I hate children but I'm a woman why is this wrong?
I'm sick of people saying how bad that is. Or that I will change my mind when I'm older, I'm already 26!!!!! I know I will never want children! I would never ruin my life like that. Why would I want to sacrifice all the fun etc for something else thats going to be grizzling and wanting MY attention etc. If I EVER had a child (god help it) I would say "Now sit still! Don't speak! Don't cry! I don't even want to hear you breathe!" When I am out in a restarunt and theres some kid/baby behind me like this happened the other day! It made my meal less enjoyable, I felt irritated. I wanted to tell the couple to f* off away from me. I can't stand the sound of children. I don't even like the well behaved ones. I hate the childishness children posses! I hate everything about children. People who know me think I am mad. I am not. Whats their problem with this? ps; yes I am with the man of my dreams and if I was going to have kids he would be perfect for it, but I want all his attention and love etc, and a kid would take that away from me as well.
Did my sexual fetishes destroy my relationship with my wife? What should I do?
I am as serious as it can be with this answer: Make your Wife read what you just wrote here and ask her if she wants to try to save the marriage or not, and either work together to save it, or stop it there, and make sure you never get back together. if what you said is true, then you have done all you can, so it is now up to her to fight for the marriage, otherwise, leave her, and enjoy your life. just make sure for both to take care of your son, because he is innocent on all this mess you two have. Good luck.
How do narcissists destroy families?
By not having what it takes to create a proper family in the first place. If a narcissist starts a family, it is quite certain it will be fucked up in some way. Thats like asking a 6 year old to start a healthy family… it figures it wont fare very well.Thats like asking how does water destroy soup? Well you cant cook soup from water only, in the first place, you will need some other ingredients too. You dont get them - sorry, no soup, just water.This is what results of narcissists attempt to start a healthy family will tend to look like:They will try to put wrong shapes to wrong places and when its not working out, they will use brute force, because they cant afford to not appear infallible, and their judgement must appear spotless. And so they permanently damage the pieces… and the holes. And everything else. The red shape is the Golden child - its in a wrong place but nevertheless its told they cant do no wrong so they dont realize it. The others are black sheep. Forcing them to conform to narcs ideas and narcs fear of failure results in permanent damage. In loosing some parts of themselves this way, they may become future narcs too. Of course, by now the narc will say these parts were damaged TO START WITH, were essentially good for nothing, so actually the result depicted above will be interpreted as a spectacular creative achievement on part of the said narc, a true self sacrificing heroism in face of adversity. Of course, unless you are heavily sedated, listening to narcs self praising serenades in respect to this “achievement” is excruciating, and thats why people often tend to have kinda embarrassed, painful look on their faces in narcs presence. Hehe.
How can choosing a wrong life partner ruin your whole life?
Have you ever been a part of a group where all members are lethargic and lazy? Nobody wants to work and everyone wants good results!? What do you do? You work your ass off. You succeed but then you hate it because the credit is shared among all group members equally.Have you ever stayed with a roommate who gives you negative vibes and toxic thoughts? How hard it is to breathe in the same room with someone you do not relate to. You do not want to live with them but you've no choice.That's how choosing a wrong life partner feels like.Marriage is a group activity (with two group members), and you also get that group member as your roommate for life. If you have some goals and accomplishments to achieve in life, you must choose that roommate and that group member very carefully. A negative group member can affect the result of your life really badly. You may choose to work as hard as you want for both of you, but one day you'll surely stop at a point and ask yourself - What the fuck am I doing with my life?When you ask this question, you question your relationship, your marriage and yourself.You cannot just choose anyone random, because here you won't get another chance quickly. You'll have to go through the social pressure to get a divorce and after that the chances of getting someone with whom your thoughts resonate become even thinner.
Why do women want to get married so bad?
As men, we all know that a woman's primary objective is to marry. After years of experience I've discovered their most commonly used strategy. here it is: 1. Girl pressures guy for marriage. 2. Guy delays. 3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and eliminating his friends. 4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something better than what he has. 5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good thing in the guy's life. 6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage. Then 5-10 years later the guy is an empty shell of his former self. Girl is a ruthless manipulating machine. Girl divorces loser husband. Girl takes 80% of guy's stuff because the guy is too brain dead to find a good lawyer. Girl lives happily ever after. Guy becomes bald alcoholic who dies of heart attack at 45 years old.
I want revenge on people who hurt me in the past. When I see them happy it makes me sad and annoyed. Will taking revenge make me feel better?
“Killed my Personality”, “Murdered my Joy of Life..”I have been where you are, no I am where you are. Currently in my social life it's shit. I'm trying my best but ultimately the people trying to hurt me are starting to get into my head. I'm not happy anymore, my old personality is gone and I don't look forward to anything. My weekends I just sit and I don't want to leave my house because I have lost my will to try. I understand your pain. I wanted to hurt them too. You know, get revenge and all. In the end I am only hurting myself because I am just forcing myself back into those horrible moments where they bullied me and im not letting myself move on. You need to move on. Ignore they exist all together, try your best at getting a will to live again. That's what I'm trying to do..It's difficult. I'm not even there yet myself but we can try together? Those horrible people who hurt you and hurt me. They are unhappy in their personal life, they take out their pain on somebody else in hopes of taking our joy and filling themselves with it. It doesn't work, of course. But like an addict they try again and again, they keep hurting because it just might heal their pain. We have to forgive these people, they are broken. Find a place in your heart to forgive what they did, what they are doing and look after yourself. Look after your health, wellbeing and happiness. Once you love yourself again, you will grow to ignore them, and to not be hurt by their attempts anymore. Be happy, I wish you luckLove yourself first, then forgive
Whats wrong with being a hebephilia?
term hebephilia is reserved for those who prefer pubescent-aged children over adults. The term was introduced by Glueck (1955),[6] who later credited it, without citation, to Paul Benedict. The thing that is wrong with it is destroying children for your own whim.