Am i being bullied at work?
so I've been at this place working as an IT site supervisor for a few weeks. Today I met this guy who happens to be a network guy helping us out; another person from another dept and myself informally met with him regarding an issue and at first he'd barely even acknowledge me. It took constant comments and questions from me to finally have him make eye contact and include me. at the end, I asked him to keep me posted on any updates so that I could pass them on to other mgrs. His response was, 'and you are, a 'tech'? (that's what my badge still says)... so i replied, no, I'm the IT supervisor here... then he went, 'and how long have you been here'? by this time he began turning red... and i responded. then he proceeded to say that i should step back because i didnt know what the office politics were like at this company and that I should let the other person there present talk to his mgr. I was still polite and adamant that I had the responsibility to inform of extended outages; he continued with his argument and at the end I negotiated an agreement where I'd ask the call center mgr if they had received an increase in calls regarding this issue. If they had not, I'd just hold off on making this issue more public but if calls had increased then I'd let him know and ask for an official update. I was somewhat in disbelief at first with his questioning about my position and time there, I think it did catch me somewhat off guard considering that everyone had been quite pleasant and professional until now. I am a minority in every sense btw, short, dark, have an accent, in the midst of a 99% white IT dept with 200+ members... i report to the regional IT director and I guess that may not go too well with some people, like this guy.. thus, could his questioning be considered bullying... or just plain lack of tact? I'm curious...
Am I being bullied at work?
So I started my job 4 months ago. I try my best to be the best I can be. So there is this girl I work with. She has been rude since day 1. I work at a pizza place. My second day working I made mistakes you know that's pretty common. She got all mad because I messed up a pizza that day and she goes "who the hell keeps messing up?" She always tried bossing me around. I just got better at cutting pizza. I was terrible at first. I watched my other co-worker cut a pizza and I told her She did really good. This girl was like "Yeah, that's how you're supposed to cut pizza." Then I put too many beans on a taco pizza and her and her friend were yelling at me for messing up on that same night. I was still new so I went to the bathroom to cry. Then one day she does texted me to cover her shift. I said I would thinking maybe she would be nicer to me. She was still rude to me. She and her friend went behind my back and said how I was such a slow worker. A girl stuck up for me and said "leave that poor girl alone. At least she doesn't stand around all the time like you. She gets her work done." These girls constantly gang up on me and act like they are my boss when they are not in charge. My manager likes me and does not like this girl. They talk about how I am so strange and this and that. They make me feel low. Am I being bullied? Are they jealous of me? I am 18 and they are 26.
I m be bullied at work.?
First of all - you haven't done anything wrong! :-) it is THEIR responsibility to train you to do the job, and obviously they're not very good at it. I recently started a job where they told me I 'was in charge of my own training' and felt v similar. Fortunately in the past I had had better jobs with a team who made me feel welcome, so I knew it wasn't my fault when I didn't fit into this new job. I only lasted in the job I mentioned for 3months - it took me almost 3month to find another job but I knew the whole time that it wasn't for me. If they see you struggling they should HELP you, not talk about you. I'm very sensitive too and understand how you feel, I know it can be hard. Just be strong and believe in yourself, because if they were good team members they would be asking if you needed support. Can you start looking for another job, or is that not an option? If not I would certainly address the issue with your manager, and if anybody says anything about you - confront them! :-)
Why am I bullied at work for being nice?
When you're "too" nice to some people, they take advantage of your kindness.That's the case with what's happening to you at work. It's because you continue to be nice, regardless of them bullying you. They see that and know that, so have no reason to stop doing it.When I was working in a job once, I experienced something similar. I was made redundant and I'm glad. Because of 1 simple reason:Toxic environment with toxic people. Being around people like that for too long begins to poison you, suffocate you, and stress you out. Because you're expected to just put up with it and get on with your job.Your choices:Either show them your boundaries, let them know you're not willing to put up with that bullshit.Report it.Or leave.Your happiness matters. And whichever choice you make, something needs to be done about it or it'll worsen.
My mom is being bullied at work?
She should start keeping a journal of EVERYTHING that is said or done towards her that is unprofessional. When she has about 20 items, she should go to the Human Resources Department of where she works and discuss the situation with that person. She can share a copy of her notes, but retain the original. If she doens't get any improvement from that, she should take her situation to a lawyer. I think this goes beyond bullying and is grounds for a possible discrimination suit. In the meantime she should be strong and do her job as best as she can. I know this is upsetting for everyone. She needs your love and hugs right now; it will make both of you feel better.
What is it like to be bullied at work?
My first job was in an eCommerce service provider where I helped build the company. I was 21 at that time. The founder and me worked very well together and an awesome working relationship. Fast forward 1 year, when the team had scaled and the business became a million dollar profit center. The company was now 40+ all over 28 years. Roughly 6 years elder to me. Of course since most of them brought in much more maturity and advanced skill set hence were senior to me. But I compensated my lack of the advanced skill set with high focus, commitment, energy and a highly developed business sense, which meant that I was given a lot of support by the founder ( hence the company) to achieve my career goals.This did not go down well with most of "seniors" in the company and they did not like it. They started bullying me in the form of rejecting my every idea, making my work tougher to do by not coordinating, and ruining my relationship with my then manager.All this lead to my burning out, making me leave the company in another six months. I had gained 30 pounds, became very negative about life, had roughly zero energy to work, started viewing work as a joke, destroyed my ambitions and motivations for learning and creating value for people around. I switched to another company, I was burnt out, I couldn't concentrate on my work, and was subsequently fired. Since the past six months I have been going to the gym, trying to keep my fitness in check, and get my motivations back on track.Although I might argue that life was unfair to me but now after much reflection I have become a much stronger, a much more mature and a stronger person. Yes I lost 6 months, Yes it destroyed my relationship with my mentors/ Bosses, Yes I failed. But not any more. :). When someone tries to bully you at work, give it back to him, that's the best you can do.Good luck!
I am being bullied at work. What should I do?
A good way of dealing with bullies is finding the courage to tell them that what they are doing is unkind. Inform them about their despicable actions. Also, accept the fact that they may not agree with your views and might even chastise you for interfering. At that point, the situation is out of your control and it becomes an indifferent and like any indifferent, it is not in your own control, which means discard it. You could also go to the higher ups and tell them about the problem. Whether they do something about it or not is indifferent to you.Indifferents are things that do not need or have a moral evaluation. They are neither good nor evil. Indifferents neither benefit nor harm an individual since they can be used in terms of good and bad,so they are neutral. By accepting that things that happen to you are not morally good nor bad, you can choose to give a fuck, you can decide if things are worth being evaluated. If not, they are irrelevant, indifferent.If that doesn't work then you should know thatYou can only be insulted if you allow yourself to be insulted.But it is not the insult that harms you,only your perception of it. Let go of that perception. Because you give it all of the power that you see in it. The insult itself is just a string of words.They could hurt you, but they don't have to. It depends on what you do with it. It is your mind that adds the pain and the injury.If someone calls me stupid, I don't allow my ego to respond to the insult. It's all a matter of ego anyway. Say whatever you want to me and I simply see this as a reflection of the person, not of myself. This shows the person to be weak and unable to have a rational discussion or air grievances in a way that is useful.Their self esteem and self confidence are so low that they resort to something of that nature. If you acknowledge that you felt insulted, then they know they can 'get to you'. The only sure way to prove they're right is by giving them attention. My reaction to their insults is yawning.Yawning signifies being bored by someone, often the worst kind of insult to people who are full of themselves.
I feel like I am being discriminated against at work because I stood up for a girl being bullied months ago (she ended up leaving). Managers have done nothing to stop the behaviour. Do you have any advice dealing with this behaviour?
You don't state what they did that was bullying.I think you must be rather young still from the question, so I will give you some advice that will help keep you from wrecking your career.Stick up for people that report to you.Support your manager and superior.If they are not your direct report or your superior, it's none of your business.If it is your team mate, stick up for them provided you know them well enough to know they aren't the type that will just use you and dump you to the wolves.You have to know what battles to pick. This battle did not help that woman and this battle did not help you, and it did not help resolve the situation according to your question.This means it was the wrong battle.If you suspect foul play, sexism, discrimination, or unfair treatment of yourself or others, the proper route is not to "stand up and be a hero”. The proper response, unless life and limb depends on it, is to go to HR and make a formal complaint with HR.
Have you ever been bullied at work?
Some get bullied and fight it, some ignore it, and most aren’t even aware that they’re being bullied at their workplaces. Be it men or women. Bosses, colleagues, juniors, and sometimes even vendors and service providers. In the office, at semi-official gatherings, and maybe even at networking events! This could happen to anybody at any work place. I know of a friend who was bullied into resigning as an employee from his family’s business - simply because he was the boss’s son (and heir apparent…?), and the senior management tore him apart. Didn’t give him an opportunity to prove his capabilities. Unheard of? Maybe. To the contrary one would have heard of the exact opposite where family businesses are overseen by the chachas, mamas, and of course, the bachas. Most workplaces have a code of conduct that enlists all sorts of guidelines around roles and responsibilities, office etiquette, sexual harassment and moral and ethical practices. But, do organisations recognise bullying as a form of harassment? I spoke to a few friends at different places and heard many responses. The most common among them was incessant verbal abuse and insults. One friend told me, that a lot of her good projects when near completion, would be passed on to another colleague, who’d then give them a finishing touch and claim glory. So, what exactly is bullying at work? When I googled ‘work place bullying’, the first search result threw up something called a “Workplace Bullying Institute”. This is how the US based institute defines bullying at work: “Workplace Bullying is repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators. It is abusive conduct that is:· Threatening, humiliating, or intimidating, or· Work interference — sabotage — which prevents work from getting done, or· Verbal abuse” So how does one counteract such situations? I heard 2 opposites. One suggestion was, that one should be bold and face the bully head-on. After all, not standing up to it can be considered a sign of weakness. Another friend suggested, do not look at the bully while addressing her/him – your indifference will make her/him uncomfortable. A desperate call for help from a friend and absolutely no answers, brought out the need to ask an open forum for examples. What is considered as bullying and how does one deal with it, after all? Do you have a story to share and make us aware?