Help? Being abused by my brother?
The easiest way to handle this would be to talk to a school psychologist. They are required by law to report any abuse to the police. This will also help to ensure that your mom and sister don't get mad at you. You can always say that a friend reported the abuse. It's easier to go through the school because they will report it to the police and when the school reports that someone is being abused it is taken more seriously. Either way make sure that you consult someone you trust immediately. Don't wait until things get any worse. Good luck.
Am I being abused by my mum and brother?
I am 20 years old and I am living at home with my mother, step dad,younger sister and older brother. I didn't think of my situation as abuse until someone close to me suggested it could be. My brother and I are both at uni, I also work part time but my brother and mum are unemployed. They both drink heavily and spend a lot of time together. They always call me names, in high school I was fat, even though I was a size ten, when i lost weight and got really into exercise I was annorexic, even tho I am a healthy weight and eat healthily. Everytime I buy something for myself my mum demands to know what it costs and gets undermines be by telling my boyfriend about it. I always catch her looking me up and down. She constantly teases me and never points out when I do anything good. I am always called selfish and a ***** even though I do everything I can for her, I am selfish for doing things for myself. Mum and my brother always do things together and exclude me on purpose. I am employed and studying and I feel like I am being punished for being successful.every time mum has friends over they tell her how pretty I am and how I could be a model and she says it makes her sick. My brother and mum don't have many friends between them and I guess that's why they hit the bottle and It makes me really upset. I have a great boyfriend a good group friends, a steady job, I'm thin, healthy and I'm doing well at uni. Is it just just jelousy or is it abuse? One last thing is mum always cleans my room when I'm not home and goes through my things, that's how she knows what's new. I tell her not to but she just doesnt not respect my privacy. The other day she kicked me out of the house and told me to stay at my boyfriends because she went through my room and chucked out important uni documents. Since I had boyfriend every time i get into trouble she gets my boyfriend to fix it because she feels I'm his problem. If my car breaks down or I need a lift, anything like that. I just want to know if this is normal or abuse? I apologies for the bad writing and punctuation/ Spelling I am using an iPad and I am not used to using one :(
Am i being abused by my brother ?
Yes, that's abuse. Sometimes it gets hard for one parent to handle this type of thing alone. Is your dad in the picture any at all? Well, I guess I should ask if you guys share the same dad? If so, maybe your mom needs to talk to your dad (or your brothers dad) and tell them the problem. That should be step one. If that's not an option tell your mom you are going to go to the school counselor next. If that doesn't work, then tell your mom you're going to the police. It doesn't matter how much your mom works; she's responsible for both you and your brother and she needs to deal with it. In the mean time, try to stay out of his way as much as possible. But you must let your mom...and hopefully your dad...know every time he touches you. Don't back down; always tell them, or he'll just keep on intimidating you. And please, please try to be safe.
Im being abused by my brother?
It is NOT okay for anyone to physically hurt you. Anytime that someone leaves bruises, that is abuse. Please, please, please call someone who can help. I've found two phone numbers that can help. The Girls and Boys Town hotline helps teenagers with all sorts of problems, including abuse. They are really reputable and trustworthy. The second number is for the National Child Abuse Hotline. This is the number you should call if you want to "report" your brother. They can help find a safe living situation where you will not be abused any more. Girls and Boys Town A national hotline that girls and boys can call with any problem at any time 1-800-448-3000 Hearing Impaired: 1-800-448-1833 http://www.girlsandboystown.org/home.asp National Child Abuse Hotline To learn the reporting agency for your geographic area and situation. 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) http://www.childhelpusa.org/ Please call one or both of these numbers. I don't want you to be hurt anymore.
Am I being abused by my older brother?
A lot of people would say you are but those are the type of people who nowadays say "children should never be hit". However i disagree to an extent. A lot of people would probably say that your brother is taking his grief of your father out on you but it sounds more likely that since your father has passed, your brother has taken on the role of your father and the man of the house. Granted he shouldnt be beating you up but i think hes just trying to make it so you dont turn out a bad kid, you say he only hits you when you mess up really bad, fight with your brother, or make your mother cry so he really only strikes you when a normal parent would strike their kid so i dont really see it as abuse. YOU should be doing whatever you can not to upset your mother so much, she is a single parent and lost her husband and father of her children, she needs your love and support, not for you to be running around doing awful things. Your brother however needs to realize that he is not your actual father and while disciplining you when you mess up is a good thing a) there are other means of discipline so he shouldnt be beating you and b) its your actual mother who should be doing the disciplining. As far as whether you are being abused, you are on the borderline, I understand why he disciplines you as "a parent" but he shouldnt be beating you up....And you fighting your 8 yr old brother? What are you thinking? i have a little brother too who can REALLY get on my nerves but you are much bigger and stronger and smarter than your brother, leave him alone he doesnt know any better.
Being abused by my older brother?
Im 13 and my brother is 15. Sometimes we get along perfectly and sometimes we have our little stupid fights. But then sometimes they get more physical and its not safe for me. Hes a lot stronger than me so i cant really fight back. Just today he kept bothering me on the computer and i told him to stop. he started saying stuff like "ur a ***** annoyin *****! u peice of ****. say somethin again and ill punch u in the face" tryin not to b a coward i said "stop botherin me!" and he did wut he said he wuld do. he punched me in the face. i tried to hit him back but that didnt work because he has a good 50 pounds on me so he started to punch me again and pulled my hair and threw me to the floor. i now have this huge bruise on my leg and my head hit a bunch of weights that were on the floor. this happens a lot. i feel helpless. i tell me mom but she always says "u start the fights!" so she doesnt do anything. i just go up to my room cryin bcuz wut am i suppose to do? my dad doesnt help either.
I'm being abused by my parents and brother what to do?
As a kid my dad and brother would physically and emotionally bully me. My dad would chase after me with a wooden spoon and I would have to hide in the toilet with the door locked. My brother as a child was always having fights with me. This abuse has become less physical as I get older but more pscychological. My dad is a financial advisor on big money and he gave my brother a job in the business making huge sums after he completed a degree in bio-chemistry. All through school and university my brother and dad constantly abused me and called me a failure. During my 11 plus my brother would constantly tell me how he hoped i failed. Same with GCSE's, A-levels and degree. When i got my degree i sensed that they didn't care and any smiles or anything at the graduation ceremony were fake. My mum and dad just argued through the whole ceremony. My career never took off after university since i didn't have the required experience. I want to go into youth work so i am doing temp agency work during the day whilst building up expereince as a part-time youth worker at night. Both jobs are low payed and my dad and brother will constantly go on about how much a failure i was, how my degree was a wasters degree and how much more intelligent they are than me. I worry that I don't have enough job security and or money to privately rent. Also i have recently lost all my friends over a number of incidents like getting really drunk and arguments over which nightclubs to go to. If i move out I will have nothing and nobody but myself. Today though my dad had an argument with me after my brother complained that i tried to attack him, when really he tried to push me into a door when I had a broken hand. My dad was foaming at the mouth when he took my brothers side of the argument. It made me realise he not only doesn't love me but hates me. He is a man consumed by money, recently he bought extentions for the house and got two more bathrooms installed even though its only now me mum and him living there since the other two brothers have moved out. I have savings of £9,000 but i worry when that when that dries up and i lose my temp job to this recession I could end up homeless
Firstly I need to get this off my chest even if I’m sure it’s what you don’t want to hear: you are indeed so lucky to have all these things you named… I certainly did not growing up. I didn’t have a phone or any gizmos like an ipad. Or for that matter, new clothes. I know it sounds so overused and cliche at this point but it’s true: what I would’ve given to have these things as a child. We also lived in a Third World country so there was all the associated problems with that to deal with (insecurity due to rampant crime and corruption, etc).Your mother may seem sharp and strict, but then again everybody’s mother seems that one way at one point in all our lives. The fact that she gives you these things and continues to look after you and your brother indicates she really does care about you on some level. Perhaps the sharpness and stressing over little matters constantly is just her way of trying her best to make sure she raises two young men well in a house with a continuous absence of a father. I have seen single mothers who reacted the same way, always fussing over everything in their children’s lives and scolding them if they never kept it up to standard. It’s a form of compensation, but it’s not abuse: there are many people who have subjected to various psychological and physical excesses by uncaring, apathetic parents. That my friend is abuse. Count yourself very fortunate you have one that cares enough to pay close attention to your life.This scrutiny is not healthy if it persists well into adulthood, but for now it seems to just be what comes natural to your mother in the particular set of circumstances she’s in. Perhaps she was raised this way herself. If you have a problem with her constant fussing, don’t be afraid to talk to her about it. She is after all your mother, and will always be one of the closest women in your life no matter where it takes you. Ask her about her childhood and the way she was brought up. Start actual conversations like that so you’ll have something better to concentrate on rather than focusing on the negative (ie the scrutiny and scolding). It will also help you perceive your mother more as the human being she is, who for all her imperfections and faults, seems to ultimately just be trying to do the best she can.Good luck!
Am I being verbally abused by my brother?
Hi I am a 17 year old girl and a senior in high school. I have a 16 year old younger brother who might verbally abuse me but I m not sure. He constantly tells me that i am "stupid" or "fat" or "ugly" but he says it in a very lighthearted joking kind of way and when my parents tell him to stop he says he was just joking. He also has no regard for other peoples feelings whatsoever. I don t know how to explain it he s not apathetic he just doesn t think about what anyone else wants or feels. Also he seems to enjoy getting me and my mom irrationally angry. He will make me so mad that I get to a breaking point and scream at him but he just laughs and says calm down or your crazy. but sometimes he gets angry back? He does not do any chores or help my mom out at all in the house. he just throws his clothes on the floor in the kitchen and my mom has asked him for years to stop and he never does (this is an example of him not caring about anyone else because my mom is 55 and its getting harder and harder for her to clean and pick things up due to arthritis but he doesn t care.) I dont really know if its verbal abuse and it probabaly isnt becuase i could just be making a bigger deal out of it than it is and using him as a scapegoat for my problems. please give an honest opinion on whether or not you think this is verbal/emotional abuse. p.s. he does the same things to my mom so i think if it is verbal abuse its both of us
You take your brother away from his wife without him or her knowing. Then travel to another state where they have a good home for victims like him. Pick a state where you think he can have a new life: California, Florida or which ever that has sunny weather, prefect for rehabilitation. Then just stay by his side until he has mended his broken soul. Be supportive. A man will get his worth through getting a job so help him find a job. And try to be around him so when he does find someone new he would know through your help what a rea good woman is.