What age is old enough to make your own decisions?
I'm almost 16 (my b-day's in july) but my dad keeps trying to control my life. He won't let me date (I have a bf anyway), he won't let me dye my hair (I did anyway), he gets mad when I spend too much money which is his fault since he gave me a credit card, and he gets mad at me when I wear colored contacts. He's so stupid sometimes and after I dyed my hair he told me I was ugly. He also won't let me wear the clothes I want because he says they make me "look easy". He just doesn't want guys to find me attractive because he thinks I'm a baby. I'm not a kid anymore and can make my own decisions! Why can't old people just back off and see that I'm mature enough to lead my own life?
Am I old enough to make my own decisions?
I am 19 years of age, have a three year old son and my Guardians do not like his father. We are currently five years in a relationship and he and his parents does everything to support my child and I. He is not allowed to come at my home, and my Guardians doesn't allow me to go by him, and this is causing a lot of confusion in my relationship. I have to lie and say i am going to d library or something in order for me to see my child father and we are both getting fed up of this. Do you all thing that I am old enough to stand up for what is right, he even wants to take me to live with him but i am not ready to move out as yet. What should I do?
Is being 17 years old old enough to make your own decisions and have independence?
Age and maturity are very different things. My son is a good example of someone who is very mature in some ways but not so in others. In most cases, I would trust him to do the right thing but some things his life experience has not left him well prepared to make wise decisions. So, for now, some decisions I make for him because he is not prepared to make them on his own.Many people in their early teens are more mature than many adults in many ways. Other young people shouldn’t be trusted with decision making at all. Most fall somewhere in between. Your age is not the determiner of whether you are ready to make decisions outside of the legal definitions of adulthood. There are plenty of legal adults who are not ready to make their own decisions. Experience and maturity are the real measures of whether someone is ready to make serious life decisions on his or her own.
Why should parents let teens make their own decision at a certain age?
Teens need to make mistakes for themselves, which means parents need to give them the freedom to let them make mistakes. They need to figure out who the fight people to hang out with are, the consequences of staying up late and failing a test cause of it. Playing video games instead of studying. If parents put limits on it when they’re under their “control” (still living with them in high school) then once they’re off on their own in the real world, they won’t know how to function and make the RIGHT decisions.One thing me and my parents did is this. I’m allowed to go anywhere in my town, as long as I let her know where I’m going. I can go with whoever I want and stay out for however long I want, as long as they know where I am. See? They’re not being helicopter parents, but just watching out for me and my safety.Here’s another rule. If you buy something yourself, no one else can touch it. They allow me to get whatever I want, as long as it’s with my own money. If it’s with their money, they have to approve of it.I know a big topic on this is phones. In my opinion, once you turn about 13, kids usually know what online is fake and what’s real. Right now, my mom checks my 10 year old sisters phone because she doesn’t understand that she can’t download things. My 14 year old sister very rarely has her phone checked, only if my mom is suspicious she bought something with her card without permission. She has never once checked my phone. In fact, I show her stuff on my phone since she lets me do whatever I want on it. As a teen, even though I live with her, she trusts me since I give her reasons to.If your kid isn’t doing anything wrong and you have no reason to suspect them, then let them make their own decisions. However, work together to find out a way to make sure they’re safe. Fellow teens, you’ve gotta give parents a reason to trust you to make the right decisions.Like I said, teens are gonna screw up, get in trouble, get hurt, and make a lot of mistakes. But don’t punish them for it, work with them to decide how they can work to make better decisions next time. Don’t stop them from deciding what to do. They need freedom to grow, and you keeping them in a bubble will do nothing but hurt them in the longrun.
Why do teens think they can make their own decisions?
It entirely depends on the maturity level of the person. If someone's been sheltered their entire lives, obviously they'd have a hard time being independent. If they've had to act independently for a while, they probably are fully capable of making their own decisions. For example, I may be 16, but I've been taking care of my parents (alcoholic dad and depressed/ unstable mom) since I was in 5th grade and taking care of the bulk of the housework since 7th. I consider myself to be oftentimes more emotionally mature than my parents, so I think I'm able to make decisions.
Should Children be allowed to make their own decisions?
I answered a question three days ago, and I got a thumbs down. The person asking the question chose the best answer and edited the original question stating that kids shouldn't be able to make their own decisions, like when it comes to legal contracts. So let me get this straight... if a child shouldn't be allowed to choose the parent they want to stay with when their parents get divorced, and can't choose to spend time with both or not? The court decides? I've seen suicide cases on the news and heard numerous stories from my parents(worked in law enforcement) about child suicide because of cases like this. My had to go to a house because the neighbors called about screaming. It turned out the father had beat up his daughter because she said in the court that she wanted to go with her mother during the divorce and not her dad. He had several accounts of being abusive but somehow he got her. Good lawyers perhaps? So he beat her up for wanting to go with her mother and not him. He lied about beating her up and said she fell on the ground from the couch. On carpet...(yes, people are dumb when they tell lies) She suffered head trauma, broken arms, and broken legs. My dad got stuck with taking her pictures. My dad said he couldn't describe how she looked in the hospital, like a zombie you see in the movies. The dad went to jail for life, and the girl died once they took her off life support. Now tell me, why are children "too young" to make their own decisions? That's a load of BS! Also, the question I answered was about sex ed. Think about what you do when you hide your child behind you all their life, and then you die. Not introducing them into sex ed is overprotective. My parents let me take sex ed, and kids say they're overprotected. Obviously the new generation of "parents" think shielding their children will help them. That's what happens when a parent is young and has a kid. They think they know everything, and ruin their kids life because of their bad parenting. So, thoughts and opinions please. Should children be allowed to make their own decisions? If not, why? Don't tell me their too young or not mature enough either, because that story my dad told me obviously shows that parts of the human brain subconsciously tell a person what they should do. Also, no "Oh crud, I'm not reading that." or "That story ain't true." My dad showed me the old news paper.
When are children ready to make their own decisions in life?
As soon as they decide to. Typically, they make their first decision by saying no, or simply refusing. It is the classic rebellion that is so evident in teen years, but begins so much earlier. The rebellion is the beginning of independence; they are feeling confident enough to determine what to do on their own. You should encourage decision making as soon as you notice it. The parent's job is not to make decisions for the child, but to guide them into being able to make the best decisions for themselves. Having a parent share a healthy, objective perspective and going through the process of learning from mistakes will help them become good decision makers. Having the child make their own decisions as soon as possible allows for the more time making decisions under the close guidance of a parent.