Why do I avoid my friends?
well, it depends on your level of low self esteem...not that many people have low self esteem, and as for the people that do, some have more then others...anyway, dropping out of school screwed your life up big time, i would of just finished it with good grades and got a successful career that doesn't talk to anybody....but you have anxiety, u get anxious when u start to talk to people and your grammar might be screwed up and your confidence might drop cause u may think they don't like u, its usually a genetic thing, but as for the rest of your life, i wish u good luck in trying to find a career. 90% of jobs require communicating, so if i were you, i would learn to look past it and just remind yourself that nothing will go wrong unless you make it go wrong
What are some of the reasons your friends avoid having you around?
As a person, I am very introspective. So usually, I am mostly by myself. It's not that I don't like company of others, its just that I don't really like meaningless conversations. Usually, I just try to have a good time with my friends, talking about topics which relate to us.However, I suppose the main issue with me is that I'm too sceptical about making new friends, and that distances me from my friends when they're with people that I'm unaware of.
What are reasons why a guy avoids eye contact?
Q1- there just a few reasons why a guy would avoid eye contact. 1) There was an awkward situation between the two of you at some point 2) He thinks you are Absolutely hideous and cant stand to look at you. (obviously not this if y'all lock eyes occasionally) 3) He knows you like but does not feel the same so when you look at him so it makes him feel uncomfortable.( again if y'all do occasionally lock eyes this is not why he avoids eye contact) 4) He likes you and is not sure if you like him so when you look at him he feels the same way i bet you would if he looked at you and you didn't know if he liked you. 5) He likes you and knows you like him but is not sure and when you look at him it makes him think of the possibility of y'all dating which makes him feel nervous, anxious and a little shy. (I think this is most likely if y'all lock eyes) 6) Also if y'all lock eyes he could look away the next time he sees being afraid of it happening again because it makes him fell nervous so he avoids it to avoid feeling that way.(still he likes you) Q2-Yes ^^read the above^^ Q3- read 5, he just feels nervous, BTW- he could also not be 100% sure you like him so either tell him you do or ask him to do something with you, if you ask him on a "date" and he likes he will then start asking you to do stuff with him. You may not have to do this it just makes it easy for a guy that is shy.
Would you avoid your friend if you are meeting her after a long time?
Alright, so everyone is different on this, but I am just going to say how I feel. I am a very socially awkward and shy person, which makes it hard for me to fit in sometimes and meet up with friends or even make friends.When I was in eighth grade, my mom was contacted by one of my old friends from first and second grade. When we were little, we were best friends, and spent most of our time together. I eventually moved schools, and yeah I missed my friend, but I got over it and just did my own thing. When my mom told me in eigth grade that my friend wanted to see me again, I didn’t know what to say. I though it was a bit sudden. I told my mom that i didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but I knew it was going to be weird meeting up with my old friend. She made arrangements for me anyway( I was to shy to contact my friend myself) , and my friend came over to my house. I remember hiding in my room for the first twenty minutes, holding my door closed as I listened to the conversations goin on outside. My parents made me come out, and the whole visit was just so awkward, and I knew it would be. I stayed quiet the whole time, even though I already am quiet, It was like awkward silence, as my friend tried to ask questions. This is just my personal experience. I was never good at being social, and I never will be. That was the last time we met up, and I honestly don’t feel anything about it. I wasn’t trying to ignore or get rid of anyone. So yes I would avoid meeting up with an old friend.
What should you do if you're avoiding a friend and you don't know why?
This has happened to me repeatedly. You have to ask yourself one thing: Am I avoiding him today simply because I avoided him yesterday. An “avoidance bubble” of sorts. In other words, are you feeling so much shame about avoiding your friend that that it’s preventing you from reaching out today. If the answer is “no” then move onto the next paragraph.Something is wrong. Your body and mind are telling you to stay away. You can do some self-enquiry and start listing reasons why your mind might be telling you to stay away, but your mind might not answer. Your body and mind might be keeping it a secret. But respect the secret. Don’t force it. You are a busy person. If you’re body is telling you, “this person is bad for you right now. Stay away.” Then after briefly considering the reasons why this might be, take the advice: stay away.Note: I answer this and similar questions in http://www.jamesaltucher.com/cat...
How do you avoid lending money to friends who cannot take no for an answer?
from: 10 Guilt-Free Strategies for Saying NoSaying No for the Sake of Your WalletRequest: A friend in need asks for a Trump-worthy loan.What you should say: "I wish I could, but as a rule, I don't lend money to friends."Why it works: It's clear that you are not singling out this person as untrustworthy.Why you shouldn't feel guilty: Lending any amount of money can cause problems, says communications trainer Don Gabor. "It can change the nature of your relationship if the person doesn't pay you back."How to avoid the situation in the future: Never lend money to friends and you won't get a reputation as a walking, breathing ATM.also visit: How to Refuse Lending Money to Family & Friends& 10 Reasons Why You Should NOT Lend Money to Friends & Family
How do you avoid becoming a friends with benefits relationship?
I met this guy that I really like and we had one date. I felt like we really hit it off so we messed around (not sex) before I went home that night. Now I am back at school 2500 miles away. We still text and stuff but he only seems into the conversation if it is about sexual things. He has said that he wants to hang out when I get home but I think he just wants to mess around. How can I turn this around? I'd much prefer a relationship with him over fwb...