Why do compulsive liars lie?
I had a friend once who lied on a regular basis, but she was so good at lying I believed practically everything she told me (I can be a gullible person, but sometimes I know when people do lie). We were friends for maybe 3 years, and she told me (when I got to know her) that she was raped (at least twice), her parents beat her (there was never any physical proof, minus her parents being weird and creepy) she was sick with leukemia (never showed me her medication, "passed out" and had "seizures"). She also told me she published a book (I asked her if it was in stores and she said no - her name didn't show up anywhere online), was the captain of her dance team (never told me the name of her dance company or where it was), and talent agents noticed her "amazing" singing voice (she's good but not amazing, although she calls herself so because she was in a lot of plays). Well, I figured out she was a liar because, first of all, she admitted she lied sometimes, and second, she knew I was really gullible and naive. I don't know why, but I thought she was a liar because she seemed to brag about a lot of things that didn't really happen, and she told all of her friends she was "abused." I know that some just want to make themselves look better or get people to feel sorry for them because of their self-esteem and that answers my question, but can someone tell me why this person in particular lied about everything she said? She said she hates it when people try to ask for attention all the time, yet she seems to do it a lot. I stopped being friends with her (for part of that reason) but I am interested in knowing how and why she lies so well.
OMG! What do you do if your grandmother is a compulsive liar?
My grandma has had 3 strokes and it kind of messed up her brain! So some times she tells us (my cousin and I) that she works at a car dealership and shes a model there and everybody likes her... Lol ... Its so funny. But its so sad. And we are trying to teach her that she cant lie like that. She is 60 years old. Oh and OMG... lol... My cousin and I were talking to her and my grandpa was by us and she was telling us a story that she CHEATED with my grandpa's BROTHER! And she sounded so serious. And my grandpa asked her two times and she said "Yes, dammit how many times do i have to tell you" ... lol... Its was funny but i can tell my grandpa got kinda hurt, but he has to understand that it was probably just a lie she was telling... BUT HOW DO I STOP HER FROM LYING THAT MUCH? lol......
How can compulsive liars change?
Honestly depends on the person, if you ask me. And how bad they struggle with compulsively lying.My current boyfriend is a compulsive liar. I have been with him for 3 years and never seen anything like it, honestly.Basically when I initially started dating him, he lied about his age , where he was from, how his mothered died, how he broke up with his recent ex, ; im talking about everything you can think of ;it was like I barely knew him!It wasnt until our relationship got more serious and I gotten close with his father was when I figured out all the lies he told me. His father confided in me and told me he had a horrible lying problem since he was a child.As I continued to date him, he lied about the most simplest stuff ! Like what shoes he was wearing and what he ate. I didn’t realize how bad his lying problem was until I asked him what shoes he was wearing ,just for him to post on social media that he was wearing a completely different shoe from what he told me he was wearing!I couldnt believe what I got myself into! Many times I wanted to just break up but the ‘future psychologist ‘ in me was intrigued. So I would continually work with him and ask him how did it make him feel to lie and why did he do it!He even told me on one occasion that when he lies, he honestly believes his own lies. (for example if he told someone he never met he was 6 feet tall , he would actually start believing he was 6 feet tall)Eventually he started seeing a therapist who said he lied because of he was still in ‘survival mode’ due to a very unfortunate childhood.So I continued to work with him and maybe a year and half into our relationship he didn’t lie about stupid stuff anymore , he didn’t make up stories to make himself look better. He still lies but it definitely not anywhere how it was before.3 years in, he still lies or exaggerates situations to get sympathy. A habit thats very annoying , is something that I honestly dont think will ever change for him due to hopping from foster home to foster him as a young child and wanting to be wanted.I’ve been learned how to deal with his exaggerations, and I can always always tell when he’s making stuff seem like something its not.But just for summary, I believe a compulsive liar will always have in to them to lie but if they genuinely see it as a problem they'll learn to be as truthful as they can in time and with work.
Can compulsive liars be cured?
“Lies and Lying: Can compulsive liars be cured?”Yes, compulsive lying can be cured.I used to be a compulsive liar, in the sense that I loathed my reality and would often amuse other with telling convincing lies. This served two purposes — I liked to entertain people and it stroked my ego if I could convince someone that my lies were actually the truth.While I didn't mean to harm anyone, those who found that I told them lies — no matter how amusing or entertaining — told me they were hurt by my lies, which was not what I intended.However, I found that if I re-directed my imagination to lie convincingly about other people than myself, especially imaginary people, I would be praised for my imagination.That's how I became a storyteller.The positive part was that writing fiction was such a great outlet for my compulsion, that I no longer felt compelled to tell lies in real life.
Understanding a compulsive liar and Kleptomaniac.?
This woman i know has been for as long as I have known her, both of these. She steals on impulse and then lies about it. She is wonderfully skilled at both, and is very manipulative. It's a damn shame but I want to try and understand why she does this rather than be upset because she does. Does any one have any insight as to what would cause these behaviors? Thanks. I should add she also lies consistently about anything, not just covering the theft. But It seems she gets some kind of enjoyment out of it?
Is there a "Compulsive Liars Anonymous" program. Need help.?
You need to know that your personality is interesting enough without exagerating. People like other people for who they are, not where they've been or how interesting they're life has been. If your a good person (and you seem to be) then you should have no problem finding friends. I think the only way your going to stop, is if you learn to love yourself, and then, people will too. Hope this helps. PEACE and MUCH LOVE.