What am I doing wrong with girls?
In your question, you are pointing the reason of your problem, of your insatisfaction : the lack of confidence.But before, I would just say that having one girlfriend and having sex once at the age of 19, is not that bad.TrainingYou lack confidence, so we are going to work it to make it better. But you have to know that you aren't going to get confidence immediately. You have to build it little bit by little bit. The first step is to realize that you can talk to other person. Try to engage a conversation and make it last at least two minutes everyday.Second, you have to understand that your fear, your reluctance to talk with girls is irrational. Go and speak with one girl that you are not interested in. Just ask him some random information about how to find a restaurant, a bar, how to go one place. You will understand that they are just normal people and you don't have to stress about it.Last step, try to speak to someone you are interested in. Yes, I know it's difficult. If you feel uncomfortable with it, you can try to insert yourself during a conversation, this way you will have a little time to prepare what you are going to say. Other advicesIt seems you have opportunities but you don't know how to use them in your favor. You are probably overthinking, overthinking is going to freeze you and you won't be able to do anything. In order to avoid "overthinking", try to make your move as fast as possible, when you feel the opportunity, count to 3 and go.If a girl sleep with you, it is a very good sign, you need to be more patient and work it in the long run. A lot of girl don't want to have sex the first night. Just be cool with it, get the girl's phone number and engage conversation. By text message, you should be able to answer easierly.
Why can’t I get a job? What am I doing wrong?
As your question is missing a description, I guess no one could tell you what you are doing wrong, but there are some points you may consider for improvement:Education. I put it first because most people choose higher education so they can find good job, but the fact is that no one learns everything they need for their first job after it. And now, you are wondering why swimming that way. The answer is not simple, there are many factors: better reputation of school, good self esteem and self confidence, some side qualities, way of thinking, conclusions etc.Job search access. You may have not that successful method of job seeking. There are many different ways to find a job - ads, business networks as LinkedIn, your personal contacts and contacts of your contacts, companies’ websites etc. You will find some of them useful more of less, it depends on you. As for me, personal contacts and recommendations did it great.Contacts. As mentioned before, it is really important. It is good to have someone who can say a few good words about you or maybe tell you about their experience. You don’t have to find the job, you can find someone who can find it for you (in ideal world) or to help you (best case scenario).Is it job you really want? Before you start any search, you make sure what you are looking for. So, the same applies for the job. What is your dream job? Is there any company you like? Why?Exact steps you need to make. If you know what you want, you should find out what steps to make to get it - and do it!Selling yourself. This point can even beat education, happened not just once - a lot of times. Selling yourself sounds rough and ambiguous, but it is really important not to take it wrong. As much as everyone of us needs a job, every company needs people to give it to. Ask yourself why should they give the opportunity to ME - not to someone else? Prepare for test/interview, do your homework when it comes to researching company, make good CV, be confident. Read some book on that subject, ask someone relevant.Don’t be afraid of failure. If you fail, don’t get it too serious - it’ll be all right next time, but more important: use it right. Ask your interviewer what you did wrong and improve in that direction.And for the end, as someone said on LinkedIn: If you don’t have a job, your job is to find one - literally, search for it 8 hours a day.
What can go wrong when doing donuts? ?
Listing all options would pretty much help me right now. I did some donuts earlier and now i cant steer. Any ideas on what it could have screwed up? I didn't hit into anything, they were just couple of simple donuts in the snow
Can not get rid of fleas what am i doing wrong?
fleas feed on blood..so your dog is not the only food source! fleas have 4 stages in their lifecycle - eggs, larvae, pupae, adults. you need different chemicals to kill different stages. what you put on the dog will kill the adult if it bites ur dog but that won't kill the eggs, larvae and pupae that's already in your house! fles can live in cracks on ur floor, on furnitures, in closets, etc...anywhere they can hide so carpet is not a "must"! the fleas only go on your dog/you to feed so it's not going to live on your dog so being short/long hair has no relevance. if you are vaccumming the floors, make sure you use flea powder so it will go into the vaccum bag to kill whatever is still alive...and get rid of the bag right away or it will become an incubator for fleas! the fleas are probably feeding off of someone else other than your dog...you can use insect repellant on your legs so they won't feed off of you. eventually when they can't get food, they will stop laying eggs and die off. the key is to cut off the "food" source. i had a really bad flea problem a few years ago and that's how i got rid of them. i also paid a few hundred $ to get an exterminator but they didn't do anything other than pocket my money. try "bombing" the house - you can get them at the hardware store but make sure you read the warning about pilot lights...some need it be turned off for safety reasons and some don't. also look for the ones that will kill both adults and eggs. the point of "bombs" is that fumes can go thru cracks and other out-of-reach areas. good luck!
Why do girls get the wrong idea about me, what am I doing wrong (girls, please help)?
I am a really quiet kid, 16 y/o in highschool. Like I said I am quiet but laid back and not awkward. I am always really nice to girls even when I flirt with them its like im barely making fun of them. I tend to be way better at talking be via text/IM and NOT face to face, that is my only weakness. However my biggest problems is with girls reading me wrong. There is ALWAYS a girl that likes me that I find very unattractive/annoying or I just dont want to get involved with them and I cant get them to get off of me. Then there are the girls I tend to think of as my friends and some of them are pretty hot but I dont want to start anything w/ them but they always act back at me flirting. Next are the girls I like and want a chance at and I talk to them often and flirt with them and then when we are at school or lunch she wont even attempt to talk to me unless I bring something up to her.....Uhh what the hell is wrong with me, I am not ugly-I would consider myself decent, and there are always girls complaining about their ex's who they just went out w/ because they thought they were hot, I am a really nice guy and people cant see that, What am I doing wrong?
I feel stuck in life, what am I doing wrong?
You’re most probably focusing on the lack of what you want.That’s what 99% of humanity does, because it’s easier to see and get caught up on what’s missing in your life than focusing on how you would really want it to be.It’s easier to see that you don’t like your job, your car, your life, than focusing on what would a new car, house or a new life feel like.The moment you start giving attention to how it feels to have what you really, truly, deeply desire, and you start being more positive about everything around you, that’s the moment you release resistance for the things you want to come into your own experience.So, instead of thinking, saying and writing “I’m not living the life that I want”, say, repeat every day, write and feel how the life you truly desire would look like.How is the house you are living in?How does your new car look and feel?How does it feel to have that job you always wanted or that man/woman by your side?What do you look like?How would your perfect life would look like?Imagine that, create the best version of your life. Create in you mind the life of your dreams.And every single day, in your spare time, before going to bed, in a traffic jam, walking down the street… just picture it and imagine yourself living it.It’s not magic. It won’t happen over night.It’s quantum physics, it’s universal law.We are what you think about, the beliefs we have, the mood, the attitude of our daily life, are what shape up our own reality.Think your life is better, believe it, picture it, feel it, and you’ll start to see manifestations of it improving every day.Stop the negativity, it’s shaping your world in the form that you do not want.Start being in charge of your thoughts, make them positive and good-feeling and everything will start to shape up the way you want it to be.The problem in this world is that people won’t believe they have full control, since they gave it up a long time ago, so they think it’s just some guru-like bullshit.It’s up to you to believe it and start changing your life for the better.Just focus on how you want your life to be and start enjoying it, even if it’s not there yet. IF you act like it’s already a reality for you, it will eventually be.Enjoy! ;)-Israel.
I can't get a boyfriend, what am I doing wrong?
Guys may be intimidated by you. Try to be more outgoing, even if that just means smiling at a guy- often that can be enough to show you're warm and friendly and convince him to talk to you.
What am i doing wrong? nothing is going my way. there always something.?
I'm a 22 yr old female and college senior. im a christian and don't go to church but i pray and read the bible every chance i get. my problem is no matter how hard i try nothing goes my way. ive been teased since kindergarten because im to dark (im Nigerian born here in the states) or im too smart. i kept my nose in the books anyway and been on the honor roll since junior high. but i never got a 4.0 GPA not once. I haven't had a boyfriend since every guy rather make fun of me or go after some light skinned girl with no brains who into hip pop and rap. they always say i'm to proper i talk like a white person. like its a sin to be black and talk proper English. my best friend died my sophomore year and i just felt like my whole world came crashing down and i wanted to quit but thanks to people who i didn't know and my friends i'm kept going to school. that same year i was diagnosed with schizophrenia and depression from loosing my friend. i prayed and prayed about getting through it and i have so far i have not had any bad schizophrenic episodes or depression episodes since 2008 and despite that i kept going to school. i got on the deans list 3 times with the Gpa's of 3.6,3.6,3.7 , but despite my grades i can't get an internship or real job where i have to a do an interview. the only jobs i had were summer youth employment from new York cities government and College Work study. I apply for jobs everywhere and pray that for once in my life i get a job and show people that i am just as capable of doing the position as someone who is experienced. i fell like no matter how much i try i don't get the results i want or looking for. i don't ask for much just a chance to prove what i have. And most importantly ti feel like just giving up believing in god and praying because i just feel worst as i don't get no response or change even though i try something new. I don't know what to do anymore
Boys, what am i doing wrong in the cowgirl position?
He shouldn't be slipping out, unless you're going up too high. Which you DO NOT want to do cuz if you don't catch yourself in time, you could land on him wrong and break his pecker. When you're going up and down just go up a little bit, so he's about half way out of you. As far as him not making noise, that's okay. Some guys just aren't vocal in the sack.
I can’t seem to get girls, and I don’t know why. What am I doing wrong?
Probably trying too hard. Learn a lot about something. Learn a lot about anything. Get good at a few things. People will like you and be interested in anything you are passionately about and can talk about intelligently for a long while.Next talk more about the woman. Ask them questions. Get them to prove how interesting they are to you. Act like you don’t care about them and you will draw them in.Third … asses your honest number 1–10 on the dateability scale and don’t aim higher than yourself. Although you can cometimes aim high and score. At 10pm I’d aim for a 10 and then each hr drop your number. By 1 or 2 am you are aiming for 5’s but maybe you are a 5 and atleast if you score with a few ugly or fat woman you will raise your confidence.4th confidence wins all wars. If you act weird or goofy or shy then you aren’t projecting confidence.5 … if you are decent looking then go to a nice dance hall club and set there with a beer. The single ladies will find you. It will help if you can dance a little. I suggest learning Salsa, Texas Two step, and maybe a little hip hop. If you can be fun then people will like you.6. Learn some street jokes … making people laugh is a useful talent. Little Johnny Jokes or Dad jokes are amusing.7. don’t take bar games too seriously. If people aren’t very good at something like darts or bowling or pool then let them take a few extra shots and don’t worry about keeping score … then gamble for kisses … it’s a nice ice breaker.8. If you have no ability to follow any of my previously stated courteous manners for getting a girl then you can just go all out creeper and scare woman into spending time with you. Fear is a powerful drug … a cool car, a motorcycle, or strait up threats of violence will tend to work pretty well but might get you shot or thrown in jail but usually if you are good at being scary woman don’t want to fk with you and will let you do whatever you want with them.9. I like food myself and most other people do too so offer to cook dinner with them on a first or second date. Should always have some sort of food on a date. Who wants to talk to strangers on an empty stomach.