Boyfriend is making a big deal out of nothing, what should i do?
OK so i asked him for help on this easy math question, but I couldn't figure it out. It was a basic algebra question. While i asked him for help, I was also trying to figure it out on my own too. He was giving me tips while i was trying to figure it out at the same time and I was going to respond to him later while i try out the problem for a bit and I still couldn't get it. It was just about 15 mins or so. And when I finally responded to him I said to him o oops, like i forgot to respond to him and he gives me the -.- face like he always does. and that bugs me alot each time when i don't respond on AIM. I mean is that really a big deal? He been making a big deal since day 1 when I respond too slow when I met him not too long ago. When you speak on aim, it take ages for people to respond if ya know what i mean. Well anyways, I just said oh oops, i was trying to figure out the problem and I was going to say I still couldn't figure it out, but he went off in tangents and said argggg! if you were going to try figuring it out yourself then you don't have to ask me. And I said but I did have trouble on it and that's why I asked, and he kept saying how he was "trying to help me and how i wasn't even listening. He said he wasted all his time trying to help me figure out the answer and I wasn't even going to need any of his help. What is the big deal here? Why can't i asked for help while trying to figure out the answer. Lots of people ask for help, but they say oh I figure it out already, thx for your help. Please answer whether this is a big deal or not? I really want to break up with him because he is makes a big deal out of nothing and he been saying that I do this and that to him and he doesn't like it just like my father! I don't want another person like my dad in my life--one is enough. I try my best to change it, but he just argg! Many times he always say how I don't listen to him or how he try his best to help me, but I not listening.... To be honest, I try my best to listen, but he is just being a a$hole and bitching about everything... Second should i break up with him?
Why is my wife making a big deal out of nothing?
My wife makes such big deals out of nothing with our kids and i do not get why she does this. Like this morning she was waking up our 13 and 16 year old son's for school and they have there own rooms and everything but they sleep in there boxers and she started to ranting on them about how inappropriate. And that woke me up i would mainly be waking them up but today is my day off and i asked what was going on and she told me and i could not help but laugh. Because she was making such a big deal out of stupid things. And then when she was waking up our 6 and 7 year old son's for school she started going off on them about how they need to eat better and about if they got there homework down and on and on. What is it with mothers making such big deals out of absolutely nothing. Someone please explain why my wife does this.
I feel alone...? And how to come out at school without making it a big deal?
No one else at my school is a lesbian (and out, but it seems like my school is completely filled with straights), and I only know of one gay, one bi, and one trans person there (and the previous two aren't really out). Overhearing girls talk about cute guys makes me feel really uncomfortable and I just sit there awkwardly if they try to discuss it with me and give them a vague answer. I'd like to be out at school, but I don't know how to come out without making a big deal about it. I'm out to my close friends, but I can't talk about it with them at school because I don't want others to overhear me and then have rumors spreading around. I guess it would get around that way anyway, but I'd rather be the one to say it. If anyone asked me, I would tell them - but no one asks; my school's pretty conservative and I'm a femme. My friend who goes to another school gave me a rainbow heart necklace and I've been wearing it this week, but people just see it as rainbow and not a LGBT symbol. I was hoping someone would ask me about it so I could just TELL them. I don't like having to admit it to people like it's a taboo secret when it's not. If I was asked I could just be cool about it and say "yeah, I'm a lesbian." like it was no big deal. I also don't want to creep out my friends... I creeped out one a little today. I just want another lesbian around to talk to. I feel like there's no one here that understands me and would let me say what I really feel. I'm considering talking to my school counselor because I know he'll be understanding; he knows a lot about human sexuality and I feel like it would help a lot. Also, is this normal or do I sound like I might be depressed? I feel like it might just be normal for LGBT members, and teenagers in general (I'm an artist as well, so I already feel like no one understands me in that aspect).
Why is shaving such a big deal for some parents?
I am the mother of a 15 year old girl and she and I went through this exact thing about 5 years ago. I didn't want her to start shaving because the hair on her legs was so thin and light in color. You could only see it when the sun hit it just right. I suggested that she just wear pants until she is at least 14 or 15. What happens to a lot of girls (such as myself when I started shaving at age 12) is the hair starts to become thicker, darker, and course the more you shave it. The hair that you have before shaving is thin and soft. Also, a lot of girls start to develop bumps on their legs (kinda looks like a rash) after shaving because the skin is so sensitive and not prepared for the sharp razor being scraped up and down the skin yet. I think it is better to put it off for as long as the young woman can because once you start shaving the hair will start to grow faster and become more visible resulting in you having to shave more and more often. Oh and for the record, my daughter snuck and shaved at her friends house one night when she was 10 and she regrets it to this day. Now she has to shave every single day or her legs feel like sandpaper and the hair is darker and thicker than it used to be. For once she admits that I was right. The only advice I can offer a young woman, since I know how teenagers will do what they like either way haha (my daughter for one), is #1 make sure it is a fresh clean razor #2 Use either a womans shaving cream, moisturizing soap, or lotion while you shave (put the stuff on your wet legs and shave it off slowly) #3 Put lotion (without alcohol in it) on your legs after you have dried off your shaved legs. Oh and #4 Don't shave your legs when they are dry. Razor burn hurts just as bad as a major sun burn. So even though I was one of the moms that tried to put the shaving off for a while I can understand why a young woman would feel the need to shave. I remember how I hated wearing shorts on hot days before I started shaving. Everyone at school (mostly the boys) would make fun of me for it. So I think that if the young woman's parents say no she really should try to hold off as long as she can. It's a horrible thing to start doing at a young age. Oh and NEVER ever shave any part of your face or arms (other than arm pits). I just paid a doctor $5000 to fix that little issue on a small part of my chin that I decided needed shaved back when I was 16. Hope that answers your question.
What’s something you were really stressed about, it turned out to be no big deal?
I have a very bad habit of over thinking and get stressed very easily. Just few days ago, I got a shocking news that both my BCom (second year) exams and IPCC exams are about to clash. I was under pressure, that what should I do, because I will be having exams every alternative day. At first I thought of dropping IPCC exams(second group) but then I realised that it's a bad decision to drop IPCC. Reality had already hit me hard, that it was going to be breathtaking for me as the day before my IPCC exam nearly 5 hours would be wasted because of my Part 2 exams.This is somewhat my schedule looked like, xDAnd something contrary to my crashing thoughts happened when I met my best friend’s boyfriend. :pHe said- “Don't take any kind of tension idiot! Just accept what is coming, see me, I am also giving my college exams along with IPCC,still you see that muskaan ki chamkaan (brightness of my smile). Don't stress out,relax buddy!!”Luckily he was sitting infront of me and the way our cheating bond grew, it was tremendous. Even for once I didn't feel that I was giving my IPCC exams, it was like as if I was giving my BCom exams. I was nervous before my exams but after meeting this humorous guy, the way he handled every situation,I gained strength just by a look of his sly smile.He was lucky for me:-PFinally the stress turned out to be a no big deal for me, if you think you can, we people have the power in our hand to do anything. Nothing is impossible!!THANKS FOR THE A2A:)
Why do people make such a big deal about bad words?
I know, it’s something about this sensitivity that puzzles me too. We live in a world of ever more sensitive people. Now it’s an insult to not use the proper invented pronoun or other suspect things that were not even on the map 20 years ago.I think that some people just use this as an excuse to gain an advantage over you. If they are offended by something you said they can easily disregard what you say as meaningless or false.If you are a victim, you get a lot of benefits and good will from others. Manipulator will often do this. When confronted with something they don’t like, they will find something to be offended by so that you seem the bad guy.Some may be naturally sensitive but remember this. If you are sensitive you will not shame someone for using these terms. If you are unsettled emotionally you will try to find a way to escape the situation not confront the person. This is why I think that the one that confront are not affected emotionally by these words but seek to get an advantage and manipulate your emotions and others.