Does my wife need an military ID to use Tricare?
this is true. but before you enroll her in tricare you have to get her into the system first if she isnt already. she is in the system if you have already enrolled her and your daughter in DEERS. DEERS is the system they use to keep track of you, your benefits (like insurance, use of base and so on). To get your family into DEERS you need to have your marriage cert, your wives and childs birth cert, and their ss cards. Your wife will need to go with you because she will end up getting an photo id. your child will not need one until she is 10. but she will be in the system. After you get them enrolled in DEERS then you can enroll them in tricare. You also need to decide if you want tricare standard or tricare prime. tricare prime, you have no out of pocket expensive, but you can not pick your doctor. you are assigned a PCM (primary care manager). tricare standard, you pay a % of out of pocket but you do get to chose your PCM. if your child or wife have health issues you might want go go prime. even children's shots can add up. a lot of people choose standard because they are weary of military doctors. so they want to be in control of their care. your wife will need the id for EVERYTHING. it is her insurance card, lets her get on base to use the facilities and much more. it is the most important id she will ever have.
If a military members spouse has major surgery, will the member get any "free" leave to help the spouse?
He will be authorized to take emergency or ordinary leave, and they are both chargeable, unfortunately. He may request Permissive Temporary Duty (PTDY) for 10 days, and that doesn't count against his leave time. In order for him to get PTDY, the physician or Military Treatment Facility must issue a statement that his presence is necessary for care etc during your recovery time. (Same as a medical attendant PTDY) His personnel flight can help you determine how best to get him there for the longest period, minimizing the impact on his leave balance.
New military wife needing help on how to enroll in D.E.E.R.S.?
I was able to get my ID without my husband present because he filled out DD Form 1172 (Application for Uniformed Services Identification Card). I don't know if there would be a way for him to obtain one of those and get it to you, or not. Other than that, you'll have to get a Power of Attorney to act on his behalf. As far as appointments, find the number for the local office, call and find out, just in case. At some posts I've been to (as an Army brat), no appointment was needed. Coming over here (as an Army wife), it was a little frustrating to go in, only to find out that THIS particular office required appointments, even if there was no one else getting ID cards at the time. You do not have to change your last name to his before you go down there. Of course your maiden name with be on the ID, but he will be listed as your sponsor on your card, and it will display that you are, indeed his spouse. Personally speaking, I don't have my husband's last name yet for a couple of reasons, and EVERYONE on post grilled me about it, especially the ID card people and the Tricare office...like I didn't know I hadn't taken his name yet. Even some of the military wives get pissy about it. It would be easier for you to take it, just to avoid the BS comments, but its definitely not a requirement. I know that as soon as you take care of your ID stuff, you're automatically enrolled in Tricare Standard. Most people complete, like, two minutes of extra paperwork and enroll in Tricare Prime. Ask where the Tricare office is to drop off that paperwork, if you choose to enroll in Prime. Prime does not become effective immediately, but when you drop if off, the representative should tell you what facilities on post you can use in the meantime, and how to use off post doctors. I do have to agree with everyone else, though: get to know the chain of command and your hubby's unit's FRG (made up of spouses and other dependents). They will not only be able to get you specialized information, the numbers you need, and all that, but they will definitely be a good support network while your husband is gone, providing not only some sort of solace, but up-to-date information about what's going on with the unit. Sorry for being so longwinded! Good luck to you, and congratulations!
What does it mean if you dream of your husband dying?
What heralds the death of her husbandIt is very important, trying to understand, after the dream of her husband's death, to what it is, to remember who exactly became the culprit of the death. If the dreamer is a dreamer, the interpretation of the dream changes radically. Probably, the pair started serious problems, which are still ignored by both work. But you should not let the situation run its course, so you can even imperceptibly reach the final and irrevocable separation. Therefore, it is better to start correcting it as soon as possible. It is worth noting that the dream under discussion also suggests that the most likely problem is the woman. Therefore, it is up to her to start fixing everything. A man will certainly support this spouse. To wait for the first step from him is useless.Death of a husband in a dream as a result of an accident foreshadows the separation of spouses. Especially, if the girl does not experience any discomfort, does not worry and does not suffer. But there's no need to try to fix this situation somehow. All the same, nothing can be done. The best way is to treat her philosophically and understand that lovers are not meant to be together. Then each of them will meet his soul mate. And to delay with meaningless relationships is not worth it.If in real life the spouse has long since left for another world, then in no case can one ignore the husband's death seen in a dream. What is the result of such a dream is hard to say unequivocally, but most likely, it directly sends a message from the lost second half for the girl. For example, a husband can warn her about a possible serious danger, or ask how to enter one or another
My Ex-wife is putting my name on medical bills?
My ex and I seperated in April 2007 while I was in Iraq. Our divorce was finalized in September 2008. She has a son that I did not adopt and we have a 7 year old daughter. Since the seperation I have recieved 4 medical bills for herself or her son totaling over $3,000.00. 2 of the bills are before the divorce and the 2 biggest are after. After the first 2 bills I contacted the hospital and informed them of the situation and they refused to remove my name from the bills. They have since gone to collection agencys and I still refuse to pay. I also informed the hospital not to accept my name from her on anymore bills. They did anyway and now I have 2 more dated after the divorce was finalized. I can't afford an attorney and I am not sure what to do. She seems to walk on water and I get the shaft.
New army wife has questions about moving to her hubby's duty station?
ok lets take this one step at a time. your husband is at his duty station. HI which is considered states but also a "tour" cause it isn't one of the 48 states. so he can ask for sponsorship. which really means nothing other than they know you are coming. can take days. can take weeks. all depends on how good his unit is. yes you have been an acquired dependent. as the army does not move dependents. just soldiers. so if you join him it will be on your dime. however when he goes to PCS , or move again. then they will take you too. so you really just pay to join him the first time. now. he is not allowed to live in the barrakes once he is married. however some units over look this. so as long as they allow it, then so be it. he can make the BAH rate in HI or IA... (use HI it is WAY higher) moving on to tricare. you don't have to wait for him. you can do it yourself. is their any military base near by? and i have NO idea what you are talking about as a stamp. just take your records with you. once he turns in the marriage lic. it will take about 30 days to see it on his pay, but he will be back paid from the day you got married. so that will be a nice little extra chunk.... about enough for a plane ticket. oh and if he is from IA and HI was his first duty station and he did not ship house hold goods to HI. then they will still do a pick up in IA when he PCS's. so if you want to put your stuff in storage and wait. you can do that too. so welcome to the ranks of the army wife. i hope i have answered all your questions. if not just email me.
Why should a girl not marry an Indian Army personnel?
Well, this question not only sounded interesting but being a Fauji wife myself, I could not hold myself back from giving a message to all those girls who are keen to marry an officer but have no clues whatsoever about what life they are signing themselves into. Here's why you shouldn't marry an Officer from the Armed Forces.A girl should never marry an Officer if her idea of military and Fauji Life is hugely influenced by Bollywood movies like Jab Tak Hai Jaan where the girl is hanging through a bridge to see him in action while the officer is defusing the bomb.A girl should never marry a Fauji Afsar if separation is too hard for her to handle even when she can live a comfortable life and party with friends and he has to live 16000 ft above sea level where everything is white and frozen and the only human touch is either fellow uniformed men or the enemy from across the border. But still she thinks, it's hard for HER and she is lonely.If she wants to have a stable city life, full of luxuries then she shouldn't marry an officer because he has a transferable job and some postings will be in the remote corners of the country where she may not have Zara s and Steve Maddens or Taj s and Oberoi s. If these names matter to her a lot in life, she should not marry an Officer from Armed Forces.A girl should not marry an officer if she doesn't derive pleasure in small things like trying something new to cook, meeting new people, learning new crafts, exploring small towns, decorating house with DIY projects. Because Fauii Wives are a lot of kick-ass ladies who can have their share of fun even in jungles and mountains.A girl should never marry an Officer if she faces problems adapting to a new environment, if she is too fussy about your 'Own' bed and pillow kind of things.A girl should never marry an Officer, if she thinks they are just show-pieces in uniform to flaunt in your social circle. If she can't understand his passion for his motherland and his love for the uniform he dons, she can never be a Fauji Wife and heading for a marriage disaster. It's better she doesn't marry him and lets another woman take over who knows exactly what he feels about his country.(You can have tiny glimpses of my life at The Making of a Lady Wife )
Getting My Husband/Soldier back from Deployment for the birth of our 1st child..?
We found out we were expecting our little boy in November...at the time we were also planning and adjusting to his upcoming deployment (then) that is now current. Our Due Date is August 1st, but i have a wonderful doctor that said if i cant trigger the natural labor and birth i want she will induce us, when my husband gets his leave. He had talked to his command and them being fathers as well said they would do anything and everything possible to get him home for the birth of our son. They said he will be given top priority on choosing his leave also, he was planning on doing it July 27th through August 10th i believe that's 2 weeks. The other night i was on skype with him and some guy made an announcement to the whole room and i could hear it and see the look on my husbands face. The guy said nobody was going to get their leave until they were in the country for 2 months and then they would have to come home in 4's so it would have to be decided as a group. 2 months falls exactly on August 28, 27 days after our due date. I have contacted the American Red Cross asking for their help on getting him back on Emergency Leave for the birth, because at our Yellow Ribbon Event the Representative for the red cross said that they would be able to get him home on emergency leave for the birth, being that it is an emergency and life changing event. Well the "Director" in Jefferson City said the only thing they can do is send him a birth announcement or give him a message if im having complications. I am doing a natural birth and need him there for my support and encouragement and because it is the birth of our first child. I do not plan to give birth without him. I have decided to write to the Governor, The President and whoever else i have too. My other choice is to keep this baby in until my husband can be here or go overseas to Afghanistan myself and have our baby together over there. So i will greatly appreciate it, if anyone who has had experience with this kind of situation or knows any information that can help me out, I will greatly appreciate it.