I'm getting verbally abused by my own father.?
I'm getting bullied by the people I call 'friends'. I didn't go to school on Thursday because of it and managed to get it out of my head. Now my father has started to verbally abuse me again. He does it quite a lot. 2 or 3 times a week. We're watching this talent show, and he's telling me that I should show my talent to the world just because I sing and play guitar, to be honest, I'm only average on singing and my guitar level isn't even close to being good. I told him that just because I have this talent of singing and playing the guitar doesn't mean I would want to be a singer in the future. I told him I wanted to be a lawyer or a doctor and he keeps telling me that I should show my 'talent' to the world. (There's billions of talented people out there too that can sing and play guitar.) Then finally, he calls me the usual, "You're probably never going to get far in life with you disrespecting your parents. You're disrespectful." When he said that, i didn't feel anything because he always called me that and I know myself that I didn't do anything wrong. Was I disrespectful for telling him that I wanted to be a lawyer/doctor? Then he called me "Worthless." That's when I stopped but didn't do anything. Coming from the guy who paid his teachers in high school to be able to graduate. A lot of people say that personalities of people change in the future, but this person, apparently thinks the same way he did back in his high school days. I've had enough of this. He's called me a lot of names, and he swears at me, he reads my diary, he insults me in front of everyone, he insults my mother in front of her co-workers, he wouldn't have a job if it wasn't for my mother, he's the reason my sister ran away 3 years ago. And worst of all,he left me and my family to work overseas with his family leaving my mother working and raising 2 kids BY HERSELF without getting ANY MONEY from him for 7 years. And I'M HERE CONFESSING ALL OF THIS ON THE INTERNET. (I'm 13 years old by the way.) I've been holding all of my anger in for so many years, and I want to become a lawyer/doctor to help my mother in the future. I've been itching to call the Youth Line, Child Support and report to the police. I can't take it anymore. My exams are tomorrow and all of this is stressing me out.
How do I hide this from my father now?
Hello. I am a seventeen year old boy who has a twenty-two year old boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have a troubled relationship. He hits me, slaps me, refuses to let me see friends or meet new people. He's verbally, physically, and sexually abusive and most of the times he feels like he rules over me. Like the other day I went to go get cold medicine from the store and he didn't believe me so he spanked me with a belt. Spanked me. He's always wanting sex and when I refuse he gets angry and abusive. He hates when I tell him no. I have recently been getting over anorexia and he always tells me I am fat or need to go and choke on a d**k. The problem is I don't want to leave him, because I love him and my father is starting to see all of the bruises and scratches and I can't keep lying to him. My father doesn't like gays and he doesn't know I am gay. I have told him I fell, or got them doing something stupid, but he's starting to question more. Is there a way to hide these bruises? Like with makeup? Or is there a way to get rid of them faster? I don't want to tell him. He disowned my older brother for being gay and I don't want that to happen to me too..I don't know..
How can I stop my father from being abusive to my pets?
I wish I has your age because I could know what capacity you have to act.One idea is that If he is other wise reasonable, it to tell your mother or a trusted family member how much it scares you. Perhaps they will do the talking to him for you. If you are a teenager with a car, you could possibly find you pets homes where they won’t be abused. Do you have any place to put your pets and yourself out of your father’s site when he is having his “anger fits”?I wish you father knew that their is no reason to punish an animal unless they are doing something they “know” is wrong (because you have taught them the right way). You have to catch them in the act and scold them, otherwise they don’t understand why they are being punished. Most punishment that “normal” people is limited to spraying a pet with water or saying “bad dog”. Too much punishment can make your pets so scared that they might behave badly because they are so scared of your father. Harsh punishment or abuse tends to make a pet skittish, afraid of the person that hits them and they just wait to do what ever bad behavior when your father (the punisher) is not their.Your father may have a anger control problem or drinking, but that is another issue.
Can anyone help me? My father is abusive and I feel as if it is a nightmare going home.
Asking for help is the best action if someone is being abused. Since there are many types of abuse I am going to assume that your father is either physically or sexually abusing you. You need to tell someone, possibly your mom, what is going on. Be prepared for her reaction which may be disbelief or even denial. She may decide to ask your dad who may also tell her that you are lying.Here are a few facts. Three quarters of the children who are sexually abused never tell anyone. Sexual abusers are more likely to be people you know and even care about. It is unlikely that a child will make false accusations about adult-like sexual behaviors.If you find it difficult to discuss this with your mom, give her hints that something is wrong. Tell her you do not want to be in the same room with your dad. Tell her that you do not want to be alone with your dad. Tell her that you are very scared when you are near your dad. Ask her to please read some articles about abuse on the computer. One I found is http:www.parentsprotect.co.uk/what_to_do_if_a_child_tells_about_abuse.htm. This will hopefully make her realize that what you are telling her is true. If she believes you, she should contact the police and children's social services. They will give your mom information about what to do and also resources she can use.You must be very brave and your cry for help on Quora is just the first step. But please do this because you are going to need professional help. It is amazing how many people, even celebrities, have been in this situation. People can and do recover from child abuse.In fact, everyone in your family (especially your dad) is going to need some form of professional help. This is extremely important and often ignored.Last, you are not responsible for the abuse. Do not be afraid of upsetting your family by telling. In fact, you will probably feel a sense of relief that this secret is now out in the open and the abuse will now stop.
My ex is teaching our son to lie and hide things from me...?
ADDITIONAL DETAILS: The bottom line here is this-You know that Mom and Dad have a responsibility to raise a happy, healthy and productive child. If one parent is using the child to spite the other parent, of course that is wrong. It is in fact sending negative messages to your son about honesty and respect for other human beings. I know that you are trying your best to control this situation (and I don't mean that in a bad way), but the fact is your ex is who he is and until he heals himself from the trauma of your break up, this behavior is only going to continue. The best thing that you can do is to positively reinforce the values that you have instilled in your son. Children learn by doing and if you can continue to show him how much you appreciate his efforts to be honest then he will strive to be honest. Always let him know that he can come to you about anything no matter what-even when it concerns Grandma or any other person in your lives. You guys are a team and team members stick together. You have a huge problem on your hands and the only way to deal with it is to remain calm and to deal with all parties with dignity and respect even in the face of adversity. Your ex is not going to make this easy for you. Because you know that your relationship with your mother was less than perfect, I'm sure that you can definitely relate to what your son must feel about his father. Eventhough he follows through with Dad's wishes, he can't feel good about what he's doing, especially since you have consistently taught him that lying and manipulation is wrong. Just do the best that you can do to offset his negative behavior and your son will reap the benefits. Good luck.
As a child, my father abused me physically and emotionally. He denies it, says I am a "mad man." This hurts just as bad. What do I do?
It Is rare for an abuser to admit it. They may have been under memory-fogging drugs and/or alcohol; they could have experienced blackouts; there could be brain damage; or they could be in denial, a powerful brain condition where the facts are twisted and misremembered so they literally cannot remember the actual truth. Denial is the brain's protective response when the truth is too painful to remember. It's not just saying that the truth didn't happen.Often with abuse of a child, the family also develops denial as a protective mechanism to protect the harmony of the family unit. The family comes to believe that the stories were not as bad as originally thought. Remember, these are protective mechanisms for the abuser and the family unit.Now comes you with your clear memories, and you are treated like a pariah. You will need counseling to overcome this reality gap. You must be well-armed with the facts so your family and/or abusers cannot dispute them. You need to have clear goals about what you want to accomplish by confronting your abuser. Sometimes it is ill-advised to confront your abuser because that will cause you more mental harm than leaving it alone. Mine died before I ever could confront him.I do urge you to not just stuff your memories. This is like having a filing cabinet in your brain that you never open, you just stuff anything that even remotely reminds your brain about the subject. Over time even things unrelated to the abuse are stuffed in there and you develop memory problems. Finally you are forced to seek help to overcome your memory problems. And you can, but the original problem has been compounded.If you cannot afford counseling, or want to supplement it, I recommend that you join the free support group called ACA, adult children of alcoholics AND dysfunctional families. Survivors of all kinds of childhood abuse find great help and peace there. It's never too late for a happy adulthood, you know. Go seek it.
Why does my father feel that he has the right to hide my stuff that I ordered from me?
If you're still underage, "His house, his rules" applies. If you're older than eighteen, you have some choices: – Get a job that pays well enough for you to get a little pad of your own. – Arrange for your on-line purchases to be shipped to a friend's address. – Dress femme when you go clothes shopping, and buy your things at a store. That way you can try them on. You'll have to figure out somewhere to hide those clothes and things, though. "Why does my father feel that he has the right to hide my stuff that I ordered from me?" you ask. He realizes that he can't control everything you do, but he still wants to make a statement that he disapproves of your cross-dressing "in his house". I think he could agree to disagree, if only you didn't flaunt it in his face. That's why it would be a good idea either to move to a place of your own, or only wear female clothing when you're away from home.
If my father hits me can I call 911?
My mothers beat me on the grounds that i grow to be 2 she's threatened to kill me a great number of situations. She threatened to pull me down the stairs merely a pair hours in the past, and she or he has dragged me up the stairs by my hair. She constiny calls me, lazy, sluggish, retarded, and fat. She ignores me 24/7 and tells my dad how she does not care if I do issues with the kin, how she does not take care of me in any respect. She's broken wood spoons on my @ss from hitting so complicated and whipped me with a canine leash! i haven't even advised every person no longer to point observed as the police. She's blood too! you think of you have it undesirable. manage it.
Was I wrong to tell my spouse that if he ever abused me, I would leave?
My wife told me that just after we were married 37 years ago and still says it occasionally. Honestly, it hurts my feelings because I would never abuse her.However, the word “abuse” has taken on a new meaning in recent years. We have physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, yada yada yada abuse, some other abuse….. It’s enough to make a guy dizzy. The thing is, you can pretty easily define physical or sexual abuse. Some of the other ones are harder and can be a matter of opinion. If you define “abuse” as not letting you buy a new set of diamond earrings every month, then you might wanna get a reality check.I do raise my voice on occasion, generally to the kids when they aren’t minding, but rarely, if ever, to her. Some would call that “abuse”. I don’t think so. But in today’s PC society, anything can be construed to mean different things to different people.So, to answer your question - I think it is OK to say it a time or two. If you THINK he would abuse you, you might wanna talk to someone other than Quaroians about it. If he DOES abuse you (really abuse you), kick him to the curb in a heartbeat.
What's Wrong With Me?
To start out with, I m 14 and a girl. I m growing up in an abusive household. I have been emotionally, physically, verbally, and sexually abused. I did recently call CPS on my own parents to hopefully protect myself. My father molests me and him and my mom are both alcoholics. I know that I have mental issues but don t know what it is. I don t really feel anything, I m never what people call "happy." I started using drugs, like popping pills and smoking weed. I fantasize about killing and torturing others, sometimes for no apparent reason. I do lots of illegal things and it's not even because I'm rebellious. I do it because It's fun. I like making other people feel bad. I like breaking people down and crushing them into a million pieces. Again, I do this to random people not because I have something against them. A few times I almost rummaged through dead animals while I was walking. I collect animal bones and body parts ever since I was 5. I self harm, I give myself 2 degree burn and cut. I don't feel anything for anyone and the only thing that keeps me from killing someone is the fact that if I were to be caught I would have a life time in a building. I see everyone as a tool and don't care about something till it effects me. I just want to know what's wrong with me. Thank you...