What are some good arguments against spanking?
Spanking is assault. Regardless how people sugarcoat it by claiming it "discipline." If a man cannot assault his wife, why should an adult be allowed to assault their child? Spanking only causes the child depression, anxiety, aggression and even anti-social behavior. Spanking is still being used by the majority of parents today but many people claim that "kids these days are unruly." Obviously, spanking doesn't work. There are better ways that doesn't involve having to inflict pain on children. Children are not property of their damn parents to be smacked around because parents deemed "necessary." It shouldn't be necessary to hit children. Discipline is to teach, Hitting is not. It's assault.
What is the best argument against spanking children?
What is the best argument against spanking children?You are teaching your children that violence is an acceptable solution to one’s problems.It is completely reactive. Nothing worthwhile is taught, and certainly nothing worthwhile is learned.A lot of the time, spanking is a way for the parent to work out his or her personal frustrations — at the child’s expense.It’s entirely negative, and it instills a sense of fear in the child.It doesn’t work.
Why are people against spanking their kids these days when some people still use that as a punishment?
People are against or for spanking for various reasons. This is mostly due to different views on parenting, but it's also due to lack of understanding in the fact that every child needs a different parenting method. And that goes for both sides in the argument.Many people who are against spanking feel that it's abuse. They feel that you shouldn't lay a hand on other people except in defense of yourself or others.Many people who are still for spanking either refuse to use critical thinking and patience to expand their parenting skills to fit the crime or the needs of their child (aka lazy parenting) or they simply strongly believe that a parent owns a child in every way and that the only way to parent is through fear.And then there are some people who are still for spanking but in moderation and depending on the child. They feel that spanking is simply over used as a punishment and often does not fit the crime or the child's parenting needs.The sad fact is that some children do not respond to anything except a spanking and putting some fear in them, because they think they are above you and everyone else in the world. They think they're invincible until you show them otherwise or show that you're not going to let things slide. They push and push to see how far they can go and absolutely nothing else works with them except spanking.Grounding? They'll sneak about and eventually learn to enjoy the solitude. Take things away? They'll learn to lose interest in it. A reasonable talking to? In one ear and out the other.A huge problem in parenting in general (and with the various views on it) is that people get lazy and closed minded. They don't take the time to understand the child and the situation. They want to parent on a whim. Even those who are against spanking don't always or ever parent properly. They're still capable of going overboard with punishment and choosing a method that doesn't fit the crime or child.
Why are some parents scared of spanking their kids???
What will happen is that parent will have child care services called on them. Then the child will be taken away and you face jail time. Blame it on society.
Opinions on Spanking Children?
I consider spanking to be the nuclear option. When nothing else is working or it is a very serious infraction I'll use it. I hate doing it. Only had to once or twice with my kids. Time-outs are sufficient for them mostly. There is a personality type that you have to swat though. I was one of those when I was young. I've always had a defiant personality, it was terrible when I was young. Time-outs didn't work, groundings were ineffective, reasoning didn't work as I always thought I was right. As a child you often have no context to understand adult reasoning. Even if you do understand I always figured that that was their theory and I would see if it was different for me. The only thing that could keep me in check was the threat of force. I'm glad my parents swatted me. Nowadays they tell people to drug kids like I was. I turned into a completely functional and well-adjusted adult because my parents found an effective method of discipline and used it. If that method is swats, so be it. Anyone who says swats are NEVER appropriate has never experienced a child like I was. Thinking in absolutes is a terrible way to be anyways. It's straight up unrealistic. It's pointless to ask this question on this particular board though. Whenever you have a question for this board just think of the hippiest response you can come up with. That'll be the majority consensus. Parenting enthusiasts (generally) go with the trends. The trend is currently "peace, love, and happiness maaaaaaaaan." I'm not saying that the method is completely without merit, but let's keep our feet firmly planted on the ground.
Why are people against spanking badly behaved kids?
I’m against spanking “badly behaved” kids for two reasons: because punishment doesn’t work and because there is no such thing as badly behaved kids.Kids are people. When kids do something that isn’t what we expect of them, this is either because they don’t know how to do it any better, they can’t help themselves or because they have a need.Smart parents work toward teaching their kids how to make thoughtful decisions. The only way you can teach thoughtfulness is by letting them experiment and then let them deal with the natural consequences of their choices.When I say that punishment doesn’t work, it’s not because it won’t cull the behavior the parents’ want to stop. It often will! But it will not teach the kid why they are wrong nor will it give them tools to deal with their emotions. It also won’t teach them how to make better choices in the future.All punishment teaches is that you better not be caught and that people that are stronger than you can use such force.The best teaching tools are indeed natural consequences. When the parents are trying to help their kids and not being roadblocks, kids can thrive a lot better than if the parents are just saying “no” to everything and hitting them when they fail.Sure, not using spanking or punishment is a lot harder and time-consuming. But it creates a better relationship between parents and their children, and it helps to raise human beings that are less prone to use violence as a tool for fulfilling their needs.Be a positive presence in your child’s life. Teach them how to cope with their emotions. Show them that yes, there are boundaries in life and society. Help them reach their potential. And don’t punish them — always let them face the consequences of their choices, but don’t hit your children.
Spanking vs. Not Spanking?
I'm doing an argument essay and I want a few peoples opinions on spanking (or not spanking) Are you a parent? If so would you (or do you) spank? Do you also use other methods to teach your children if so? Do you feel spanking teaches violence? If not a parent how do you feel about spanking? And any other fews you have on the topic as well. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. P.S....I am also a parent (who is back in school) and I do spank (or have spanked...my kids are too old now) but I have also used other methods as well.