashes or anything), they've taken the opportunity to lash out on me. And I mean, HOURS.. and HOURS of it. This morning my mum barged into my room and said, "F***** get up. You're going f****** driving. You're so f****** stupid!" Eff this, eff that etc. 3 hours later after I've come back, she's still abusing me as I type. I get over abuse easily because I receive it everyday. But it just hurts to know that my parents hate me. They really do. My mum wishes I was never born. She calls me the Devil's Child. She asks God what she did to deserve this punishment. I get called stupid, ignorant, a cow, a b****, a horrible daughter and all that degrading crap blah blah. She constantly threatens to kill me, and comes up with some pretty interesting ways. I'm going to kill you with my own bare hands, I'm going f****** cut you with this knife (yes, she actually holds the knife in front of me). It doesn't sound like I'm taking it seriously because sadly, I'm just over it. If we lived in the US where they permit guns, I would've probably shot myself already. The thought of that really disturbs me. By the way, they're Asian. So no, I can't confront them. If I tell them it hurts me, they would laugh in my face, tell me to f*** off and then start telling me about how much the whole family in Asia hate me because I'm soooo stupid. Not only that, I get insulted for being ugly and short. My life just fails. I wish I was adopted. I feel like I need counselling because I feel like dying. And it's all because my parents say I'm not worth living and I'm a failure. I don't know what to do... Does anyone have the same problem? (WOW I'm sorry that sounded really emo.)
How do I help my girlfriend with emotionally abusive parents?
Sorry this is a long read: My girlfriend is 16 and her mother is frequently verbally abusive towards her. She attacks her by going after the insecurities she knows she has. She says that she s unwanted, a disappointment, she hates her and doesn t want to interact with her ever, and also refuses to ever leave her house or spend time with friends. She keeps her under her thumb and is constantly aggressive and unsupportive to say the least. It has never evolved into physical attacks, but my gf feels absolutely helpless. She s old enough to get her driver s license, but her parents won t give her enough drive time to be qualified for the test (and I doubt they d take the time to bring her to the test anyways). So she has no way to leave her house. According to her, her father is more level-headed. However, if she were to tell him about her issues, she says her mother would threaten him with divorce or other punishments and out of fear he would end up siding with her mother. She mentioned emancipation, as she has plenty of safe places to stay with friends and plenty of money to support herself, but her father s job is too prestigious for him to have his reputation tarnished in such a way . She says she just has to wait it out for the next 18 months of her life because she wants to go to college and says she d never be able to pay for it herself. She s a wonderful and kind person with amazing grades. I don t understand their disappointment . Is there anything I can do?
Can you sue your parents for verbal/mental abuse?
You can sue a ham sandwich. Chances are pretty good you would not have a successful lawsuit against your parents. If your jurisdiction permits recovery for intentional infliction of emotional distress (mine does not), then you would need proof that they inflicted severe emotional distress upon you and you would need to prove that any other reasonable person who was subjected to this abuse would have had the same reaction. So, if you have any mental health concerns (panic attacks, depression, bipolar disorder, etc.) or even if you are just a very sensitive, timid, and/or submissive type of personality, you would not be successful. You would need to have records from doctors or mental health professionals to document your emotional distress, etc. Again, this is a very very difficult kind of a case to prove - and, unless your parents are quite wealthy, you are not going to find an attorney to help you for free or even on a contingency fee basis. If you are under the age of 18, your best bet would be to report the abuse to your school to see if it rises to the level that could/should justify a DSHS investigation.