Did I do the wrong thing?
My teenage son told me, his own father, that he was gay. I'm a priest, and naturally was disgusted and threw him out of the house. He had nowhere else to go, and ended up killing himself by drowning himself in a river. I'm starting to feel a little bad about what I did. I'm not sure if it was wrong though since he was sinnning.
Did I do the wrong thing?
I was sick of being bullied all throughout middle school, so when I joined high school last fall, I decided to do something about it. There was a new boy in our neighborhood that had autism, he was homeschooled because his parents knew if he attended public school he woulf get bullied incessantly. He was the perfect bullied victim, so I came up with a plan, I craftily formed a fake friendship with him and convinced his mom to cancel his homeschooling. As he entered school, he indirectly shifted the target off of my back and plastered it onto himself. His parents cannot aford to get him back to the homeschooling program he was in, Thus, now he is forced to live a miserable high school life, and I am now spared from the abuse. I quickly bragged to my mom about how easily manipulative I was and she called me a "dirty coward" for what I did and told me to defend that kid the first thing the next day or I would get grounded. I didn't do it, but I escaped punishment through a stroke of pure luck due to that boy telling my parents that I defended him, in hopes that I would be his friend again. However, I did not become friends with him and said it was nothing personal, but if I was I would get bullied too. Everything ended so perfectly for me, someone else was forced to suffer the abuse in my place and I was spared. But, now that the schoolyear is over I feel a BIT bad for what happened, how do I ease my guilt?
Is it right to do a right thing in a wrong way and a wrong thing in a right way?
It is not wrong as long as you put yourself into things, make a decision and stick to it.No one could call it right when you did something wrong. Result and the way to it are both important. I was told that result doesn't matter for our life is about experience. But, I also realize the result counts when I went to a unsatisfied college. I believe it's the decision between result and experience make one differ from another. Just put your heart into things, and make your best call.
Is there a right way to do the wrong thing?
At the end when your target is wrong,how can their be a right way? There's no right way for a wrong thing,but there's a wrong way for a right thing. Because destiny is all what it matters at the end, be it any way how you do people are going to judge you. So don't worry about the criticism .just move ahead .
Is it ever wrong to do the right thing?
Yes it can be. Take this into consideration. Most people would say it is right to always be honest. This is fine but what if by telling the truth, you are say, giving away a military base or codes to something that could destroy many people. It would be better to do the wrong thing and lie. Or murder is wrong, but if you, am sure, can come up with situations that murder would need to be done.
Why do we do things we know are wrong?
We do things we know are wrong because-1) of our 'strong DESIRE/WANT to DO it.' 'Desire' is very powerful. It is a fuel for our ACTIONS. When we are so deeply submerged by our WANT/DESIRE we don't care and think less about the consequence and we even stop thinking and being aware of if what we are doing is right or wrong. My real life example- I lie to my parents for buying books other than educational book. That is- Novels, autobiographies,etc. I know lying is wrong but I lie because my 'I WANT TO READ THIS BOOK' is so strong that I can't see any other option than lying.2)We are afraid to face the consequences if we know its not something we want it to be like. Just like in point no 1, I gave you my real life example of lying. I 'EXPECT' my parents to understand to me that I love reading but they don't. Their thinking is different from mine, they think one should read only books related to one's education. Hence, I lie and I know its wrong.3) We are conditioned to take short-cut paths in our life and choose the easiest, simplest way to do anything. Cutting a tree is an easiest task but time taken by a tree to grow? It is hardest one, it takes many year.We know most of the things are wrong before we even do it and yet we do it because of our desires, wants, needs, and conditioning of our brain. I read one beautiful story on Quora- The lowly clerk was caught red handed for accepting bribe..Miles away, at home,his wife waited for her husband to bring the money for her daughter's cancer treatment.Some people may know the reason about why they are doing the wrong. Just like in this above story, consider it as an example. "Things are as they are. Looking out into it the universe at night, we make no comparisons between right and wrong stars, nor between well and badly arranged constellations. "-Alan Watts.Thanks for A2A Rahul Burman .
What are the right & wrong things to do in life?
There is nothing as absolute right or wrong in life my friend. That is the main problem. (Even calling problem a problem may be wrong for some who prefer to call it a challenge.)A thing would be right in a given situation at a given time in certain place, but would be wrong in other circumstances.The understanding of what is right, when, where and in which circumstances is called VIVEKA.Let me explain.Let us take example of killing. Killing an enemy is right in war. Killing a friend is wrong. But if the same friend turns traitor ?Let us take another example. Lying to comfort and give hope to a critical patient is right but for cheating another for personal benefit is wrong.You take any moral code, it is right in certain circumstances and wrong in others.Let us take stealing; of heart is OK, but of any dead asset is not.An infant kicks mother, should he do it when grown up?Now let us come to the real problem (challenge). How to learn VIVEKA?Arjuna had the same problem. He was confused and did not want to fight the war. Krishna then clears all his doubts. That is Bhagvad Gita. In the last but one verse of Gita, Krishna says, “Arjuana, I have cleared all your doubts. Now do as you wish.” To which Arjuna replies, “ Yes, Bhagavan. I will do as you have told.”The point here is the ultimate judge as to what is right and wrong is the person himself. I or anyone else can only tell some stories.I hope this helps in your quest.Thanks for A to A Anirudh Chowbey.
I said the wrong thing to my boyfriend.. what do i do?
This relationship needs to end.............you are not happy if you are honest with yourself and you are not confident, you are chasing and harassing him while he is away with his family and you think love means what you ask for and how much is paid for it..........you need to build some self confidence and self reliance.......your image of what makes a good or bad relationship is wayyyyyyyyyyyy offffffffff and i hope for your sake it does finish and you get sometime to think about you, your self esteem and confidence and don't end up in an abusive relationship...............as this is where this relationship is heading or you are a very young teenager who' s expectations are very high
Why do i always say the wrong thing!!???!!!?
chill. there's so many guys. from what you said, i find nothing loser like in it, it's flat out frank. don't be ashamed about it, cause then you'd look awkward, then you'd look weird. just be confident.