I am very self conscious..?
i have a problem i look in the mirror everyday and alot too. i'm just so caught up with thinking one minute i look pretty the next i'm ugly as hell. i've been dealing with thi for a while now and i literally feel depressed when i'm out and i feel ugly or think ppl are giving me dirty looks because they think i'm ugly. yeah my aunts tell me no ur not ugly and so does my bestfriend but i can't really see it. then to top it off my mother has called me ugly so many times so i figure if she can say that it must be true . i feel like i'm never gonna grow out of this clothes hairstyles are temporary and even tehn i sometimes still feel ugly what can i do??
Why am I so self-conscious?
Because you think your value and worth as a person comes from what other people think of you. You may be doing this indirectly by tying your self-worth to intangible objects or goals, or your incorrect ideas what such things are or imply; things like money, grades, beauty, popularity, a girl/boyfriend. For example you may believe by observing rich people who are happy(or appear to be) by incorrect association that money brings happiness, or you cannot be happy without money. Feel free to replace money with any other item on my list or anything you would want to add. This idea, held by a lot of people, is wrong. Things, objects, and achievements don't bring happiness. If any, it will be temporary, after which life goes back to normal. Even having a girl/boyfriend (by my guess without any experience) does not bring happiness or satisfaction by itself. They would just be other human beings with their own different life and problems, which you can share. So the point I'm trying to drive home is this-Gaining this thing which you think you lack and others have, this thing which you feel is the reason people look down on you or don't appreciate you, Will not change who you are, as a person.You will just be the same person holding this mysterious intangible thing you believe to be the key to everyone liking and accepting you. You will be the exact same person, just with this thing you hold so dear, and there is no reason people should view you any differently than they already did. If anything, it is that thing that they will value not you.And if they did treat you completely differently because of this thing, they probably never understood or appreciated you for what you were in the first place, so you shouldn't care about their opinions. Why? Because the only thing that should make you feel confident about yourself is you.Not any superfluous, intangible or materialistic thing. Realise your own worth. Realise what parts of your personality are valuable. What you would do that those people whose opinion you hold so high wouldn't. And take what you value and work for it, gaining glories out of sweat and blood. Things which you would be proud of. Doing such things, and recognising your own worth truly is what leads to true confidence. Realise your worth truly and you would never care about others opinions and would wonder why you did in the first place.
How can I stop being so self-conscious?
I can't hang out with people because I'm constantly worrying about what they think of me. So I keep to myself mostly so I won't get that uncomfortable feeling within me. But that's not a very nice way to live. What would you recommend for a person with low self-esteem like me?
How can I stop being so self-conscious?
I used to be really self-conscious, always worrying about what others are thinking me, and afraid of embarrassing myself; which resulted in me being too shy and totally unconfident.There are two things that broke me out of the shell. Even though I'm still tend to be self-conscious at times, I’ve gotten a lot better.You aren't the only oneBelieve it or not, everyone is self-conscious to some degree. Everyone out there is always thinking about what others think of them, some even obsess about it.So what? This means that nobody is really paying attention to you!Even if you did embarrass yourself, they might pay attention to you for a while, and before you know it, they are back to their own self-conscious world and forgot about you.We are all designed to be conscious of ourselves, not others.What about others gossiping behond your back? We all have people bad-mouthing us at our backs, that is merely a sign of self-consciousness as they are trying to belittle others just to feel better about themselves.This simple realisation made is a wake up call to me, and whenever I start feeling self-conscious, I always remind myself that everyone else is self-conscious too, and probably wouldn't care too much about me.Progressive DesensitisationHow do you train yourself to be more courageous and less self-conscious?Embarass yourself on purpose! Seriously getting embarass is no big deal. The more you face embarrassing situations, the more you'll realise embarrassment is nothing threatening and you'll feel less threatened. In fact you'll also start to learn to not take yourself seriously and laugh at yourself.I remember back then I deliberately chat to strangers on the street, let it turn cold and walk away in embarrassment. My friend and I also hit the bars at night to get rejected by girls, the most painful form of embarrassment. It was painful at first, but after a while, I became desensitised to it.There are also plenty of really good advises here, so just practice for a while and keep at it, and you'll reduce your self-consciousness!
How do you stop being self-conscious?
stop caring about what other people think of you.
Why am i so Self-conscious about my smell?
I have no body smell, if it's anything, it's in a good way because of shampoo and soap. But I'm really self-conscious being near people or walking past them like going between 2 people in a room or class desks because I'm scared I smell bad. But I've asked everyone and I have no smell, I don't understand, how do I stop this?
I am a very self-conscious girl. How do I stop being so conscious about myself?
Read the answer very patiently you will get your solution-1- Pinpointing Your Self-Conscious Triggers-Identify what you're self-conscious about. A certain aspect of your appearance? The twitch in your eye? Your accent? Your disability (mental or physical)? Your intellectual abilities? Make a list of your triggers.Leave an empty column next to the list, so that after identifying your triggers, you can write actions you can take to minimize your self-conscious feelings in relation to each item.2- Challenge negative thoughts. Self-consciousness often stems from our worry that others will confirm our negative self-talk or fixate on those things about which we feel insecure. If your negative thoughts tell you you're overweight, and you believe them, then you're going to feel deeply hurt and self-conscious if someone says you should drop a couple pounds.This is because your negative thoughts have convinced you that you are overweight and that being overweight is bad.When those negative thoughts come, don't fight them, but don't accept them, either. Instead, act as thought the thought has proposed something utterly ridiculous, such as "You are a flying unicorn," something you don't believe to be true, nor do you believe to be a bad thing.Do a "mental shrug," saying, "Yeah, whatever, brain."