How do YOU define gossiping & spreading rumors?
I agree with Alma Lou. It all depends on how you say it, and to who you say it to. The big question you have to ask yourself really is: does it matter if you're right about what you are saying, or does it matter more if people perceive you as being gossipy? People will think what they want whether you're right or not, and there's not much you can do but take action to change your own behaviour and hopefully get that stigma off of you. I really don't want this to sound like I think you're wrong, because you're probably not. Just, being right is not as great as it's cracked up to be sometimes.
How do I deal with people lying about me spreading rumors about a girl (I'm a guy)?
If possible, talk to the girl whose been hurt by gossip/whatever. In person, privately, but in public, if possible. If not a good idea for public, then go for coffee somewhere else.Decide together how to deal with the gossip, if possible. Everyone else is just gabbling and babbling and causing hurt. If what she thinks is even partly true, then tell her. If you know who did start gossip, tell her that.Until it gets to admin, the solution is between the two of you, privately. If you did help spread a rumor, then confess your part.
Teen Daughter Help? Rumors going around...?
There's been some rumors going around about my 15 year old daughter saying that she sleeps around and that she was pregnant by her ex boyfriend but she had a miscarriage. She has come home crying every day after school for the past week. I've already called the counselor but she can only handle so much at once. She can't track down every single person in the school and tell them "hey, that's not true", and so the rumors are still flying. The main reason that they are going around though is because her best friend and her got in a fight and her best friend started telling people this. My daughter wants to change schools because she feels like she has no friends and that everybody hates her and thinks that she is a slut. Should I consider changing my daughter's school? Or should I wait it out a little bit longer? I hate seeing her so upset all the time, so I don't really want to make her wait, but it takes so much time and effort to change schools. What should I do?
What should I do about an ex-friend spreading ugly rumours within our work industry?
Isolde Locke is right. He’s a self-hating degenerate.As far as what to do about it, OM Singh is correct, you can try to resolve it like a rational human being if you so choose. Some people are horrible creatures, though, and will stop at nothing to cut your throat professionally. This person may be one of those.If Mr. Singh’s rational option fails, you may not have any other recourse than to catch this life-destroyer outside of a bar with a ski mask, heavy gloves, and some brass knuckles and whip ’em like a yard dog. Worried about your hand-to-hand skills? Don’t be. Take a tube sock and put a couple of handfuls of quarters in it to take the initial edge off. Forehead works best. After they show up at work looking like they survived a car crash, just lean on them socially whenever nobody is looking. If they get smarmy, just lean in real close and ask them quietly if they would like to go to [Insert Location of Earlier Ass-Beating] and ‘get a drink later.’ Give whatever cheekbone you gave the most hell to a good, firm pinch.Offer to give them a ride home with a squint and a smile.Yes, yes. Violence is wrong, it never solves anything (lie). Sometimes it’s the last logical step in reminding people that there are consequences to their actions.[Or, you could report them to Human Resources, get a copy of the complaint, get a lawyer that will collect statements from co-workers and sue the piece of garbage for slander and anything else the lawyer can think of. That’s less rational human being, and more tired-of-your-shit. You won’t need to beat any ass, because the first thing your job is going to do is fire your antagonist, because it opens them up to a lawsuit with a Human Resources complaint already on file against them. It will make your company look negligent in the suit, and they won’t risk that. Off you go, slanderer. ]*Not a Doctor.**Not Entirely Serious.[-] Actual Advice.INB4: pacifists, hippies, Jesus and wusses: Don’t care, don’t waste your time with a comment.
What do you think of those colleagues who spread unverified news about your company? Are they reliable?
If an employee is spreading what amounts to gossip about their company, that would indicate to me that they are not reliable.In most companies there are procedures in place to report wrong-doings or suspicious activity about their company. There is also legal protection for whistle-blowers if what they are reporting is unethical, illegal or dangerous. That doesn’t mean that all companies follow the rules/laws - some end up being prosecuted for punishing the whistle-blowers.If the unverified news is of a damaging nature that will hurt the company, I can’t imagine why someone still working there would hurt their own source of employment and income.The only reason someone still working at the company would pass on unverified rumors about their employer is-revenge. They hate their employer and/or fellow employees but haven’t quit or been fired yet.-lack of self-control. They can’t keep a secret and love spreading gossip, especially if they can be the first to tell it to someone.-concern that the rumor reveals illegal, unethical and/or dangerous practices. They want what they’ve heard to stop and by spreading the gossip hope someone else will hear and step up to stop it, if it’s going on.-amusement. They want to see the fallout from the gossip, whether it is true or not because they find it entertaining.If someone was spreading gossip about my company, I would have a private meeting and ask them about it. Depending on their answer,, the veracity of the gossip and their reasons for spreading it, they could find themselves fired at the end of it.
Why is my coworker spreading lies about me, they’ve also spread rumours about me sleeping with my manager which is not true. What do I do?
You should do what my company does. All three people would be called in to meet with the boss. First, the accuser relates what was said and by whom. Then, the accused answers the accuser and presents a defense, if applicable. The boss then issues an edict based on the testimony of both employees. The objective is to neutralize any animosity and restore to a harmonious workplace. Good luck!